Is it bad I want to lose weight before getting into a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I’ve never been in a relationship before only one night stands and I realised it was because I was terribly ashamed of my 235lbs body (I’m 5’9)
I just feel I am too insecure for a relationship and whilst I’m unhealthy there’s a high chance I won’t attract the type of partner I want, (even though I’m fat I don’t necessarily want to date someone fat)

and whilst I’m this insecure I’m probably not going to have the type of sex life I’d like to have in a relationship because obviously I’d be self concious. with that being said so far I have lost 38lbs. I’m now 194lbs.

my plan is to get to 170lbs before I start dating and looking for a serious partner. not my end goal though!

[DavidRaul]

Well if you are concerned about loosing weight to lead a healthy lifestyle. Go ahead, loose that weight. But don't you loose weight if you feel that no man would love you for the person you are. Then he isn't a mam just a boy. Its good that you are focusing on being fit and healthy. Also i wanna make it clear , if a guy is ripped , he would love you as the way you are , not if you are ripped as well.

[Fireguy17]

Not at all. Not saying this in a bad way but you will probably feel better about yourself, and that will be projected out so others will see that in you.

[exitseven]

This is good not only for your health but for your self esteem.

[BarryLiverstone]

Congrats on the weight loss, keep it up as being healthy is important. What kinda Sex life do you desire? You mentioned you can’t have that now.

[joeldalton]

Good for you for the weight loss! I'd say your plan is solid, but if someone comes along that you're interested in, don't arbitrarily pass it up.

[ZSean]

I wouldn't say it is bad as long as you are doing it for yourself and your own confidence first and foremost!

[ImNoOne111]

No. Its not. Just be careful to not go overboard as being too slim is neither attractive nor healthy

[Stevefiveo]

Totally normal. Good luck! How are you losing the weight?

[Birbman]

When it comes to weight, only do it for yourself and your health.

[one2many]

No, shit you. Might catch a 10🤞

[In_Trance]

whatever you feel is best for you