Why is no sex a deal breaker for men? (Page 2)

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I just read a question in Quora about this. A girl had a boyfriend break up with her because she wanted to wait until marriage for sex and she was a virgin.  Do men really not like the girl? If you like someone’s personality you should wait until they are ready for sex. Why break up with a girl when you want to have sex and she doesn’t want to?  I met men that offered that I live with them but the moment I don’t seem into sex I was out. They were bad older men too but I wonder if that’s the majority now. I think they are rushing into fire and it’s naive to think a woman will like you enough after just meeting you for sex. It doesn’t seem right.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

This depends. Many women will make a guy they are "dating" wait for sex but freely give sex away for random "hookups".

If she is honestly waiting for marriage, not just playing a guy, this is a different story.

es20490446e · Answer

There are people that want the same as you, and people that don't. Your job is to figure out if both of you want the same beforehand, peacefully.

Anonymous · Answer

there's nothing wrong with that. Im religious and wish i could find a girl like that. But on the flip side it makes me wonder if the marriage would also be sexless or if she would have a very low sex drive or even if she is picky about things that i might like. I think it’s something worth talking about especially if your waiting so there aren’t assumptions and fear

Anonymous · Answer

Hmmmm. . . okay, let's say she doesn't want sex. Honestly, that's cool. BUT. . .

. . . she can't then ask that the dude doesn't have sex with other chicks! You've got to give in order to get. In order to get sexual exclusivity from a man, you need to give him sex. Otherwise, he's in the same position with you as he is with the other 4 billion females on the planet--not having sex.

fred_durst · Answer

sexual Compatibility is very important
imagine this , a girl is waiting til marriage to have sex , only to find that her husband can not even get hard on their first night ,
they will surely ended up get divorced sooner or later

Winter-needs-to-know · Answer

I think that the fact that we need to ask such a question should not be needed if you feel like you should wait then do that. But just know that from 8th grade to 30-year-olds when they see a cute girl one of the first things they think about is having sex with them.

RawIronhide · Answer

I'm offended, not that anyone cares cuz I'm I white man. Try asking " is no sex a deal breaker?" Instead of assuming every guy is the same and you've talked to them all.

JohnDeb · Answer

Most guys are wired for relief beyond their natural control. I think many times there are different ways to meet his needs and still keep him especially if he loves the girl. It is a two-way street and doesn't have to be the traditional way. A girl can slow it down so she can figure it out that many guys would be willing to do for a girl they love... Chastity on him. Takes courage to get it across to him. Many won't, but if he loves her he will.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

When it comes to a relationship if we aren’t getting sex in a relationship it only means we will get it out of a relationship & like the old saying goes PUT OUT OR GET OUT.

Anonymous · Answer

I kinda understand why men are like that. I have a very high sex drive and tbh I wouldn’t want to be with a man who wants to get married before having sex. Sex is something that is important for most people, and it can also bring you closer/be more intimate.

TwistedSukuna · Answer

I wouldn't really care if a girl wanted to wait until marriage tbh, if she wants to wait I'm fine with it, if she doesn't that's cool too

Kaneki05 · Answer

No sex isn't a deal breaker to me. Not having sex until marriage out of dumb reasons like religion is.

Anonymous · Answer

Most men want sex. If she's going to financially trap you into a long term contractual commitment with harsh financial penalties, then you better know what you're getting.

Would you buy a car without test driving it? Or a house sight-unseen?

Juxtapose · Answer

I don't believe in marriage so why would I get with someone who's going to wait for that when I can just get with someone who has my sexual values?

I don't like women who shy away from sex and I make a firm habit of not dating them.

dudeinohio · Answer

You people who support waiting for sex just don't get it.

You gotta " try it before you buy it" You need to check for sexual compatibility before you marry. I would not go into a marriage and find out she isn't even into sex at all.

exitseven · Answer

A lot of guys are just in the relationship for the sex. They do not see the big picture.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Sex is important but I totally agree with you. I had a guy break up with me because of that when I was still a virgin.

jgibsonian1986 · Answer

in my opinion sex evolves relationships. If you don't have a solid and static basis for that relationship it's evolution will just fail miserably.

MrJMM · Answer

I'm gonna say some men I think having sex is the only “prove” they have that they are a man if not they will not feel like a man... I'm only saying this because I heard that from personal experience.

Jayplays900 · Answer

It isn't for me. If you are a good person and treat me well, then you gain a potential relationship in my head. Intercourse for me is only good whenever everyone wants it

Soleil7001 · Answer

For anyone who wants to experiment and leave, it's a deal breaker. Only those who want to start a family are happy to wait for that to be the agreed intention/goal of the relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

We need sex so if we're waiting for marriage for you we're going to fuck other girls in the meantime. Not a problem because it would be good to have you as a virgin at marriage.

Billlewis · Answer

It's not a deal breaker for me, unless she's not having any sex at all.

Anonymous · Answer

Sex for me is an important aspect of a relationship. It's the time when you're truly being intimate and nothing else matters apart from the love you have for one another. I don't just want a friend, I want someone who shares their body with me, because otherwise what's the point in calling them your girlfriend? You might aswell just be their friend.

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

Who knows but I dont care, ic he can't wait we werent ment to be, it is what it is.

Anonymous · Answer

Female: " ... I think sex is such a journey because of the emotional side to it. "  Male: " ... What do mean "emotional side? " THAT'S the difference between men and women when it comes to sex

EnglishArtsteacher · Answer

Because men are selfish pricks lol.  It's the truth.

Anonymous · Answer

This is what I think. When a guy loves a girl he’s gonna feel an urge to be intimate with her. Some guys just aren’t strong enough to wait for someone they like.

gabriel85 · Answer

I would love a girl who would wait. Not for an unlimited, but a reasonable time.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Everyone has the right to decide whether they want premarital sex or not and neither is wrong for their choice.

Anonymous · Answer

If she's virgin and want till marriage then that's great that's show she have ethics and it's rare to find a woman like that today I would say his loss

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Joshua0213 · Answer

When I'm older and ready to get married id be fine with no sex till marriage but as of now I don't want to for a east 5 years and no way I'm waiting that long

thatkendy · Answer

Because men are told they have to have a high sex-drive which many internalise.

Anonymous · Answer

Marrying someone you’ve never had sex with? You’re missing critical aspects of your relationship. I would want to know about what I’m getting into before I commit to a person.

Michaline · Answer

Every man is different, I dated men who just wanted non stop sex, which isn't for me, but I recently met this wonderful man, he loves me and my daughter, he said that even if we don't have kids of our own that me and my daughter is enough for him

jasco · Answer

Honestly I don't even know if i want kids at this point so sex wouldn't be something high on my list

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

If I’m not saving myself for marriage why would I wait around for “Years” to get married and then have sex, that doesn’t sound crazy too you

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Guys are naturally motivated by sex. It is a much higher and essential factor. It’s next to food/water/shelter

HaveNoName · Answer

These are guys who do not believe in marriage. But then, guys are not the only ones who don't. Where does hookup culture come from ?

AmeerX · Answer

I think the reason is that girls then pull off marriage and jump relationships for their own convenience till marriage

SenseiSeptred · Answer

For me, it is different because I am not a guy that is all that into sex because of things that have happened to me in the past.

Slim57 · Answer

For putting up with all your emotional BS you gotta give us something

Tstrbrainer · Answer

You can't just get everything because you are a woman.  Sex is important for many, if you don't want to have sex soon, better find guys sharing such mentality. You can't expect others to change

Browneye57 · Answer

I guess you're stupid. Fucking clueless, in fact. Oh well.

elevenoneoneblog · Answer

Because that is the only thing you have to offer. You don't cook, you don't clean. You know nothing about home management. of course you are going to start telling me you are a NAWALt.

_piotr · Answer

"And marriage would of meant sex forever" <-- This is false!!!

Tomsta · Answer

People generally like sex. Most people dont want to wait till marridge, i dont its a stupid custom

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

This is your own fault. After the sexual revolution marriage became useless.

xf25x · Answer

Because guys want sex more than they really want a relationship

ToastyOats · Answer

If your not ready for sex, your not ready for a relationship. That definitely falls into the  "needing to work on yourself" category!

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

To who isn't? No sex is a deal breaker to girls too. Sex feels good and is part of a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Because she wasn't worth the wait. Maybe she looked so-so. Maybe her personality wasn't amazing. Maybe she wouldn't have been able to add real value to his life. Or maybe thats just how he felt about her.

Anonymous · Answer

One of the reasons it's a Deal Breaker is because sex is easier to get now. Women need to bring a lot more to the table than just sex. Men aren't the ones who usually initiate the divorces either so we're much less likely to commit.

Clarke498 · Answer

Because it's the most intimate and pleasurable thing can do as a couple. So to take that away from us..

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Women have one purpose for a man. To have sex with him. If she won't put out, she serves no purpose.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, I am looking for a woman who is waiting for marriage. I don't want to be with anyone who isn't.

Anonymous · Answer

Is it a deal breaker if he said he didn't want to marry till after 30? There's a good reason I ask this.

Anonymous · Answer

You are not open minded. It won't be worth explaining basic human biology to you. Go with god then. Bon Voyage.

Marinepilot · Answer

They’re not stupid. You are for being a stick in the mud. Put out or get out !

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