Does My Cousin Like Me?

[Anonymous]

My male cousin is 6 months younger than me but much bigger. He lives out of state but we basically grew up together. For a few years, I hadn’t seen him until I was 13. He was 13 too. He had said compliments in a weird tone which made me uncomfortable but that issue was eventually settled.

Then he started coming over more to visit or for a family emergency but it was always with someone else or one of my friends. The issue that had occurred when I was 13 was forgotten until one Christmas break and this time, it was just him. I was 15 and he was 14. He kept asking for hugs, kept touching my hands, kept holding my hands, and I even accidentally fell on his lap from a hug he requested and he didn’t think to give me time to get up.

I said I didn’t like hugging a lot or even touching but he did still continued. I started to question the behavior since we were opposite gender, teenaged cousins. He always said I was his favorite cousin and persuaded me to say he was mine. If I refused a hug then he’d say, “I thought I was your favorite cousin.” I felt slightly uncomfortable but confused.

Then over spring break, I told myself it was all in my head because he was interested in someone. But he was still asking for multiple hugs, kept wanting to pick me up, cuddled if we were watching a movie, kept holding my hand, kept playing with my hand, and just showed affection that people would usually show in a relationship. I could even relate a past relationship I had with an old boyfriend to the behavior from my cousin. I had already been molested by a cousin in my childhood so over spring break I wasn’t uncomfortable. I suffered PTSD. This behavior is questionable. Does my cousin like me? Does my cousin lust me? Is it all in my head?

[ChocoBrowny]

Tell him you've grown out of it and don't like cuddles anymore, you reserve that for your mom only. I very much doubt he likes you the way you think as you've gotten sensitive from past experience. It's just fun interacting with a girl that way and he probably doesn't even know his own feelings yet. Has he even hit puberty? Voice broken?

[Asker]

yeah he’s much bigger than me, i can say no all i want but he can still overpower me. and it’s not growing out of cuddling, i don’t like touching at all and i’ve made that clear. was never into that. it’s just a power thing. it’s also not that hard to understand feelings at my age. and “just fun interacting with a girl” doesn’t apply here because not only are we opposite gender cousins but we’re teenagers. he’s supposed to know better.

[ChocoBrowny]

Awkward 😶

[OddBeMe]

Yeah he’s sexually attracted... maybe obsessed. Just keep distancing.

[bowenw]

His behavior suggests he likes you as more than a cousin. I suggest keeping your relationship with him friendly but stop the hugging, cuddling, and holding hands. If he gets upset tell him you are no longer a little girl and not comfortable touching anyone. Also, you may not want to be alone with him going forward. If he doesn't respect your wishes you may want to tell your parents about it.

[Asker]

thanks.

[Brownbored]

here's the thing.. cousins are not incest.. first of all.. second.. yes he does like and luat for u.. so if u r uncomfortable.. tell him straight u know what he's doing u r not a kid.. and keep ur distance

[Daniela1982]

What difference does it make if he likes you or not, you are cousins? First cousins are a definite no no but others can also produce problem kids. You would do better to kook elsewhere for love/sex as it may not be worth a crossbreed offspring. I'm pretty sure you are not stupid so why are you even asking/considering this question?

[Asker]

There is a difference. I’d like to know if my cousin likes me because I don’t want something to happen. I’m underage and still living with my mom. It’s not like I can control when I’ll see him. The question was to ask for advise because i’m very aware that cousins are off limits. Thanks for all the help.

[Daniela1982]

You won't have to worry about it if you know how to say no and when to say it.

[Asker]

you do know that saying no won’t overpower what happens. he’s much bigger than me like i said, i have said no like i said and nothing changes. some males like to use those advantages of being stronger and bigger, that we all know. thanks for your opinion

[Daniela1982]

What's the matter, you afraid to call "rape"? If something doesn't change make it change.

[Asker]

the point of what i just said was i’m overpowered by him. you don’t know any of my circumstances so this careless advise your tryna pass since the first one didn’t acknowledge my question can stop.

[Daniela1982]

Thank you for reinforcing my opinion that you are just trolling just like a lot of pink anons do. You whine and when someone gives you advice that you asked for you get uppity. Every time someone says something you counter it with information you didn't include in your original question. You're probably some bored dude anyway. Guys, don't feed the troll further.

[Asker]

? you don’t know what a troll is... and your first opinion didn’t even acknowledge 80% of what i included so what are you talking about? what bored dudes have you seen cause that’s honestly laughable. guess you ran out of things to say. the things i included is real, who’d troll about that? the question was does my cousin like me and you first didn’t acknowledge anything so you can decrease your ego of opinion talking about some trolling. like i said, i’m underage and don’t get to control when i see my cousin who comes over quite often throughout the year and there are spectrums and circumstances that you’d also fail to acknowledge even i wanted to share. you do know that most trolls are the ones that reply, like you did without acknowledge of anything i said? funny actually. your 30 something years old, stop going back and forth with me. who’s acting like a troll now?

[Daniela1982]

I did acknowledge your whining. I call it whining because you can do something but don't. Anytime someone comes on GaG and whines about something but when you give them advice they make excuses why they can't. Just put a chastity belt on then if you feel powerless to do anything else but whine. And you would be surprised what stories the trolls make up as they fire for effect to see what people say. I would say 80% of the stories on GaG are bullshit.

[Asker]

you don’t know any circumstance, you don’t know me, and you don’t know my life. everything you said has made no sense. you first left 80% unregarded of what i said that already had painted you as wrong. don’t go back and forth especially when your side is in the unknown and failing to acknowledge. you done with this? cause it’s hilarious how confident you are despite everything you know you do not know.

[Daniela1982]

What I do know is that you sound way older than 18 so that spells troll. Don't worry, most people think you are just a kid under 18 but we know different, right?

[Asker]

November 30th of 2005, do the math and that’d equal 15. thanks for the compliment though, i never got that one :)

[Iron_Man]

stay away from him and you, can't date your own family

[Anonymous]

I doubt it is lust, but tell him to stop.