A guy can say or promise you anything, but when it's time to actually do whatever they run or back out. How can I tell if he's ready to back up his own words?
Actions speak louder than words, my upbringing, taught me , " if I say it , I'd better be doing it " , and that's the way I've lived my life thus far, !
This is how I judge people, ( I know thou shall not judge ) but ( let ye, who be absent of Malice, ... cast the First stone... ! " sayeth ths Lord ! I judged by what people tell me they re going to do , ie: " hey, I'll be there at 8am to help you ! " " can I borrow your left handed monkey wrench, I'll bring it back tomorrow " " dude , can you front me til tomorrow, I'll get you the money then "...
Dude never shows up at 8am , not ever...
SoB, I'd have to go hunt him down to find " MY" tool. that he borrowed
Or here I go , chasing Down , money owed to me!!! This has made me Hard and untrusting, to the point I dont have nor want any " Friends " ! So your " boy " is less than pond scum between my toes!
I think it's really knowing himself, being able to relate to you and handle the relationship effectively on his side... e. g. lead, provide for, handle the ups and downs and give and take.
I do not think a man is one that takes advantage of power over you, he can be generous, giving, caring, but still have strength to be the man he is. Some might perceive a man as "the alpha male", and that is fine for some. Not all men are wired like that. Certainly, those stronger, dominant types are often more attractive.
It is indeed true that boys (no matter the age) are ”all words and no play”. They can woo you with words, they can brag about this and that, but when it comes to taking charge they are unable to do it - poof, they're gone, or even worse, they start whining. I don't know how it is for others, but for me safety is extremely important in a relationship. I also think that a boy, unlike a man, isn't able to handle others either - they can be disrespectful, too submissive, too clumsy etc. I dislike being embarrassed in public :))
Most are boys signs include: not being consistent not doing what they say not being honest saying they “don’t believe in labels” wanting to hang at your place at 10pm at night during booty call hours and never anything else them yelling when you try to hold them accountable for their actions
I sometimes make promises that I can't keep. I'm pretty sure I've said this before in another question a friend @wowgirl asked but if those promises were ever broken it was never my initial intention to break them. Either a change in the situation or sometimes in over my head I just fail but for the most part I try
If he doesn’t step up , barely working , barely does shit , doesn’t help out around the house , if he doesn’t make the initiative to move forward and protect you and doesn’t Really trust in you that is a boy
Being lazy not wanting to help, not willing to Fork out money. Still acts like he is in high school. Wants to sit around and do nothing all day. Has no ambition can barely hold a job. Those kinds of things, my daughter has a son not a boyfriend LOL
I think you know the answer that someone is ready to back up their words when you see evidence.. aka actions. Sounds like you might be a fake or flake or something?
You answered your own question. Pay attention to their actions. If their words match their actions, then there you have it. If not, again, there you have it. One way or another their character will answer this question for you.
You have to give something for ua to act for you. You can't expect us to act for nothing. That's mostly the problem with all women I've dated. They expect me to act while they don't want to do anything to ensure me that I can depend on them for something. They don't compromise while expect you to do everything for them. I think it's not a good idea to judge like this (boy and man).
If he can't show u what a man is u don't want him just come on hit me up and let me show u how a queen is supposed to be treated. I promise the wouldn't be half the man I am chick.
If he is still living with his parents, if he can't own up to his mistakes/ failures, is always makeing excuses, is always focused on himself and what he wants.
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