That was rather specific.
My definitions are much more neutral and literal. A man is an adult male, a boy is an adolescent or pre-adolescent male. What you described is a shortlist of qualities you personally attribute to an 'eligible' romantic partner. In a way your definition of "men" is somewhat self-absorbed, because you only attribute qualities which benefit the woman in a romantic partnership. Now I happen to believe that loyalty in a relationship is one of the highest virtues a 'taken' man can embody. So I don't disagree with your assessment of how men in relationships ought to be.
But you've committed the logical fallacy of deriving an "is" from an "ought". You can't fundamentally define what a man IS by the attributes he OUGHT to embody. You don't actually get to decide that. A man will be what a man will be. What you CAN do is determine for yourself that you only want to date the men whose own conception of "what a man ought to be" happens to align with your own. When your "ought" and his "ought" line up, then you have a shared value system. That's more worthwhile than arbitrarily speaking for all men when you associate "boys" with what you consider the "wrong" value system, and "men" with what you consider the "right" value system. Your values are your values, and his values are his, and boys are boys and men are men. Let's keep our terminology nice and clear, because we need to all agree on common definitions of *what IS*, so as not to conflate them with *what ought to be*.
Most Helpful Opinions
A Man -
takes responsibility for his actions
works hard to provide for himself and others
does the right thing even when it is harder
Stands by his convictions
A boy
Doesn't support himself
blames others for his mistakes and misdeeds
Doesn't believe in hard work
Takes the easy road regardless of what is at stake
Has no real convictions only convenient assertions
Everyone definition of a man will differ depending on the type of environment they grew up in/their values. For me, a man is someone who 1) has a job and can keep a job, 2) loves God, 3) has character/ integrity, 4) dependable, 5) has goals and has laid down real steps that will help him achieve those goals aka a purpose/intent, 6) has his own opinions/values, 7) strength - either physical or mental that helps makes me feel safe and secure when I'm around him, 8) can express his thoughts and communication effectively, 9) respects himself, me, and others.
The major difference between boys, boys trapped in adult bodies who think they're men, and legitimate men is their responsibility. Maturity. Self-confidence & esteem.
Boys & boys trapped in adult bodies who think they're men don't care. They are not that responsible. They lack maturity. They want cheap & easy. No commitment.
And boys / boys trapped in adult bodies who think they're men really wonder why the majority of women they get are desperate, low self-esteem, low confidence, sleep around, etc.
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
37Opinion
Maturity, the fact that men can make money, sense of worth, has respect for others and is kind, smart, confident. In a relationship I feel like a man would be graceful enough to smooth things over with his girl or at least be smart enough to realize its time to walk away for a bit. I feel like a man is someone who is a momma's boy because we all love our mom and there's no reason why you shouldn't be allowed to want to see your mom and act like a little kid again. Otherwise I feel like a man should be good enough to get what he wants even if it requires patience. I feel like he should be slow to anger and wants to keep himself in decent shape, knows how to take care of himself and if needed could be fine on his own without the help of a women
I think social media has given boys / guys a false senses of the world.
this has been happening for a number of years.
They all want that Instagram model, without realising the girl near them are far better but just not on Instagram and no filters etc.
a lot of guys these days do really seem to struggle socially and definitely where girls are concerned.
the big difference is men don’t really give a shit what anyone thinks, boys still care.So loaded question. What makes a man is the ability to not conform to what other people are pressuring him to do. A man should be comfortable living his own life damn what everyone else thinks. Do I have my own personal opinion on how a man in my opinion should act? Yes I think they should be strong, stoic, low emotion, hate drama, and lead their family, they should avoid the puddle of politics if possible and seek a life of anonymity and peace. They should be capable of swift and harsh violence if the situation calls. They should be able to make a choice and go with that choice. They should not allow women to distract them nor get too focused on a single women (soul mates are bs)
However do I know many men who I would consider men who don’t check all these boxes yes...People these days (especially women) are obsessed with the idea of what it takes to be a "real man." In my experience though, the concept of "real man" is often used as a shaming tactic to guilt men into some form of compliance, usually for women's benefit. The real question should be what it takes to be an actual grown arse adult. The difference between a child and an adult is the adult has responsibilities. An adult should be respectful, have integrity and always follow through on their promises. An adult should be self sufficient and pay their own way.
So while it is true that many men could be considered to be immature little boys, the same can be said about many women.Lol it's funny, look at all you people describing a Man according to fit your wishes that's cute and appropriate idealogy as per your age.
But why you people forget is that same boy you are down marketing is gonna be the man and not a man defined by you guys.
He has his own way his own Will and his own destiny.
To be Simple a Man is someone that defines himself takes his own decision and lead all those who follow them.
And for you dear focus on defining what kind a women you wanna be so you would eventually attract the right "The Man".The males that women typically talk down on are boys; they play games with, are only tryna get laid, and are always bragging about how they're the biggest baddest wolf in the pack. The males that women never see because there's so many boys, are men. They'll actually treat a woman like a queen as long as she treats him like a king. Like I said, because there's so many boys with the wrong ideas running around, it's hard for good women to find good men.
You don't know what a man is, specially since for you man means being perfect (in your mind) and capitulating to you.
A man, as in adult male, has many meanings.
One of those meanings include the version of "adulthood" that is more than just aging.
That man is just someone who can provide for himself and maybe others.
Adulthood is stoic provisioning for oneself and maybe kids.
In order to deserve a man like that, you need to be a woman which means basically the same thing.I would define a man as someone who is committed and knows where to draw the line. The example you used was to brush off a woman if she talks to him if he is in a relationship. I disagree, I think the man would still talk to her but the moment she crosses the line he would stop her. He doesn't want someone flirting with him he wants a regular conversation and maybe make a friend.
A boy is someone who drops what he has to get the best deal. If he has a girlfriend and sees that he has a chance with a hotter woman then he would drop the one he has. That's a boy. He will be knocked on his ass and there is where he will think and start taking steps to become a man... Hopefully... he might just be an idiot.
But what do I know I'm only 22This is how y'all treat the difference between a man and a boy:
Man: has no flaws
Boy: has flaws
That's ridiculous, but this is basically what you're saying.
That has always annoyed me because people who talk about topics like this are the ones who totally and utterly pale in comparsion of having the traits of what you say a "man" should be.A man is an adult male, and to be an adult you need to take responsibility of your life and be independent. Same would go for women, that why we have less women and men today and simply just big girls and boys. They no longer take responsibility just blame others. You do not necessarily need communication skills aslong as you can accept the consequences of lacking them.
A man is mature, responsible, knows how to treat a female, is serious and figured it out. A boy is the opposite of all that. A boy usually still wants to not lose the fun and not grow up. They won't put aside old bad habits & want to fool around
Boys:
Treats people not just women like shit
Abusive towards his partner
Gets angry when he hears the word no or is rejected.
Immature
Can't own up to his own mistakes
Men:
Respects himself and others
Compassionate and loving towards his partner
Sticks up for himself and others
Accepts rejection and knows that not everyone is gonna love him
Mature
Owns up to his mistakes and apologizesBeing a man is not an age but an attitude. Boys live life in pursuit of pleasure. He is usually self-serving. He is define by the perception of his boys!
A man is a seasoned male that has learned life is more than carnal pleasure. He understands the importance of love, peace and the pursuit of happy. This maturity translates into finding his purpose. Women become partners not sex toys.
There are more components but these few will help you.Hair. Hair on his face. Hair on his chest. The furrier the more manly.
Boys play games. Men don't.
Ability to get a career makes a man.
Ability to make a life for himself and not depend on others. Is a man.Age. A man is an adult human male. A boy is a human male who is not yet an adult and will become a man in the future.
Men have far better interpersonal skills, know that actions speak louder than words, and are normally more muscular and bearded (or have the ability to be)
Umm what you said has nothing to do with it. A real woman and not a model? Whats wrong with models? I've dated plenty of models. Believe it or not they are real women too. Smh.
The same as the difference between a girl and a woman. Adulthood isn't just anatomical.
Age. There's nothing else to it. No special definition of what a man is or an excuse you give yourself for making poor decisions with dating
A boy hasn't had the time to fully develop his mind state, a man has that developed to the point that he knows how to act and acts that way
Learn more
We're glad to see you liked this post.
You can also add your opinion below!
Most Helpful Opinions