There is this guy who tells me he likes me but I have a feeling that he likes that one other girl too and is just keeping me in check. I see that when he comes online when the other girl is online and goes offline when she does and when I come online, he stays online the whole time even if I go offline. I‘m sure this is not a coinscidence because I‘ve observed that too often. I once asked him if he liked the other girl and he said no but his behaviour online is giving me some anxiety...
If you can’t be with this guy in person more than you see him online, I’d forget about him. You can’t ever know for sure who he is or isn’t talking to online. And you’ll drive yourself crazy looking for clues as you have been so far. I’d suggest getting offline and exploring other options since that’s what he seems to be doing. But as a woman, know that your options are greater than his, so don’t put him on a pedestal.
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The thing is I know him in person but due to Covid we don‘t see each other anymore, just via online chats etc.
And thank you! It‘s just that I‘m the kind of girl that doesn‘t catches the eye of guys at first glance so I‘m pretty insecure about this and tend to stay attached to a boy if I know he likes me and don‘t believe in other options. I‘ll try and stay away from him though.
Please don't be with someone if its just an online relationship. I did this. ans I deeply regret it. He was so good to me, but it wore off eventually and he didn't want to date me. It hit me so hard, and his issues were mostly with the fact that he couldn't meet me because of Covid, plus we lived in different countries.
Please, trust me you don't want to fall for a guy when its all online. Once you've really fallen for him its hard to get out of that. He became my coping mechanism through difficult times and without him I was a mess. I didn't know what to do with myself, I just wanted him back and cried for months
He is playing you. I would break away now before you twist yourself up more with anxiety. And I have to agree that the two of them simultaneously going online and offline together gives red flags there is something going on there between them. And the fact that you only refer to him as "this guy", which tells me you know pretty much nothing about him. Forget him and move on with life. You don't even have to tell him why.
That u need to stop overthinking him saying he likes u don't mean you are dating or in a relationship he is allowed to like multiple girls u are doing some gard core overthinking
Sounds like he might be playing the field, but two can play that game. So stop stressing over this and date other guys. Neither of you are committed to each other.
Well, if the two of you are not dating, he may be speaking to a few girls. There is nothing to stop you from widening your options too. It may make you less anxious about him. He isn’t the only guy on the planet.
If you’re not dating, then there’s a change that he may be talking to other girls. Don’t waste your time on him, he doesn’t seem worth it, and you’re overthinking this. Just don’t let him consume you. Distance yourself a little from him
I think you have way too much time on your hands... you understand that all the logging in and off stuff, you are seeing is usually not real-time... yet you are acting like it's such a big deal.
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I think he does like the other girl and you need to move on, if your gut feeling is telling you something then it's mostly right.
