Losing weight in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

He looks good but he's no longer like his former self. He's healthy and seems happy but his weight loss and lanky figure is hard to not notice. He was not big not thin. Just the perfect size. With heavy legs and you could see his pecs from his t shirt. His face was also chubbier. Ever since he's gotten into the relationship, he's lost weight, even from his thighs and legs, and face, and looks very thin. His face has also thinned out and gotten longer.

How can a happy relationship lead to this? He looks like a shell of his former self.

[Azelous]

Is he healthy? Is he happy with his weight loss? If so, the only conflict is between his appearance and your expectation of how he should appear. People change, I think it’s up to whether your visual appeal will as well. It’s worth talking to him about, but I would be supportive of healthy change at the cost of my partners old appearance so long as it’s not extreme.

[Asker]

He's healthy bit he admitted he has lost his healthy weight. He was never fat. He was so proportionate and his physique was amazing.

[Azelous]

There’s nothing wrong telling him you loved the way he used to look, but make sure he understands you’re not being mean about it.