Are you a boy or a man?

[IceEmbers]

This question pertains to the derogatory statement of being a boy vs a man. What determine you're a boy or a man?

You are free to express your opinions yet this question purpose a deeper meaning than physical features. I will leave the answer within your hands, while I embark on my own answer. I enjoy your opinions.

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Due to the limited amount of characters on these updates I wish to provide my opinion on the topic@JuxtaposeHas my reply and my opinion on this matter and it's public for everyone. Please read the comments below and try not to reply or spam @Juxtapose comment section and create your on comment. @Everyone

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Edit: sorry for the typos everyone, haven't been sleeping well.

[awkward_author]

I, honestly, think the only difference is age. Aside from that, everyone has their own definition of what a "man" is vs. a "boy." With the exception of brain maturity and legality, everything else is socially motivated.

[IceEmbers]

Your response is magnificent and I'm applaud. Formulating words are even difficult for me because of my excitement. I like this perspective and have the audacity to say your answer is correct. Opinions? Launch that concept out the window make your answer facts! Lol

[awkward_author]

Thank you.

[IceEmbers]

@awkward_author
@Oigit

Author can you read oigit post?
Reading your astonishing opinion, I feel as you might be able to combine your post and generate the strongest argument for this question.

[Juxtapose]

I am a major, not a minor lol.

[IceEmbers]

I don't think I understand the play on words. Could you elaborate?

[Juxtapose]

Those are very specific legal terms that you are free to look up.

[IceEmbers]

Where I am from those words usually pertains to: College as in studies, musical arts, differences in significant vs less important, and minor referring to age. I cannot recall seeing them in a legal aspect.

[Juxtapose]

We are from the same country man, how do you not know what a major is?

A major is an adult, a minor is a child.

[IceEmbers]

I have received comments from other individuals from different countries so I prefer not to assume. However, you are right. The dictionary clearly states "major" can be referred to an adult. I am not well-versed in legal terms so my apologies. Yet the question does call for the ability to distinguish between the two. So, if I might ask since you were able to provide me with "major" understanding, could you give me your perspective on this matter?

[Juxtapose]

Once you are 18 and up, you are a man. Letting some weird social norms define your adulthood is probably one of the most pussy things a guy can do.

[IceEmbers]

I am in shambles lol. I can neither confirm or deny your view point, and comfortably laugh in the straight-forwardness. I have no rebuttal.

[Juxtapose]

Hahaha thanks man, the straightforward path is definitely the path for me.

What is your personal views on the matter?

[IceEmbers]

It seems that path works well for you. I would love to share my personal opinion on this topic, yet others potentially reading these comments may deter from answering. I will give my opinion in an update soon.

[IceEmbers]

I cannot put my reply in the update because of the limited characters. I wish to use your comment section to express my opinion.

(Am I a boy or a man?) I was often asked this question. Yet, how would I ever determine when my father was that absent man? Responsibility shifted onto a child, because of his absence. How can I distinguish being treated as one, yet expected to be the other? Yet, who can say I am a man in a child's body? Treat me as a child, yet claim your raising a man. Lost by these terms, nevertheless life unfolds. Indecisiveness sinks in, another story unfolds. My opinion to distinguish the difference begins to be told.

My opinion for are you a boy vs a man is upbringing. I feel as if it is passed down from the man who gave life to you. Therefore his experiences and wisdom allow you to become catalytic. In having a father, it nullifies the role of you having to portray being a man, when your a child. This is assumptous by far yet is as aspect I feel. Distinguishing between the two... personally I would have to say maturity is the definitive answer to distinguishing between a boy and a man. This is subjective because environmental factors can participate in the interruption of raising a child. And yet, a father figure is not limited to blood related relationships. This is my view point on this topic. I would love to hear what you think about it.

[IceEmbers]

Edit: @Everyone
For the comment above, please read.

[MrJMM]

To my blood family, I am just a boy. I am of course still in the state of development since I am just starting life but through all the shits I have lived through and suffering I think I will have a good future. Through physical abuse, mental games, and being emotionally manipulated I am still afraid of the world because of how it hurt me. The scars we hide tell us a story but only a part of it. Looking at the scars I have to remind myself that life is too short, and I am lucky that I fought, experienced, and learned because we only live once. Some people think being a man is just muscle, some think that the height, some think that is the physical strength, the testosterone, the body, the old saying that a man is stronger than a woman, or how much the man gets paid, etc. Everyone's definition of a man is different and mine is that a man is he is in tap with his emotional side and not afraid to show it, he's willing to sacrifice and fight everything for the people he cares about, he's going to do anything in his power to make sure his loved one is being taken care of, and I am hoping that I can become that kind of a man someday in the future.

[IceEmbers]

I believe those factors experienced creates the substance of who a man becomes individually. And I agree with the concept, that this question has many different ideas, of what a man can be determined as. I can personally relate to the struggles of being born into the world, therefore have my own experience. Your thoughts are inspirational to the response of what the characteristics of a man was borderline nostalgic. As in, I too precieved the thoughts of a "good" or "great" man could be. Embracing your emotions and determining your identity, from hardships and experience could be the very definition of a "man". Which further lead me to lean on the idea of "maturity" being a factor. If you live by those morals, I believe you have the potential to be a great "father," "icon," or a "great leader," figuratively speaking. And lastly, who determines that you aren't already that man you foresee in the future? What you experience, could subjectively consider yourself that "man."

[MrJMM]

To myself, I don't myself that man yet because I am still in progress of maturity. Everything is possible because the future isn’t written in stone so the future can be anything. I can see a lot of those characteristics that I mentioned but I am still learning how to be a person in the functioning world because I’m just 19. Maturity comes differently to everyone so I think me learning early at least gives me some of a jump start. Life is like stepping stones so we can learn, experience, and live. Also thank you for saying that my thoughts are inspirational I really do appreciate it.

[IceEmbers]

A respectable opinion. You have the potential of defining yourself, and establishing when your ready. Continue learning, I might even suggest your path is essentially a correct one. And age seems to make no difference because you have even inspired me. Take care and enjoy your day.

[Oigit]

One of the biggest determining factors in being a boy or man is knowledge and wisdom. It's possible to be in your 60's and still be a boy due to lack of both. It's also possible for a kid still in grade school to be more or a man then a 30 year old. Because his life experience has already given him more knowledge and wisdom then a 30 year old boy calling themselves a man.

My childhood very much forced me to grow up fast. In a lot of ways I was the man of the house and a father figure for my younger brother before I was in middle school. Also my grandfather was the closest thing to a father I had and he didn't treat me like a kid. Because he know I was too mature for that. So he passed down a lot of the knowledge and wisdom he gained over his lifetime. Due to that I became a man before middle school.

[IceEmbers]

I really really enjoy this perspective as well. All these monumental opinions push me to my limits of understanding. Wisdom being passed down through generations or "acquired" by the individual can no doubtly be a factor in the difference between being a boy or a man. Yet, my only other concern with solely relying on wisdom to distinguish between being a boy or a man would be genetics disorders. These disorders potentially would make someone have an "inability" to learn or understand "wisdom. " They are still considered, individuals who can possibly distinguish between being a boy or a man. Being presumptuous in my statement they aren't necessarily using "wisdom" which could be a ludicrous statement, but potentially has some merit to it. Their process of understanding would have to be perceived from (completely hypothetical) their experience. And not "wisdom" alone. I didn't go so far to target specific genetic disorders due to this being opinionated and not factual, yet, I felt obligated to say. And I am not knowledgeable enough to delve into every genetic disorder but I can't negate the fact they exist. But what do I know, I'm just some guy sitting on my bed discussing the hypothetical meaning of questions.

[OlderAndWiser]

A man admits when he has made a mistake or failed in an undertaking and accepts responsibilities for those failures. A man assumes responsibility for the loved ones in his life and places their needs and desire on the same level as his own. A man controls his impulses and thinks about how his actions impact others before doing something stupid. A man doesn't sit and play video games all day while his responsibilities go unattended.

[IceEmbers]

I don't disagree with your fundamentals of being a man. Yet, if all perspectives are incorporated a child can demonstrate those qualities as well, presuming they are "mature" for their age. Sorry for your wait.

[Mango-man]

I feel like man as opposed to boy has his priorities together, can face his responsibilities, is able to take care of himself, is able to put close ones above his own needs, and overall is ready to potentially take proper care of his family if he decides to start one.

[Djmbbasgerd]

its jus what u feel like i guess, there's no rules, but i feel like a teen boy still although im 24, im a manchild, immature and damn proud, never changing either, kiss my ass society... u want everyone to act grown up n act mature? for what? fuck off, il act how i want, il be swinging on the monkey bars and eating harribo til im 89 motherfuckers

[Djmbbasgerd]

dont see the point in acting grown up jus to please society, i dont like society so fuck them, im not giving them what they want

[Djmbbasgerd]

everyone can jus kiss my ass

[IceEmbers]

That's a perspective reflecting the emotional impact this question implies. As in, "where this question pertains to you." This answer potentially can be correlated with emotions, yet if I might clarify the question is asking to distinguish between the two. It considers the ideology of what makes you identified as childish vs manly.

[CanineAcronym]

People often see man as a preferable word to boy because it sounds more masculine, as if masculinity is desirable. Honestly call yourself whatever you feel the most comfortable with

[IceEmbers]

I don't think of them being distinguishable in masculinity simply by their terminology. As someone commented, quote: "What is a boy but a small man." I don't wish to spoil my view point before the update so I won't elaborate much further yet.

[Lionman95]

To be honest I don't feel like a man quite often. So it's hard to answer. I think it depends on the situation but I am on the way of becoming a man more and more.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

A man. Quit being a boy a long time ago.

1 Corinthians 13:11
When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

[IceEmbers]

As you used this quote, that does pertain to this topic. What was childish for you and made you deem it was "childish." How would you differientate acting childishly vs being viewed a man?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Immaturity, acting as a child does which is silly, being irresponsible, whiny. Stuff children do.

[IceEmbers]

Huh?

[AdithyaR]

I'm still in college and I've still got lots of to learn about the world. I haven't working yet.
So I'd say I'm still a bit, I've still got miles to before I can say I'm a man.

[IceEmbers]

Yet, who determines you're not a man already? And what do you consider what makes you a man? Your view point could suggest you are criticizing yourself, or allowing outside influences to determine your "manhood".

[AdithyaR]

I'm not letting anything else. I know when I feel I'm in a stable point, have learnt enough and am doing productive work, I'll feel like a man.

[IceEmbers]

That's intriguing. It seems what you are implying is relatable towards your "status" and "feelings," on the matter. As in, you're determining the ability to distinguish between the two.

[AdithyaR]

It's less to do with status and more with a personal sense of accomplishment. It's more based of what I feel about myself rather than how society or peers look at me.

[Adam1978]

To me its age and maturity combined. You do not need to have had sex with a woman.

[IceEmbers]

OK. Those points I can agree with. *shrugs*

[HeartFullOfGlue]

I'm a masculine man, with big muscles, a hairy chest, a deep voice that kills, a submissive personality, and I look very breedable today if I do say so myself

[HeartFullOfGlue]

I forgot to mention that I'm a MANLY MAN. A MAN made for MEN. Only MEN my handle this MAN.

[IceEmbers]

@HeartFullOfGlue Please don't play on the forum. And unless you have an opinion on the matter, don't comment.

[HeartFullOfGlue]

I ain't playing and this is an opinion kinda

[IceEmbers]

No, it's not an opinion. It is a series of statements. Hence why I said, please don't play on the forum. Others are giving depths to their responses, I am requiring you to do so as well. Otherwise, I can't reply to you seriously.

[HeartFullOfGlue]

This is an opinion, and you dont have to take me seriously

[HeartFullOfGlue]

Hope you get some better sleep soon

[IceEmbers]

@HeartFullOfGlue Thank you. Possibly putting my phone down could assist with the issue. But I wish to reply to others to the best of my ability.

[HeartFullOfGlue]

Well its admirable how dedicated you are, but you should really get some rest.

[Anonymous]

I join with the question as a guest actrees. And I wish other friends good luck. And I will only ask something; don't they both mean the same thing?

[IceEmbers]

Tough question to answer. I will provide you with my best answer. Potentially, the possibility of the terms being the same can only consist of being a "male."
Yet the determination of character pertains to the question. As in, what's distinguishable between either the nature or characteristics of a boy or a man. The question derived from factors of determining the two. Hopefully this helps.

[Opinion Owner]

hmm 🤔😐🙄

[IceEmbers]

Which part of my response was confusing?

[Opinion Owner]

all, but not important, nevermind.

[IceEmbers]

Sorry if I couldn't provide you with an relateable response. Thank you for reading my post and I hope you have a wonderful day. No sarcasm involved. Wish you well.

[Opinion Owner]

anyway thank you for helping out.

[AndrésC64]

They are essentially the same thing. Men are boys, just like women are girls. Men and women would be the more formal term, or term generally used for adult males and females. But they're all the same.

[Medhat-M]

I'm supposed to be a man but I swear I'm like a kid trying to make it in the adult world

[IceEmbers]

I have no disagreement here because "you feel this way." Hopefully one day you feel secure enough to reflect being an "adult" in this world. Wish you luck.

[Medhat-M]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I support myself and have a mortgage. I think that's the general idea.

[IceEmbers]

Yes, qualities of being an adult. I am skeptical of the view point here. Yet, I feel this question depths pertains to more behavioral, than status or prestige.

[Gal67]

Well, a boy is under 16 and a man is over. There, simple.

[TsAubreyKate]

No matter how old we become every man is still a boy at heart

[IceEmbers]

Maybe a subjective statement yet I am compelled to believe your opinion. However, there is a potential of men believing that they are men through and through. Acknowledging their perspective can negate this view point. I like what you said.

[TsAubreyKate]

What is a boy but a small man

[IceEmbers]

Ah. I see what you are implying. If I being completely honest with you, I am exhausted and prefer to answer later. I don't feel I can disagree with your statement. While I rest, would you give me more details about your statement. "You are not obligated to do so."

[MelonSoda]

I'm a big boi cause' I eat my veggies.

[Mediterraneansoul]

I haven't decided yet. I might be a dragon

[IceEmbers]

Well, I would enjoy to know what kind of dragon you view yourself as, but that's not the topic. Anyways, wish you well with your determination.

[Mediterraneansoul]

Haha thank you

[Recurrence]

I’m a person

[IceEmbers]

This seems to be true. Would love for your response to the question "sir person."