Boyfriend all of sudden wants to be celibate?

[reallyneedanswers]

So I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. Our relationship is based on trust and sometimes we have miscommunication just like everyone else. He is a truck driver and we have sex like a week out evert month and a half. Our relationship is not based on frequent sex but he just told me he wanted to celibate for 4 or 5 months so he can be more focused. Statically you are more focused while being celibate. But I feel concerned that he has made this decision all of a sudden. When I tried to discuss more he said this was not a discussion. Am I wrong for being concerned

[Anonymous]

"It's not a discussion."

Wow. That's controlling and obnoxious as hell. Why didn't he just come out and say, "The only thing that matters is what I want and you are irrelevant."

If I were you, I'd find a new boyfriend. Lots of guys like sex.

But you've been together 5 years and you say trust is there. So I'd say something has changed. Perhaps he's done something to betray that trust and contracted a venerial disease that he doesn't want to pass on to you? Perhaps he has ED and is too embarrassed to tell you? If you love him, get to the bottom of it.

Fasting and celibacy can help you focus. But if he just wanted to focus on something, he'd be willing to talk about it. His reaction and attitude are intolerable. I wouldn't let him get away with it.

[truthbeknown]

I believe we all have the right want to like sex. When in a relationship your only true source for sex is with your partner, therefore your partner is taking away something that is rightfully yours. He is taking an element of the relationship away. So, you now have the right to end the relationship and seek that element elsewhere. He needs to know this! It isn't fair to make him do something he doesn't want to right now, but it is also unfair of him to make you go without too! I fail to see how remaining celibate helps anyone. For every stat you find that says it is does help, I bet you'll find 5 that show sex helps too, such as reducing stress, increasing bond with partner, tension release and so on.

[VictoriaVille]

I'd be ending that relationship lol he's taking the piss out of you, and has no respect for you. A guy who cares about you would consider your feelings and he'd be willing to talk about it, not shut you up. That's a huge red flag. You'd be a fool to ignore it, and to trust him.

Considering he's away a lot , you'd think he'd be horny as fuck when he sees you, not tell you he's gonna become celibate 😏 that's a red flag for sure

When I read the heading on your question , I thought you were gonna say it's cos he had decided to become a priest , not a truck driver 😏

[reallyneedanswers]

thanks for your advice and I am extremely concerned. I was able to ask how he came up with this idea and he simply said I thought about it. Then I asked him was it because if me and he said no it was because of her wanted to focus more. i inquired what he wanted to focus on he wouldn't get specific. I thought he would want me more because since he's left I lost almost 30 pounds.

[juniorsrosie]

The fact he didn't want to talk about it and is forcing you to go along with what HE wants is obnoxious and inconsiderate.
It'd be different if you didn't have a normal sex life before. But damn. I have an idea. Either find a guy who's more considerate, or tell your boyfriend since he won't give you sex you'll sleep with others until he's over his little phase. We'll see how fast he gets out of it

If it was a week I'd understand. 4-5 months? It's selfish to make you wait that long

[madhatters4]

i think you have a rigth to be concerned especially when he's given little to no reason. like how is sex currently diverting his focus would be my biggest question, since extra focus is the only reason he's given for wanting to go celibate.

[jitender2312]

just wait for a weak and then ask him if everything is alright or not.

[Anonymous]

It's because you're not good enough for him. He find better sex somewhere else.

[reallyneedanswers]

would you do that?