So as mentioned before my coworker said I talk about you so my son wants to meet you take you to lunch. He likes to know people who are in my life can I give him your number? It's just lunch nothing else. Anyways , I initially said ," cool it's football season it would be cool to have a guy friend tag along and bar hop." After she had already given my number she says," no he doesn't want to watch football with you he wants to have lunch with you. He's going back to college and he has a good job he's just below a lawyer. Do you like husky guys?" That put me off because that sounds like she's trying to play matchmaker. I'm not interested in a coworker son and he doesn't sound appealing at all. I told her I'm not interested in that right now. Anyways the son text me. Once I figured out what they were up to such as matchmaker I ignored. Then he message again.
He should've gotten the clue. You did the right thing.
This is sad you should respond to him.
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Again, I've never met nor seen this guy in my life
The coworkers son continued. Should my coworkers son have gotten a clue by now? Is he being weird?
His mother seems like the bigger weirdo and so she made a possible weirdo son. Who knows what this weirdo mother said to the son? So I'm kinda leaning towards giving him the benefit of the doubt and being reasonably friendly (albeit perhaps distant) and showing no signs of wanting to date. He might be some innocent third party just like you are in this context... or not (more likely), and maybe he's a weirdo son raised by a weirdo mom. But that mom is the ultimate troublesome one as I see it. She's the kingpin of this whole fiasco.
Normally I'd think just block unsolicited guys but this is an especially tricky scenario where you gotta deal with the mom who might be like, "Did you get my son's messages!" Geez! What a nightmare. So I think the only resolution to this if you hang around can't come from ignoring. You gotta communicate quite honestly at some point to somebody: him or the mother. But you might be able to ease into it.
One thing I can say quite confidently is that ignoring and putting things off isn't an option here short of leaving that job. This is probably gonna work its way to a scenario where you gotta express your true mind to one of these two people. It'll probably be less dramatic if you can do it sooner to one or the other or both.
When the time eventually comes where you have to tell one of these two people what you really feel, try to do it calmly. Don't let anger or being upset motivate you. Be the bigger person.
Well I finally text back so that I can ease him out the way. I said I'm doing good you. He responded:I'm pretty good any plans next weekend? I wanna know what his mom said so I can let him know like hey your mom and I are coworkers. I dont think it's appropriate to hang out.
Yeah, it sounds like potential trouble to date the family of colleagues. I was thinking if his mother is real pushy and can't take a hint, maybe he could... although very awkward if both can't take a hint.
Yeah and the fact he said," I'm pretty good any plans next weekend." I'm thinking like dude I've never seen or met you before like wtf and what makes him think I want to spend my weekend around him. I want time to myself
Spamming a girl you never met before, never been in contact with and without being clear about what your end game is, so many red flags, you could braid them.
Yeah I told a woman who was sort of like a teacher but not quite on email that I fancy her before... No reply... I got the hint right away... I'm not attractive to her
Very sneaky move from your coworker be careful in future, hiding true intentions and then bam revealing something else. Yea that was lame on their side to do this.
You're, right, you don't owe any explanation. But responding to him and declining his overtures doesn't require you to give one. I'm playing devils advocate slightly here, and I agree with you. How is your relationship with that coworker?
He's not giving me anything to decline via text 🤣. He just said what I posted. I'm cordial with her we get along. I've worked with her since 2017. He should know better. If his mom says he's just below a lawyer we'll that's another thing. Any lawyer would know boundaries and lack of professionalism. But then again he's not even a lawyer so..
True, he should know better. But she should have known better first, and it never even got to him. I think I'd pissed the most about her just handing out your phone number without your permission. That would really irk me. Him being 'just below a lawyer' (whatever the fuck that is) isn't relevant to his social skills. I've known some doctors, attorneys, executives with some absolutely awful social skills. Hopefully after two messages he gets the hint.
See she started out with my son likes to know who I know and would like to take you to lunch. Me being naive I said, " it's football season sure I would definitely like to have a male friend to bar hop with during football season." After she gave him my number she then says no he doesn't want to watch football with you he wants to sit and have lunch with you. Once I realized she was trying to play matchmaker I was instantly put off.
My close friend he stays in AZ the other in Nevada (we were coworker) played pool and bar hopped during sports seasons. It was fun. So thats what I was expecting
Because they're desperate. Have u read any of their post here? " why won't my boyfriend answer my calls, text, snapchats? I see his green light on on Facebook so I know he has his phone."🙄.. I didn't pay their votes much mind
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