Is this an early sign of an abusive person?

[Anonymous]

I got mad at my boyfriend about something and I wanted to leave him. This is why he sent this message because I had blocked his main Instagram page.

[whirled_up_girl]

I'm not sure, it could be abusive if you decide that you don't want to continue with this guy and he keeps it up. Did you tell him you wanted to end the relationship before you blocked him? Hopefully it's just him having hurt feelings and lashing out.

[Asker]

Yes. I told him I wanted to break up. He told me he’s never letting me go and I’m not going anywhere. He has hurt me in the past and lost me and he doesn’t want to lose me again.

[whirled_up_girl]

Well, since I don't know either of you I will assume that there must have been some reason you liked him to take him back after the first time you broke up, but for whatever reason maybe you both are not compatible. When I've been in that situation I try not to let anger get the best of me or both people just keep lashing out and saying hurtful things. Unless he did something terrible to you maybe try to stay calm, have a phone conversation, snap chat, Skype, whatever works best, and tell him that while you appreciate his good qualities, you don't think you are meant to be together because of whatever difference is coming between you. Usually, when I take that approach a break-up is less ugly. I've also said things along the lines of "I think we both deserve to find someone who will make us happy but I don't think us being together is going to make either us happy" or something like that. I would try to avoid in-person meetings though.

[boggboss]

Meh why was you bfs with a retard do u women enjoy playing with your lives

[Anonymous]

You got mad at him and blocked him. His response is shitty, but not abusive.. And your own actions are childish in the extreme. Oh I'm mad so I'm done with him.. Typical hypergamous female.

[Asker]

Well yeah, I guess what I did was childish but when someone makes me mad that’s what I do. That’s just me. It’s a natural reaction. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[Opinion Owner]

It's not a natural reaction.. Are you going to to that to your husband when you get married? Cause let me tell you this, giving someone the silent treatment and blocking them is not only childish, it's abusive and just plain wrong. You need to grow up before you choose to have any more relationships.

[slatyb]

Block him everywhere. Do not reply.

[CuriousAZ]

Yes. Tell him stsy away. Dont meet him.