Guys never talk?

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Now I’m not gonna say I don’t look intimidating because I’m not sure from others povs. However, my friends and other people always have people smile at them. If not that, they’d get approached, or a text message. But it’s like no matter where I go, I always make eye contact with a boy or they stare. They don’t smile, just make the eye contact. And this normally happens with the extroverts and popular guys. So I’m confused why they won’t say anything. If they do smile, it would be people outside of school. I was gonna try and smile at the guy who smile at me but you really can’t tell behind a mask.

JustinTimberlegs · Accepted Answer

I think it's a combination of things, firstly you probably are hot with the resting bitch face (sorry for using the word bitch but that's what they call it) so you look like "I'm not in the mood don't talk to me" without realising it, while being attractive enough so they worry about impressing you and don't wanna make a mistake Infront of you, which includes smiling because it's a risk, they will seem uncool if they smile at someone and got ignored. And usually if you're angry and someone smiles at you there's a higher chance you will just be annoyed.

The class clown types probably don't take themselves too seriously and already assume they don't have a chance so they're just messing around not worrying about looking cool or whatever.

I'm not the extroverted type though so I'm just guessing, I'm actually super shy but a lot of people thought I was snobby or cool in high school (only finding out from people years later). For me I was just shy af so really avoidant and quiet, but also a clown and super outgoing with the few people I was comfortable with.

TangBang69 · Accepted Answer

Most guys never talk. Some, like me , can literally unload a novel on you just about what was seen in your eyes in that brief moment of eye contact & many times overwhelming in writing books for messages but I like to articulate what I see & feel & overdose it with flattery. But hey, if he truly recognizes you as beautiful, never ending are the words that flow forth in the attempt to convey it & describe it accurately. Art & poetry are products of passion, some fear it, some are ashamed of it, some embrace it & let it flow, ya know?

Alyssa11 · Accepted Answer

Maybe try to look more friendly? People go off vibes a lot. I’m a smiley person in general and sometimes I see someone and they look really angry or unapproachable so I avoid them altogether.

stillagoodgirl · Accepted Answer

Try smiling at them first or saying hello first. Sometimes that gets the ball rolling.

Pasiton5 · Answer

First if if that's your photo in the little circle, I must say I don't know your age but you appear very mature for your age, and guys you she are intimidated but that see that's because they feel you see then as boys which they are but you little brother and don't have time confidence to approach you because they feel they won't be able to hold a conversation with you looking all pretty mature is simple as that is nothing wrong with you appearance it not ugly in any way you just look older not wrinkle old u but smarter intelligent and not into video games or going out on a date on your bicycle or worst having his mom drive you to the mall it's not you their confidence had not caught up with them yet so don't trip if you see a dude you really like and don't want him to get away hi introduce yourself here no roller out law says a lady can't make the first move break the ice be comicall though to see them sweat and stranger to say hhhheeeelllllllloooo and run away, joking is not your or any thing wrong with you so just go with it or do like I do if you want to know something about something ASK the source cool,

Finchie40 · Answer

It sounds like they are nervous if you are an attractive girl and you are probably hard to read if you are just starring back with a straight face , Making eye contact with someone you find attractive can go different ways , why it’s best to smile as much as possible at someone you like instead of just starring at them , A lot of people have wandering eyes , so whether they made eye contact with you on purpose or by accident you really never know if someone is actually checking you out or they just accidentally locked eyes with you , Most people get creeped out when someone stares at them , and take it the wrong way thinking why is this person starring at me? For the most part they are starring cuz they find you attractive or interesting so if you are the one getting starred at , you are best to smile back if you find that person attractive as well , Usually when I stare at a beautiful girl and she locks eyes with me , I will break the ice by saying Hi How are you , the way I look at it , it’s better to take the chance instead of not taking the chance at all.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Many guys assume that attractive girls have tons of guys chasing them and they have had tons of experience with guys and such girls are simply out of their league. Perhaps you should try dressing down.

Floppy2112 · Answer

It's a vague signal. If I make eye contact with a stranger, man or woman, I will give a little smile or not of recognition which is only meant to inform them that I recognize their existence and the respect due that comes with that. It is in no way an invitation to 'come hither'. If I did, I would have had my ass kicked multiple times, by the guy sitting next to that woman or I reckon I would be getting laid like the rent gets paid. Guys are constantly told, pretty much other than an overt signal or invitation, no invitation has been made.
Women made the world this way, so don't blame the guys. If you want a guy to talk to you, you are simply going to have to be direct. Eye contact and a smile, to a guy means
'stay away' unless you want to be accused of harassment. So your just going to have to be more direct. Go talk to them yourself.
Your idea of an invitation is a simple interaction between humans done millions of times a day.

_Troian_ · Answer

Its not about smiling or not, I was always staring at a girl I really liked but I never smiled at them too, it doesn't mean if person doesn't smiles then he/she are not into you. It's just one of these obvious signs but also continuously gazing at someone, sometimes avoiding the eye contact is also signs of liking someone. I am sure most of the time you were liked by those guys you talking about but unfortunately they weren't the type who will approach and try to talk with you, there are shy guys exist aswell.

Iknowbestgirls · Answer

@bunnyboo364 well I'm my experience in middle school and high school, I was always very intimidated by girls especially the hot ones. Growing wup without my mom from when I was 4 and her not being able to teach me anything about girls made it really hard my dad knew nothing about girls himself either and being raised by my old-school elderly grandmother who wanted me to have absolutely nothing to do with girls made it extremely hard for me to even talk to girls let alone befriend them. Sometimes guys just need the girl to initiate the first move to ease their extreme anxiety. I had a friend that was like that in high school Michelle, she was Soo kool she really help me a lot with girls.

Mot-Mot · Answer

As a guy you do expect women not to talk to you or aproach you, but I found out that my forehead makes me look angry but its just the way it is, and this would make them think im some angry guy or really serious, but they do mention behind my back im not so bad looking.

So maybe something like this is happening, try and look more friendly.

exitseven · Answer

I was painfully shy around girls when I was young. Even if I knew that a girl liked me I still could not make a move. Lots of guys are like this.

Interstate · Answer

I went through manys-a-years with the same issue. I suffered from Generalized Anxiety for over 15 years, and it was pretty severe as well as noticeable. Some people would rather criticize speechlessly through face-to-face than act grown-up. But you have to stop and ask yourself this, if they were grown up, would they be behaving this way?

VanillaSalt · Answer

Maybe they don’t want you? Fact is guys choose as well and many are done with women’s bullshit and the double standards. Many guys can get sex or live without sex so putting up with the attitude and expectations and extra crap that comes with women and or a relationship?

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

They could be shy, maybe their self-esteem is low, really take things as you see it

GDHiro · Answer

I'd say, it's because we are scared to say something. Most guys deal with a lot of rejection in their lives so they are just waiting until someone approachs them.

Waldoe · Answer

Most guys are "Gun Shy" ... what I mean is that they have been attacked, shamed, ridiculed for trying to approach a girl... so they don't feel the need to be abused and just stay silent... Girls can be real Bitches, nice guys run from them, change your attitudes, All of you... and maybe the Next Generation of men will be more willing to put themselves "OUT"

m33lad · Answer

You’re probably chasing millenniums. They’ve grew with swipe right swipe left.

What do you except?
That’s why girls go for older men.
As men is a dying breed.

The newer and newer generations (boys) are becoming worse.

That’s why 20/21/22 year old say I wanna be in their mid 30’s.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I never do! I just whistle and honk horns and such.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

They are just shy little puppies; the right man for you won't be scared to at least go say hello to you.

AndyOh · Answer

I try and keep my head up and smile, even say hello.
However, for some reason, I find myself dropping my head and looking at the ground instead of the females walking toward me. Seems like a deep social learned behavior.

Jlegacy · Answer

All the girls I crushed on, I don't think I smiled but I stared.
A girl can tell from the eyes of a guy and a guy too. If she smiles though, I'd reply in the same kind.

Just be yourself. Be kind to people. You'd find the right Alpha soon.

ohshee · Answer

If we were walking towards each other and we made eye contact I would smile and depending on how close you were I'd say hi how are you

RHK36 · Answer

It could be a number of reasons. Best suggestion is to be the first to initiate conversation if you're interested in them. Maybe you just give off the vibe that you're disinterested in wanting someone to approach you.

Crazybeeguy · Answer

Why invite me? I can't help you. You became mad at my last reply. Why bother? Can you unfollow me? Thanks

Jamie05rhs · Answer

@JustinTimberlegs explained it perfectly. I have nothing to add.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

If I stare at someone it’s becuase, she is pretty/cute/pretty+cute/beautiful, it’s a thing dinosaurs do, it’s by accident, I just feel like observing them, or I’m considering making a character based on them

Massageman · Answer

You are obviously SO Stunning that you leave them speechless.

CubaPirate · Answer

Perhaps you're just in the too nice to talk to category. In that guys think you're out of their league and won't engage with you for fear of rejection.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Why would we do a cold approach on someone we're just casually passing on the street?

Andres77 · Answer

Agreed. @jamie05rhs @justintimberlegs nailed it.

noohair · Answer

Guys are hunters, by human nature. They never learned to talk. Their egos are as fragile as an egg. once broken, they don't fix well.

007kingifrit · Answer

its not enough to be smiling. we need to actually have a conversation starter in mind which is very hard

Babygirl_S · Answer

Most "popular" guys like blondes with blue eyes regardless of anything else.

joeldalton · Answer

Since you picked a picture of boobs for your profile pic, maybe thats what they’re looking at.

Anonymous · Answer

It's your attitude.

SaintAnsari · Answer

From you boobs, I guess you are really so sexy and hot lol

msc545 · Answer

I think guys are a little taken aback by you, honestly.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I can't say if your intimidating cause I've never seen you but you have to make yourself available so guys can talk to you

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Do you have wicked resting bitch face?

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

That’s odd

JosyJosy · Answer

Yeah. What I do is I talk to them

Pterodon · Answer

Stop smiling and talk

Wise4myage · Answer

Shy guys don't talk.

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