In the middle. I think being a little insecure is good for me personally, because I can't STAND high ego in anyone; a potential love interest or a guy. Confidence is a massive turn-off to me, because no one is perfect and neither are you. I was going to vote for option A, but then you said "thinks she looks ugly, smells bad," etc. That's taking it too far.
I prefer a girl who likes some things about herself and doesn't like some things about herself, not one who is trying to make YOU sound like a loser just for being with her. A moderate amount of insecurity is normal for me. Saying "my pussy stinks and I'm hairy, why are you even with me?" is enough to make me start agreeing with her, even if I didn't at first.
So I voted for option B, even though ego is far more of a turn-off for me than a moderate amount of humbleness. And I say this as someone who pretty much hates everything about my physical appearance (but not mentioning it 24/7, or every day.) In other words, try to aim for a 50-50 split at least in what you like vs dislike about yourself. Many people want a 90/99 to 01 split ("confidence, ego, conceit, arrogance," etc). I'd even be fine with 30-70. But what you're describing is an 80-20, or even a 01/99 split, where the person just thinks they're trash and worthless.
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There's a big difference between being humble and having no self-worth. This is the latter, and it's not attractive. Being humble is attractive, but humble people have self-worth - they just don't OVER-exaggerate their worth.
Too many people think the only options are the extreme positions, but most people live in the middle, and that's where most people find happiness.
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Humbleness and self-loathing are VERY different things. While humbleness is a noble type of demeanor, self-loathing is hardly a positive trait. Makes one miserable and that's something people can feel.
It's not really something that attracts people, if not to put a hand on your shoulder and ask "are you ok?".
If even that.Being humble and thinking lowly of yourself is not the same thing. Lowly is a feeling of lack of worth. Being humble, is caring about others, considering their feelings, and often putting them before you.
No you shouldn't think badly about yourself. There is a big wide middle ground where you just are a member of society with all the flaws and talent you just happens to have.
Why. Would. That. Be. Attractive? And neither is conceit. What is it with people today not understanding balance?
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There is a difference between low self astern and being humble seeing yourself as shit is not hot or cute its a massive turn off
No babe. Low self esteem attracts toxic men. They will try to suck the life out of you cause they know you will never leave them cause you think no one else likes you
I don't think it is cute. I think women that have good self esteem are hot.
What? How on earth would self loathing ever be appealing?
If you don't like yourself, it comes across like you aren't worth liking at all. Personally it steers me away completely
If she takes the dick anything goes
To hard on yourself
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