Guys, Would u accept an invitation to a gay man's house that you suspected was into you?

[Anonymous]

Like you know him as an acquaintance and u get along well together. Would you be ok hanging out at his place if he invited you?

Yes

No

[Jake99999]

Uh... come over alone to his house because he invited me over? Is he inviting me over to help him move some furniture or something, as a friend. Sure I would. If he was inviting me over for dinner just to hang out... I would look at it differently - and not because I am against gay people, but because I am not into men and I would not want there to be any awkward situation.

Anyone being honest is going to tell you that you would be wondering if the person was intending to hit on you. I have no problem hanging out with people of various orientations at work or parties or whatever, but a gay man that knows me - wants me to come over to his house alone for dinner and a few beers? could be awkward.

Look at it this way. If an attractive woman invited me over to her house alone for dinner, I would think that there was some intention there, and if I was available and into her I would welcome it - if a guy is into other guys and invites you over, you gotta wonder if the same dynamic is in play. If you are hetero you would not be interested. Better to turn down the dinner invitation so they get the message, versus going over there and having things get awkward for both people.

I would think that most gay men would understand how this might seem uncomfortable to a straight guy... and just wouldn't do it. Its too easy to be interpreted as an attempt to hit on you - and be uncomfortable. Unless he suspects you maybe are gay yourself and he is trying to connect. Either way, if you are a straight man, you don't want to be in that situation.

[spartan55]

Here's the thing for all you homophobes: if a gay guy knows you are straight (and they know, trust me) they have ZERO interest in you. They don't to recruit you to their team either.

[talover]

Yes and no. I have several homosexual and same sex attraction friends that know I am straight. For the most part they all understand that and respect that, until...

One day I after a hang out, I gave one these friends of mine a ride home. During the ride we had small talk but as we neared his home he brought up a heavy topic about his same sex attraction. When we arrived, I pulled over on the street in front of his apartment, it was around 11 p. m. It was a strange conversation because he was sharing some struggles that I could not relate to and then it happened. He leaned over towards me in my car and was aiming his mouth towards mine, "holy shit!" I thought. And just the like the Flash superhero, I responded with a palm block within a millisecond, and said, "nope that's not happening, Chris. I don't know what the hell you're thinking but you've crossed the line in our friendship." He retreated in utter defeat and apologized.

We're still friends many years later but we don't hang out like we used to. Perhaps he knew that if he invited me into his apartment I'd say no, so he took the opportunity to make his move in my car.

I don't consider myself a homophobe but what he did to me was just wrong. He's really a great guy to be around and hang out with but anymore lonely invitations between us, and I'll be highly suspicious.

[zagor]

For a party or something, sure. As an individual, it would depend on what it was for.

[Dchrls78104]

NEVER. I'd keep a FAR distance from him and I'd want him to do me the same favor.

[Hypnos0929]

Lmao no. Why would anyone do that? If it were a woman I'm not into I'm not going either.

[OlderAndWiser]

The best way to deal with trouble is to avoid it.

[Dchrls78104]

Well said.