Should I be happy, confused or worried?

[Anonymous]

So It's 6:00a. m here my time. So my past friends with benefits and I are still up! We finally had the talk like the talk. As far as being more or staying and being friends. And I did the best, that I can do to explain to him, how I felt and how I have been feeling about him for years. I shared with him that I had feelings for him, and how I am not willing to stay in this Circle of being just your friends with benefits. Remind you guys we haven't had sex since 2020 of last year. But, I told him! how I want more then just sex because sex ain't going to cut it. So his respond was a shocker. Instead of him complaining about me not wanting to continue, sex with him. Or asking me why I don't want to keep sleeping with him. Btws, he says. (I mean it’s hard to stay in contact with for one you told you been seeing and messing around with other people so i didn't know you wanted to be with me and you just unblocked me on Fb and you didn’t give me your number so I didn’t know your feelings were real but I understand and I’m sorry you been feeling that way but like you said you not mad and I’m not either and I’m cool with just being friends). Like.. WTF!! Umm 😳😳😳. Like, yeah! I wanted us to be friends again, and without the sex. But WTF! For once! And of 8 years! He ain't tripping. Like... And is completely cool! WITH NO SEX. OKAY! Who is this guy somebody must be giving him the rodeo rides and knocking his socks off of his feet. Continue to read update the questions...

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+1 y

Well damn! Lol. Anyways. I explain my other part to him, and told him thank you and how glad I am that he understands. And I said yeah you right I should have told you how I felt but I was too nervous to tell you. So I kept shit to myself. So he then says: (Ok i understand that we live and learn but I still care for you so no hard feelings on my side I just want you to find somebody to make you happy).

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+1 y

Okay. Who the fuck is this man. I mean, I'm happy an all. But.. 😲 OMG!!! This dude! Literally who make every excuse in the world for me to keep sleeping with him, and how he didn't want to be just friends. But now (2021) I can't believe this... Y'all someone please explain. I'm not to confuse but why! Isn't he tripping? 🙃🤣..

[SwankyJon]

He realised your serious about leaving him, so by accepting you as a friend he can continue to keep you around. He'd never commit to just you, but this way he can keep you around and try again later. It's not worth being friends with him because it'll never be just friendship

[Asker]

didn’t know your feelings were real, but I understand and I’m sorry, you been feeling that way but like you said you not mad and I’m not either and I’m cool with just being friends) after all these years.. He now wants to say Okay! We can be friends. Like.. WTF! And 2021 makes it 8 years. He should have asked! I never assume that I just wanted to sex. Smh!

[SwankyJon]

I think it's just a ploy of his

[Asker]

Explain.. To me more?

[SwankyJon]

He doesn't need you for sex now and you've given him an ultimatum. By keeping you as a friend he can play on your feelings and proposition you for sex again later when he runs out of options elsewhere

[Viraj00]

Today he agreed for being just friend because you denied for friends with benefits. Because he would have thought he will get something in future rather than not agreeing today. Since he had slept with you earlier, will remind you somewhere in future and who knows you will agree in future for having some fun if you won't be satisfied with newer one. Now that makes him be ready for just friends today. May be he can try in future.

[Asker]

Truthfully! Maybe the seat was too hot for him! When I start explaining to him how I feel he's probably like oh shit! She wants to date. Some man will run around! But also. He mentioned to me about I hope you find someone who makes you happy what the f*** is that all about. This is all new too me! And hear him speak like this!! 🙃😳🤔. Who's been busting his nuts lol lmao.

[Viraj00]

Well his new girlfriend, haha lol.. Tease him that i am more happy and satisfied with newer one..! 😉 He will get jelous.

[Asker]

No I'm good! :)- he can keep her- I'm sure he will be back around. But it's better to keep my distance.

[Viraj00]

🤟🏿

[Asker]

100%

[Yourfriend2021]

It's obvious that it isn't working out. He like to have sex with you but that's about it. Maybe he cares about you as a friend but not in a relationship. And you feel upset because your heart is telling you it's not right, sorry.

[Asker]

(I didn’t know your feelings were real, but I understand and I’m sorry, you been feeling that way but like you said you not mad and I’m not either and I’m cool with just being friends) after all these years.. He now wants to say Okay! We can be friends. Like.. WTF! And 2021 makes it 8 years. But he hasn't made a move on me. Nor asked me how I felt. He always assume that I was down to fuck. SmH!

[Asker]

Then he says. I hope you find someone who makes you happy! Woah! That's the 1st

[Yourfriend2021]

If I loved a girl I wouldn't treat her like that.

[Asker]

But frfr. He knows that I am serious about the things I was telling him. He's not willing to grow up, just yet. A lot of man tend to run away when the sea gets too hot they can't handle the Heat or the pressure. And this is not him saying, that he would have committed himself to me. He felt as if I wasn't into him. But I literally can't make any excuses for him I mean 7 years of that she should have known then. Like... wtf!!

[Asker]

For real! That ain't cool. And if he somewhat did want something with me he should have got out of his head and ask. I told him that I felt like that he was stringing me along. 🤕🤷😞 I finally was being real with him and I kept it a hundred with me.

[Yourfriend2021]

Well it seems like you are confused and I don't blame you. After 8 years he should have more feelings for you than this.

[Asker]

It's probably another woman he's head over heels with. He did say, that he still cares but his mind seems to be messed up. Things are definitely different between him and I and it does seem like when we stop having sex The Vibe and chemistry is still there! But the connection doesn't stay.

[Yourfriend2021]

Maybe you should stay away from him for a while and see if he contacts you, if not just avoid him, but I'm sure it's not easy for you after 8 years. But he wants you to meet someone else? That's confusing and not right.

[Asker]

Right! That's weird! As hell. Because he has always been that guy to tell me not to date and deal with other guys. But yes I have told him about other men. But that shouldn't stop a man from wanting that girl you work harder to get her.

[Yourfriend2021]

I don't blame you for feeling hurt.

[Asker]

Well.. I don't know... If it's hurt or more of a surprise same or curiosity is what I'm feeling. 🤔🤔. But me no ask ANYMORE questions. It is what it is.. Soo.

[spartan55]

He is just saying that to keep you around... so predictable.

[SamFromFL]

He wants to have you in his life for sex

[Asker]

It was a shocker! But he says. He said, it cool that him and I can be friends. That's the 1st.. 😳😳😳

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Confused

[Asker]

Like.. I really don't want to be... But this is new... What I'm hearing from him.. 😳

[Anonymous]

I am nothing but confused.