Why does he hide his story from me?

[Anonymous]

Me and this guy have been on and off with each other until he gradually faded away. I drunk texted him during Christmas and it seems we felt the same way about each other. He has been viewing my stories massively for the last couple of weeks but when I decided to stop watching his and move on, he stopped watching mine as well. Now I notice he is hiding his stories from me but don't get it since I never disturbed him or sent any reactions to them, in fact I even stop watching them to give him space and distance. I am kind of hurt but not sure if this is his way of manipulating me into missing him and chasing him back, cause I had always been initiating conversations. I was also thinking to hide my stories from him as an attempt to move on. Would that also be a way of testing my reaction? His profile is public so that's why I didn't think to remove him. If he doesn't want any interaction he could have blocked or removed me since he made the effort to actually adjust his settings to hide his story from me.

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+1 y

I only contacted him during Christmas after five months of not talking to each other, and I feel awful cause I really didn't want to just had lots od drinks and couldn't think straight.

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+1 y

He just unhide the story from me

[boggboss]

You two clearly have a history of playing games so he is just continuing that

[Asker]

I have to admit that you are correct. I was just about to do the same.. I guess it's toxic being both manipulative.

[boggboss]

Yes u both are just cut it off stop playing with your lives and feelings

[Asker]

I don't know I got tired from all this playing is correct. It's just we never openly admitted anything then in my drunk messages I was teasing him and he kind of admitted missing me but after that felt into the abyss

[boggboss]

Because drunk texting is a cheep cope out clearly neither had the balls to say how u felt meh

[Asker]

It's partly my fault cause I was into playing games with him a lot and it backfired. I personally don't have the guts to admit it to him it's clearly affecting me how much I like him but will never give him the power by saying that especially if he is not willing to share that either.

[boggboss]

Then this will also be a problem in future relationships but meh

[Asker]

Could it be that we are both narcissists and wanted to have the power in all this?

[boggboss]

Or both too scared to be vulnerable to the other and showed u care more likely then not o dont belive 1 can just be narcissistic and then not

[Asker]

I do care and I like him but I'm scared to make the step, then I did the one wrong action after the other. Now it's clear that we are playing games and don't know if I can put it behind and start from scratch

[boggboss]

Most cases u can't once the damage is done that can't just be erased

[Asker]

So I should just let it go since we are not good for each other. I was just about to do the same but he outsmart me

[boggboss]

How did he outsmart you

[Asker]

I was thinking to hide my stories first from him

[boggboss]

So by continuing to play games he somehow beat you?

[Asker]

Don't know if this related with who is having the power or deliberately wanting to hurt me.

[boggboss]

Meh sure thing

[Asker]

What will be the best approach to get over the whole situation? I was thinking to do the same but I don't want to give in his games

[boggboss]

Just block him and move on actully move on dont do it because u want his attention do it so u can forget

[Avicenna]

It’s no big deal. It’s just his way of saying he wants no interaction

[Asker]

We already had no interaction, he was watching mine and I stopped watching his. Just seems to me way out of way to state no interaction

[MJackson1234]

You need to move on. He hid it because he didn't want you to see something that he doesn't want you to see. This whole we are on and off thing never works out. Usually just gives you a sense of a safety blanket. Focus on something real and cut contact.

[Iron_Man]

he's a private person

[Asker]

I get it and truth is he might be but we have been on each other's feed for a while and didn't mind that before, now all of a sudden he hides his story right after I stopped watching them.

[Iron_Man]

What are you going to do?

[Asker]

Nothing, I didn't plan to do anything regardless, since I stopped watching, just needed to detox from the situation.

[Iron_Man]

OK then MoveOn

[Asker]

I also thought to do hide them before from him cause it was making me anxious checking if he watched it, so I understand why he might did it and I really hope both we move on and leave games behind.

[Iron_Man]

Good luck

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Iron_Man]

Sure...

[Nesetto]

I don't know.

[Asker]

Well me neither. It's not offending me in any way but it does hurt me not knowing if its done maliciously to test me or manipulate me or wants me to get the hint and not initiate anything ever again. I will proceed as if nothing happened.