Why does his son lately walk in on us?

[Anonymous]

I've been casually seeing a divorced guy for 2 months. He told me a lot about his son and that he always walks into his room early in the morning to snuggle with his father. Since I left rather early I never happened to see him however lately he keeps walking in on us at midnight and crawls under the blanket so that his father lies between us. I even saw him sneak a glance at me over his fathers shoulder. Now every time I visit him he joins us at midnight without saying a word and he never talks about me the next day. Why does he do that? by the way he is 7 and quite smart

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah girl, that's kind of an awkward situation. A few thoughts on why the son may be acting that way:

- At his age, he's developing attachments and getting used to routines. Seeing you there could be disruptive to what he's used to with just dad.

- He may sense you're becoming important to dad and wants to assert his place/bond with his father. Kids that age can get possessive.

- Sneaking glances shows curiosity. He's trying to scope you out and figure out if you're a threat to his time with dad or not.

- I'd gently bring it up with the dad. Suggest setting some boundaries so son learns he can't barge in whenever. But do it kindly so no one feels rejected.

- Be warm but not too friendly with the son yet. Let him get used to you gradually through dad. Forced bonding could backfire.

Go slow, let dad handle son for now. Hopefully he'll start to feel more secure and give you guys space soon as he adjusts. Just tread carefully - kids come first for divorced parents!

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Regardless of the reason, the father needs to start putting limits on his son as to when he's allowed to join him. You said the son is bright so he should understand that your time with him should be your time and when you aren't there it can be his time.

As for why he does it, it could be just tradition for them so he doesn't even consider you being there as a hindrance to that tradition. It could be that he is being protective of his relationship with his father.

[Asker]

Why would he need to protect his father from me?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Because you are new and he might be afraid of "losing him" to you