We had a strong friendship and were exclusively hooking up for 7 months, non-stop texting every day, seeing each other 4-5 times/week, staying over. His friends commented I'm the one for him.
3 months later I ended it when he said: 'I wouldn't mind if you dated someone else, we're friends'. He then sent me a 5 feet tall bouquet of flowers and chocolates across the world (i went home). When we met again, he would say/do this every week while drinking:
I love you
You're everything to me
I'll do anything for you
I can't lose you
I'm never leaving you
'I just wanna talk' to the guy you marry/may kill him
Serenade me to romantic songs
Initiate hookups
Get mad I'm 'cheating on him' and 'he doesn't have me' when he saw me on Hinge
The next day when I would mention this and reciprocate he would always say he's 'uncomfortable', 'it's just the alcohol' and ignore me for a few days. This pattern kept repeating and i felt emotionally abused.
Now, I've just helped him move, stayed and hooked up all weekend - i got out the shower wearing his shirt and saw he's on video chat to a girl in front of me. Afterwards he casually said he's been video-chatting a girl he matched on Tinder 2 months ago, who he's not met, and is now moving to our city (she lives in another country). He helped her get a job and flat, would 'like to see where it goes', and told me he's planning dates/sexual stuff.
I got upset and left. He later texted: 'sorry you're hurt. I didn't realize you wanted to date me/you told me you didn't want to date me, I maintained we're just friends (he used 'friends' when was convenient to him), so all this isn't emotional abuse and shouldn't have come as a surprise. I'd prefer to still stay friends.' I clarified I told him many times i would like to date, but out of self respect not date someone who keeps saying they don't want me, either way this is all disrespectful REGARDLESS of dynamic, and I'm cutting off from him. He said he can't be 100% blamed and blocked me.
3 months later I ended it when he said: 'I wouldn't mind if you dated someone else, we're friends'. He then sent me a 5 feet tall bouquet of flowers and chocolates across the world (i went home). When we met again, he would say/do this every week while drinking:
I love you
You're everything to me
I'll do anything for you
I can't lose you
I'm never leaving you
'I just wanna talk' to the guy you marry/may kill him
Serenade me to romantic songs
Initiate hookups
Get mad I'm 'cheating on him' and 'he doesn't have me' when he saw me on Hinge
The next day when I would mention this and reciprocate he would always say he's 'uncomfortable', 'it's just the alcohol' and ignore me for a few days. This pattern kept repeating and i felt emotionally abused.
Now, I've just helped him move, stayed and hooked up all weekend - i got out the shower wearing his shirt and saw he's on video chat to a girl in front of me. Afterwards he casually said he's been video-chatting a girl he matched on Tinder 2 months ago, who he's not met, and is now moving to our city (she lives in another country). He helped her get a job and flat, would 'like to see where it goes', and told me he's planning dates/sexual stuff.
I got upset and left. He later texted: 'sorry you're hurt. I didn't realize you wanted to date me/you told me you didn't want to date me, I maintained we're just friends (he used 'friends' when was convenient to him), so all this isn't emotional abuse and shouldn't have come as a surprise. I'd prefer to still stay friends.' I clarified I told him many times i would like to date, but out of self respect not date someone who keeps saying they don't want me, either way this is all disrespectful REGARDLESS of dynamic, and I'm cutting off from him. He said he can't be 100% blamed and blocked me.
