So what DOES he say is the reason? Is it a religious thing? Did he fall in with the NoFap crowd? I mean, I suppose I could understand feeling that your sexual life is out of your control, and wanting to rein it in to feel less at a loss, but that's the kind of thing you TALK to your partner about- it really is unfair of him to just unilaterally drop this on you. A person shouldn't feel obligated to "anything, any time" in terms of sex, but that doesn't mean there's NO obligation, if that's the form the relationship's taken. This is clearly more than just a "not tonight" thing, right? If his personality is the type that has trouble processing things or breaking tough news, you might want to give him a few more days before you do anything major.
Hmm... Come to think of it, could it be he's injured or ill or otherwise might not physically be up for it, and doesn't want to disappoint you? And is just handling it in a really stupid way? Probably not, if he's unwilling to even kiss you. Has he pushed for doing other stuff together INSTEAD of sex? It's usually women who get worried when they feel their partner's only with them for sex, or that it's all their relationship is about, but it's not unheard of for guys to do the same thing. Might that be a factor?
I think this calls for a pretty serious talk. Making that kind of sweeping declaration without even TALKING to you about it strikes me as very disrespectful. Talk to him- but think about what you want out of the relationship and what you're willing to give up for it. You may be able to find a way to make things work (especially if this is just an "I'm worried we're getting to sexual and want to back off that for a while"- in that case, you at least know it's temporary, and have a basis to start from), but you should be prepared in case it's time to move on to just being friends.
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No sex and no kissing? That's not love in a romantic sense. It's a friendship. If he persists, tell him you can still be friends and move on. Sounds like he caught religion. Seen any guys on bicycles hanging around the neighborhood?
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He's weird. Maybe someone got in his head with some ideology. I don't think he's seing anyone or is gay I think it's more likely that he got pulled into something and is changing everything about his life.
Maybe he is having a spiritual moment and looking deeper into his soul, something changed somewhere, it doesn’t just happen for no reason out of the blue, maybe reevaluating his life style but if I were you I would just say that isn’t what you signed up for and what other things are going to change? Maybe it’s best you just become friends since no sex is just friends anyway and then find someone else who wants more than friendship
well probably he realised that having orgasms is bad for you as a man, or for me personally it is. But that is not a reason to not have sex, on contrary you can have plenty of sex without orgasm at least on the male side and that brings a woman in heaven too, so actually win win.
Maybe he's conflicted due to religious beliefs? Is that a new thing for him?
You have clearly turned him gay.
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