I asked out the guy I’ve liked for three years in an utterly embarrassing way. Is there hope?

[Bi_Judgment_4092]

I wanted to ask him out. So I asked my friend to come but he was nothing but unhelpful. The moment we saw him, he called my crush over and said things like, “you're freezing up. Tell him.” And, “You have three seconds to tell him or I’m going to.” And even went as far as to say, “I’m your wingman. This is what I’m supposed to do.” While We were speaking to him. to which my crush replied with, “or stand in the back and go, ‘ohhh!’” While covering his mouth. It was awful. I was embarrassed and nervous. My plan was to ask him to hang out sometime. But it was obvious what was going on now and so I said, “It’s obvious what’s going on here now. Do you have a girlfriend?” To which he replied with, “No.” and then I said. (And don’t blame me I was scared.) “do you want one?” At this point, he’s smiling. Though I couldn’t tell if it was him laughing at me, an awkward smile, or a genuine one. He said- and these are his exact words. “I’m thinking about it.” And that was it. He’d acknowledge me in the hallways, giving me a fist bump or a small nod of his head when we would make eye contact but then today I decided to finally confront it. Two weeks later- and I said, “I’m sorry for the other week. I was nervous and it was awful and embarrassing and awful. But I hope we can still be friends.” I wanted him to know that even if he said no to a relationship, I’d like to be friends and he held his hand out and I took it. He held onto my hand for a moment and when I let go, he did. I had shook his hand slightly, thinking that was what he wanted, but he didn’t shake my hand. It’s hard to explain. I think Maybe he was trying to hold my hand And I didn’t realize? But it could have been wishful thinking. but then he gave me a small high-five thing afterwards and said very quietly, “okay.” That was it. Just so low that I could barely hear him. And that was it. did I screw things up? Is there a chance he likes me back? Or was that rejection? Did I friendzone him? Advice/opinions?

[Anonymous]

Hm it’s confusing. Did he tell you he wants to be friends or no?


Is there any way you can message him? And meet him alone? Not with friends. Be careful with such friends who speak for your name what you like etc usually those friends don’t want to see the best of you , they don’t seem respectful.
I don’t think the guy doesn’t like you. There is chance he might like but he might be one of those people as me who like to be respected and asked in private.
How about you message him if anything and see if he imitates from there.

[Anonymous]

don't bring your friend along next time. i know he was trying to help but just made the situation more awkward. you would of done better by yourself. the situation is recoverable and if you want to know how watch the scene from the ugly truth where gerard butler's character and katherine heigel are in the office on the phone talking to the doctor and playing hard to get. in your situation you got to flip the script around and let him chase you for a while. just watch the scene in the movie you'll get the idea

[R4zor]

I would hang out but won't commit cuz in these 3 years you've been interested in someone else

[Wise4myage]

The important thing here, is that you had the courage to ask him out.

[Iron_Man]

Basically it’s up to him to decide

[In_Trance]

Tldr... What was his answer?