Guys, do you get more interested in a girl when you know she has options?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes girls get more interested in a guy when they find out he has a lot of options. I can be guilty of it. Is it the same with guys?

[Anonymous]

we're the opposite of women in this regard. If we like someone we like them. But if she has lots of options that just risks having more trust issues down the road. since promiscuity is championed now for woman and bashing men is everywhere we are incentivized to believe a "shine girl" is probably not the one to wife up if we decided that marriage still held any real benefit to us. I probably would have cameras all over my house if she was a hottie just so when I'm working she's not fucking another dude in my bed. See back in the day when we had real competition we actually got by on merit and shit. Nowadays women are taking all comers into the bedroom and giving them access rather than men who are truly worthy. What determines a man's worth? His dedication to his mate, his family, his community. These bad boys are often all bark, no bite. They also tend to end up wife beaters and dead beat dads. Those aren't men but somehow they're the ones getting the chicks now. It's truly unbelievable how backwards society is now.

[Browneye57]

For girls it's called 'pre-selection'. The assumption is that if he has lots of options he must be desirable, and women are extremely competitive. So it's like a challenge to land him.
It's not so much like that with a guys. What he really looks for is HER level of attraction and desire for HIM. He's most interested in HER interest in him. If she's not, he'll tend to look elsewhere. Guys understand that you simply cannot negotiate attraction and desire - for either gender. It's either there or it's not, you can't MAKE it happen.

[EternallyCorrect]

Not really. The struggles for men and women are different.

Women can always find guys who want to date them, and especially guys who want to get laid. Their struggle is keeping an attractive guy around.

For a man, if a girl likes you enough to have sex with you it’s pretty easy to assume that she wants a long-term relationship with you. But for many men they’re not confident enough, attractive enough, or they bore women, so their struggle is getting dates and sex in the first place.

So you’re a woman who has other guys after you? No shit, so do most women. The man with options is more interesting to you because most men are not that guy.

[Novacane]

I would say no, obviously, there are some men out there who will especially if the guy is good-looking and is confident that he can get her but in a most-case scenario I don't think they get more interested, also my experience. Don't feel guilty if anything most girls are like that, the reason behind it is because girls want the best guy there is, and that usually is a guy that every girl wants and every guy wants to be. For men it is quite different, men like girls who don't really have all the guys because a girl with options will most likely not even pay attention to you, therefore, most guys would just stop.

[raw_is_war99]

Not really, eventually it turns me off. That's nothing against her, if she's pretty I know guys will pursue her, it's not rocket science for me. I just feel like girls who know she has more options in her teens, 20s and even early 30s will prefer fooling around and having fun. As I'm getting older I want a girl who's more serious. To chase a girl with hundreds of guys after her is tiring, I don't know how girls seek that much attention and feel good. I feel odd when a girl says I'm cute or attractive because I'm not used to that attention. Point is, as a guy it's exhausting trying to woo her because 50+ guys are probably doing the same thing every single day.

[Aethereal]

Nope, I lose interest. If I know a girl has options, it means she can drop me the moment a better "option" appears. I am temporary at best, until someone better shows up. That knowledge is a huge turn-off. I have no interest in doing a "pick-me" dance with other strangers for her attention.

[JoJoiLL]

No, I actually make a point of trying not to get suckered in like the other guys. Even if I find her attractive. This has sometimes led me to behave a little mean towards women like that but I think it's worth it so that what ever relationship we might end up with (even friendship) she respects me. It's not a jealousy thing - I'm actually very easygoing, it's just that a woman who gets constant attention from men will often take them for granted in my experience. So if I'm going to have anything to do with, she needs to know, that's not going fly with me.

[Asker]

Would you date her?

[ZackBan]

I got news for you: all girls have options, that's how the market is split. Men are so hungry for a relationship that no matter gow repulsive a girl is you'll find an army of desperate guys chasing after her.
So no it's not attractive because it's not uncommon unlike a guy with options which makes up 20% of the male population

[MCheetah]

More like 5-10% of the male population, but yes.

[Anonymous]

Not really the same thing with guys. Since we tend to be attracted to smoking hotties, we already KNOW they'll have a lot of options. It's not their having of options that we find attractive--it's their hotness.

I think where it's different for girls is that you seem to like guys who have high social status. So the fact that there are a lot of (attractive) girls who are into a guy suggests to you that the guy has something going on. In other words, if what you find attractive about a guy is intrinsically less observable (compared, say to a svelte body with big, firm boobs and a bubble butt!) then the fact that others have "done the work" already and figured out the dude is a "catch" makes him attractive to you.

It's why celebrity dudes are attractive to women but ONLY when they recognize them as celebs. Whereas a model is going to attract dudes like flies whether he knows who she is or not.

[ChiTown33]

No. If anything it might even be the opposite. It's hard to say because ingeneral a woman being in demand does make her more attractive just like a guy. But her being more independent also make it much less likely I'm the guy she'll choose. So why would that make me more interested. Hey guess what my odds of being rejected just went up. Hooray! Lol

[rjroy3]

No. But I get a bigger pride boost if I do get with her that night whike other guys were actively trying to get with her. Because in that context I win.

But if a guy is pursuing a girl that I'm not interested in, then good for him lol. I don't care

[Jake99999]

No. I don’t care about that we all. It’s a non factor. Everyone has options. I am either into her or I am not. If I am not really into someone, and then I find out she has options…. it means nothing to me. I am still not into her. Think about what that would mean. You just want them so someone else cannot have them? It’s a stupid reason to be with someone.

[Rab1901]

It depends on what you mean by interest. If you word it like that, I would say many guys would be interested to have sex solely as a challenge but there is no quality guy who would say he's more interested to get to know a girl because a girl has many options. Do most high quality girls have lots of options? Yes, but that has nothing to do with why a quality guy would like a girl and/or commit to a girl although he might wonder what the hype about this girl is all about.

[Rab1901]

So you might get a guy's attention initially but won't get a guy's love essentially

[DonkeyDan]

I'm certainly not interested in a woman with no opinions, but there is a limit I guess. Not just women though, people that have way to many opinions drive me up the wall. I don't have an opinion on everything and if it's something I don't know anything about I can't have an opinion on it. But there are just some people that have an opinion on everything even it they know fuck all about it.

[Ousaf1]

It is the complete opposite for men since women search for the "most high value male" while men search for a woman that doesn't have other men in her life. It's simple biology tbh men just want to spread their seed and women look for the most high value male to mate so they can get good off springs.

[ArrowheadSW]

They say that actually is a thing. Because the guy has lots of options with other women shows that he is desirable to the opposite gender, and subconsciously women are attracted to that.

But the other way around, where the woman has lot of options? I'm not sure. The guy might be intimidated and not want to potentially compete. Or the guy might see the woman as "a good catch" since she has other options.

[Anonymous]

No she's ran through and she's on the cock carousel probably or she might be retired ex cock carousel rider. So no it doesn't matter about your options women will always want that quality guy that she can't have. That girl have 7 thousand followers on TikTok 5 thousand on IG and most of em tell her you're beautiful but wait a minute she sends me do you really think I'm beautiful? She tries hard to get me but I won't have low quality women in my life probably the 10k followers are not quality and they're just follower that's why I follow no women in social media actually I wiped them time ago.

Your options doesn't make you attractive for good quality men

[Somoneelse]

I think this is different for every guy. For me its a dealbreaker because that means you can get dumped and replaced by every second that ticks. I want to be sure she wants me and I want her. Not like I'm just a toy for one day to be thrown away the other day.

[hellacray]

Well I'm not surprised by women being interested in a guy that's surrounded by other women.

But I don't think guys feel the same way lol.

For me I'd just say forget it and go for someone else. Cause assuming she only chooses one guy and she has like 20 men after her.

The chances of her choosing me is very slim. And this is before knowing if we're even compatible.

[FatherJack]

No , not the same with men , the genders are polar opposites in most respects , Nearly every woman has male options , with men it is the reverse. Same with male level of interest , a woman with a lot of options , will not increase interest level , if anything it may repel some of those potential options.

[magiusX26]

does not affect me. however i find the more interested in us if we have more options thing slightly off putting and to be honest about it, if i found out that was what "won her over" i would likely distance myself from her. that insicates she doesn't truly like me for me but instead likes me for what i mite have/be.

[Anonymous]

No. Not the same for guys.

it's possible this goes back to the fact that for a woman, sleeping with a guy who slept with a lot of women had a better chance of producing offspring who in turn slept with a lot women. For guys, sleeping with a girl who slept with a lot of men had a better chance that she was already pregnant, and in any case you shouldn't get attached because her kids could be anyone's.

[atlas56656]

Not particularly, as it doesn't inspire confidence that if she is interested in you she will stay interested in you for long, no-one male or female likes to feel like they are 1st choice today but have lots of competition so might end up being 3rd place tomorrow.

[hahahmm]

No. It's just a coincidence that multiple guys often find the same woman attractive. And if you mean a woman who is actually whoring with a bunch of dudes, that's a turn off if he's looking for serious.

[Majeston]

If she has options I can't compete with, I'll lose interest. Also the more interest she has in the options, I think the more most guys will start to check out.

[MCheetah]

No. Far less interested. Who needs that bullsh*t. In fact, I'd say, this is only how women think. It's basically Hypergamy. Guys don't like nor want competition.

[MrOracle]

No. Being in competition with other men for women is the norm for men, so it isn't special, nor does it bring extra attraction points, at least for the majority of men.

[FilmGuy93]

No. It's honestly super cringey when a woman makes a point of telling me about the men eyeing her up. I had an ex do that. Even though I get why she did it (she wasn't trying to make a me jealous), it still left a bad taste in my mouth.

[Anonymous]

It depends on how much effort she's putting into me. If she has options and is showing more interest in someone else then my interest goes down. She has to pursue me enough for me to put in the effort. I'm not going to waste my time with somebody like that.

[Bluemax]

No. I get interested in a girl because she's attractive. This usually comes with her having more options because she's attractive.

[Adam1978]

No personally I don't think women are worth competing about. So unless I win by default. It would make me less interested.

[Anonymous]

Nope the total opposite actually because I know she's going to choose any one of the "options" over me, that's pretty much a guarantee (based on past experiences).

[nickaboy]

Same here and then they come back crying to you. But keep going with that dude