I have been seeing this guy now close to 3 months and we live about 1 1/2 hrs away from eachother but he has been making the effort to come see me each week.
We talk everyday sometimes all day even as we work. He is in his mid thirties and I'm in my late 20s. I do have a young child and he has never been with anyone that has a child.
He is the one that normally makes a point to ask if im talking to anyone else towards the beginning and states he isn't and that he is invested in only me (I never asked).
He did originally mention half way through dating he was torn and not sure what he wants but then says he wants me but mentions how he wishes we met before as in a few years back.
I understand it's a lot to take in, but I suggested we end things and he did not want to.
I notice he doesn't really plan dates and when he comes to my area recently he didn't want to go anywhere that people from our community might see us (same nationality and a lot of people look down on single mums)
Not sure if that's the reason but even when we go to the city he is more relaxed but hesitant to hold my hand etc.
I have mentioned this as I felt like I was being kept a secret and a bit used.
He just said he doesn't tell anyone anything until he is 100% sure when he is dating.
Also at the beginning I don't know if he didn't notice, but he did mention a lot of girls he previously hooked up with and tries to kind of get a reaction Or something out of me which I shut down.
Recently after having these talks he has stepped it up but the secret part still remains. Not sure what to think as he was the one at the beginning saying he doesn't want to use me etc and seems to get a bit jealous if other guys approach me.
Could I please get some clarity on what you think because I sometimes go to end it then he reassures me and I don't know what to think or if I'm over reacting.
We talk everyday sometimes all day even as we work. He is in his mid thirties and I'm in my late 20s. I do have a young child and he has never been with anyone that has a child.
He is the one that normally makes a point to ask if im talking to anyone else towards the beginning and states he isn't and that he is invested in only me (I never asked).
He did originally mention half way through dating he was torn and not sure what he wants but then says he wants me but mentions how he wishes we met before as in a few years back.
I understand it's a lot to take in, but I suggested we end things and he did not want to.
I notice he doesn't really plan dates and when he comes to my area recently he didn't want to go anywhere that people from our community might see us (same nationality and a lot of people look down on single mums)
Not sure if that's the reason but even when we go to the city he is more relaxed but hesitant to hold my hand etc.
I have mentioned this as I felt like I was being kept a secret and a bit used.
He just said he doesn't tell anyone anything until he is 100% sure when he is dating.
Also at the beginning I don't know if he didn't notice, but he did mention a lot of girls he previously hooked up with and tries to kind of get a reaction Or something out of me which I shut down.
Recently after having these talks he has stepped it up but the secret part still remains. Not sure what to think as he was the one at the beginning saying he doesn't want to use me etc and seems to get a bit jealous if other guys approach me.
Could I please get some clarity on what you think because I sometimes go to end it then he reassures me and I don't know what to think or if I'm over reacting.
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