Why do men cheat with unattractive women? (Page 2)

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My boyfriend had this 2 month online relationship with a drop out, unemployed, drug addict with zero aspirations aside from coke, MDMA, and weed. She’s also a year younger than me but looked so much older and uglier because of her worn skin. My man’s friends made fun of him because “she’s cooked and fat.” All she had was boobs and a bit of butt going for her, however, I have double Ds and a nicer bum. I don’t see the point in any of what happened. She was bitchy, self hating, depressed, and REALLY stupid. Like illiterate level of stupid. In comparison I used to be a model, I have rowing and netball medals, I’m in the top 1% for academics in my country, I come from good genes, and I just got accepted into university with a scholarship. Meanwhile he comes from shit. When I started dating him he was addicted to drugs, academically weak, he was going to leave school by 16, he was depressed, and his family were a bunch of abusive crackheads. I still saw something in him though. I helped him get out of the situation he was in. He’s doing well now or at least on paper he is.  To be fair though, a lot happened to me during the 2 years of us dating. I started struggling with my mental health because of the verbal and sexual abuse I experienced by the hands of his family and some rowing coaches/boys. I also got raped by a close friend of mine which messed me up. I also had to get a spine surgery because I got so injured from sports so I work from home now but still try my best to stay toned. Yet, through it all I still succeeded in accomplishing a lot and overcame so many adversities.  When I asked him about why he cheated on me he said he liked how he had power over her because she was weak. He wanted to hurt her mentally. He never asked her for nudes or met up to be with her sexually by the way. He said he never wants to hurt me though because I’m the only person he loves. He wants me to be successful.  Do any of you have an explanation?

emilym12345 · Answer

Good for you? Just because you feel that your prettier than her doesn’t mean she’s worthless as a person and deserves to be emotionally hurt. Sure being a drug addict is pretty low and not thought highly of in society. He’s pretending to be single to at least talk to someone else literally anyone else (if this girl really is as ratchet as you say). Is this guy the love of your life? Don’t you think you can do better?

Pj1981 · Answer

1 of 2 reasons that I can think of.

1. Some men don't have a loyal bone in their body. They are dogs and will hump anyone who let's them.

2. Their attractive wife is too attractive to give him attention that the less attractive woman is more than willing to share. Doesn't always have to be sexual but he does need to know your there.

SwedishTwizz · Answer

Maybe she is many bad things but she is not here insulting you. You sound very arrogant and full of yourself. She may be unattractive but your personality is so ugly

Lazi-boi · Answer

You started dating an idiot and now complaining that he's acting like an idiot... Maybe after 30 you'll figure it out

CantGetItUp · Answer

The simple answer is you were wearing the pants in the relationship. Men don’t care about your education, they want a woman they can lead and be the man. This is something modern women don’t understand and why they end up dying alone with their dog. You say he’s on his feet now, probably why he decided to cheat. Sounds like you were the bad apple.

Brianbrake · Answer

I do not know if she is unattractive as you say but you are not attractive to me. Everyone has different tastes.

Celtero · Answer

My guess is that he identified with her more because they had similar upbringings.  Also, how was it cheating if nothing happened between them and he never made an effort to?

Anonymous · Answer

🤣🤣🤣 yeah. I could try to explain it to you but it would require you re-examining your choices. Coming down off your high horse. Something you won't do. And in the end you'll just get passed. Curse me. Then probably. So why don't we just save time and skip to the end. Lol

MCheetah · Answer

Maybe he doesn't like tall athletic girls who look kinda transwomanish. Who knows?

SleepyFlower · Answer

If that's you in the pic you're ugly too, and I would steal him from your ugly ass, he's sexy and I want him 💟

Birdlegs · Answer

She may be unattractive to you but he clearly likes something about her maybe multiple somethings

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Maybe the less attractive lady is a more emotionally satisfying person for him to interact with. Personality is hugely important. Men aren't only interested in how you look.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

She is your competition, all women are. If a woman likes me she will make it easy every time. Her interest in him could simply be higher than yours

Babygirl_S · Answer

Unattractive men do it. Other guys pick more feminine women for cheating and masculine looking women for marriage. Studies prove it and I have also seen real examples of ridiculously handsome men favouring big and masculine women.

thimmslicc · Answer

I honestly think he is on drugs.  you're all still very young. I would move on if u were you.  Do yourself a favor, and start your adult life, stop worrying about a cheater.

raton21 · Answer

PEOPLE DON'T HAVE SEX JUST BECAUSE OF PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS... I think you need to know this considering how much you compare yourself to her

spartan55 · Answer

You need to learn some humility. Him cheating has nothing to do with looks.

Slartybartfast · Answer

If someone cut me up like that online I wouldn't want to be around her either.

Apple1996 · Answer

The ugly ones are more available and easier to score

jamesgoldman · Answer

Because it's easy I'd guess I don't do easy unless it lands in my lap because only an idiots doesn't take that

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