Guys, do you get more interested in a girl when you know she has options?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes girls get more interested in a guy when they find out he has a lot of options. I can be guilty of it. Is it the same with guys?

[Anonymous]

we're the opposite of women in this regard. If we like someone we like them. But if she has lots of options that just risks having more trust issues down the road. since promiscuity is championed now for woman and bashing men is everywhere we are incentivized to believe a "shine girl" is probably not the one to wife up if we decided that marriage still held any real benefit to us. I probably would have cameras all over my house if she was a hottie just so when I'm working she's not fucking another dude in my bed. See back in the day when we had real competition we actually got by on merit and shit. Nowadays women are taking all comers into the bedroom and giving them access rather than men who are truly worthy. What determines a man's worth? His dedication to his mate, his family, his community. These bad boys are often all bark, no bite. They also tend to end up wife beaters and dead beat dads. Those aren't men but somehow they're the ones getting the chicks now. It's truly unbelievable how backwards society is now.

[Browneye57]

For girls it's called 'pre-selection'. The assumption is that if he has lots of options he must be desirable, and women are extremely competitive. So it's like a challenge to land him.
It's not so much like that with a guys. What he really looks for is HER level of attraction and desire for HIM. He's most interested in HER interest in him. If she's not, he'll tend to look elsewhere. Guys understand that you simply cannot negotiate attraction and desire - for either gender. It's either there or it's not, you can't MAKE it happen.

[EternallyCorrect]

Not really. The struggles for men and women are different.

Women can always find guys who want to date them, and especially guys who want to get laid. Their struggle is keeping an attractive guy around.

For a man, if a girl likes you enough to have sex with you it’s pretty easy to assume that she wants a long-term relationship with you. But for many men they’re not confident enough, attractive enough, or they bore women, so their struggle is getting dates and sex in the first place.

So you’re a woman who has other guys after you? No shit, so do most women. The man with options is more interesting to you because most men are not that guy.

[Novacane]

I would say no, obviously, there are some men out there who will especially if the guy is good-looking and is confident that he can get her but in a most-case scenario I don't think they get more interested, also my experience. Don't feel guilty if anything most girls are like that, the reason behind it is because girls want the best guy there is, and that usually is a guy that every girl wants and every guy wants to be. For men it is quite different, men like girls who don't really have all the guys because a girl with options will most likely not even pay attention to you, therefore, most guys would just stop.

[raw_is_war99]

Not really, eventually it turns me off. That's nothing against her, if she's pretty I know guys will pursue her, it's not rocket science for me. I just feel like girls who know she has more options in her teens, 20s and even early 30s will prefer fooling around and having fun. As I'm getting older I want a girl who's more serious. To chase a girl with hundreds of guys after her is tiring, I don't know how girls seek that much attention and feel good. I feel odd when a girl says I'm cute or attractive because I'm not used to that attention. Point is, as a guy it's exhausting trying to woo her because 50+ guys are probably doing the same thing every single day.

[Aethereal]

Nope, I lose interest. If I know a girl has options, it means she can drop me the moment a better "option" appears. I am temporary at best, until someone better shows up. That knowledge is a huge turn-off. I have no interest in doing a "pick-me" dance with other strangers for her attention.

[JoJoiLL]

No, I actually make a point of trying not to get suckered in like the other guys. Even if I find her attractive. This has sometimes led me to behave a little mean towards women like that but I think it's worth it so that what ever relationship we might end up with (even friendship) she respects me. It's not a jealousy thing - I'm actually very easygoing, it's just that a woman who gets constant attention from men will often take them for granted in my experience. So if I'm going to have anything to do with, she needs to know, that's not going fly with me.

[Asker]

Would you date her?

[ZackBan]

I got news for you: all girls have options, that's how the market is split. Men are so hungry for a relationship that no matter gow repulsive a girl is you'll find an army of desperate guys chasing after her.
So no it's not attractive because it's not uncommon unlike a guy with options which makes up 20% of the male population

[MCheetah]

More like 5-10% of the male population, but yes.

[Anonymous]

Not really the same thing with guys. Since we tend to be attracted to smoking hotties, we already KNOW they'll have a lot of options. It's not their having of options that we find attractive--it's their hotness.

I think where it's different for girls is that you seem to like guys who have high social status. So the fact that there are a lot of (attractive) girls who are into a guy suggests to you that the guy has something going on. In other words, if what you find attractive about a guy is intrinsically less observable (compared, say to a svelte body with big, firm boobs and a bubble butt!) then the fact that others have "done the work" already and figured out the dude is a "catch" makes him attractive to you.

It's why celebrity dudes are attractive to women but ONLY when they recognize them as celebs. Whereas a model is going to attract dudes like flies whether he knows who she is or not.

[ChiTown33]

No. If anything it might even be the opposite. It's hard to say because ingeneral a woman being in demand does make her more attractive just like a guy. But her being more independent also make it much less likely I'm the guy she'll choose. So why would that make me more interested. Hey guess what my odds of being rejected just went up. Hooray! Lol

[rjroy3]

No. But I get a bigger pride boost if I do get with her that night whike other guys were actively trying to get with her. Because in that context I win.

But if a guy is pursuing a girl that I'm not interested in, then good for him lol. I don't care

[Jake99999]

No. I don’t care about that we all. It’s a non factor. Everyone has options. I am either into her or I am not. If I am not really into someone, and then I find out she has options…. it means nothing to me. I am still not into her. Think about what that would mean. You just want them so someone else cannot have them? It’s a stupid reason to be with someone.