In a social nature guys are taught to not express feelings of a deep nature. They are supposed to be tough and calculating. They are not supposed to show vulnerability or any type of weakness.
Some can go into deep conversations, but for even that it can be a huge deal and a large amount of trust for some guys. They don't want those vulnerabilities used against them at a later time.
You will find a fair amount of guys that don't know how to express their feelings. They feel the other person won't understand what they are trying to express, which can cause frustration for him.
So, it could be an insecurity for him or not knowing what to say. A way of getting around this is to be alone with him so he knows no one else can overhear the conversation. When he starts to get distant or distracted let it go for a moment so his anxiety can lower. Then go back to the topic by asking something along the lines of "I'm curious, why you feel/said ___?" It's a low level way of broaching the subject that is non threatening and gives him the option of passing on the question. He might open on some topics, but it may take a while to open up on others.
Hope that helps.
Some people, particularly quite a few men tend to not be big fans of anything that isn't casual, shoot-the-shit type of conversation. Getting into deep conversations can be draining and men tend to not want to open up and reveal an emotional side to people outside of a few selected. It's basically just how we're raised and what society assumes of us.
I think it's a big reason why men tend to want to befriend other men outside of just the lack of sexual complications. It's easier to BS about sports and pop culture or whatever then talk about life and family and whatnot. I also think it's a big reason why women often desire platonic male friendship more so than the other way around.
Deep like the origins and nature of dark matter, or deep as in does "why doesn't he remember our 20 weekiversary of our third date?
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Some guys don't have enough intelligence or education to go into deep conversations. Others by personality, have no interest in the same. There are guys who love deep conversations. However, you don't say what the deep conversations are about. Are the topics interesting? Also, if a guy just wants in your pants, then he may pretend to enjoy the deep conversation. Also, some guys who just want in your pants will avoid deep conversations, as they want a quick score, and don't want to work for it.
I would fall in love if I met a woman capable of deep conversation.
I think the reality is that most people are incapable of deep conversations. Men and women. I rarely meet people like that.
Not everyone is in to them it's not a matter of sex. It's not a sign of intelligence or not despite what people might tell you (or themselves).
I love deep conversations and find the same reaction from women when trying to have a deep conversation. They usually obstain from having them or back off when we start being passionate about the conversation (not in terms of arguing)
Maybe because he doesn't know what to do, some guys really don't know how to relay there feelings and they just distance themselves
I don’t wanna talk about it.
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