How to ask out a new friend?

[zekron423]

I'm 22 M and I just started college a few weeks ago. I went to community College my first 2 years and this is my first time living on campus and it's been awesome. I've met a whole friend group who I love hanging out with almost daily.

One girl in the friend group has particularly caught my eye. We get along really well and make eachother laugh a lot and have hung out a bit outside the group. I get the impression she at the very least likes me a lot as a friend.

The problem is I'm very inexperienced in this area. I never dated in high school. In fact the only dates I've been on were with girls I've met online. I'm not really sure if she just views me as a good friend who she likes hanging out with or as possibly something more. My inexperience makes me a bit insecure and I'm not really sure how to approach things. I want to date her but I'm not sure what steps to take.

Any advice on what I should do? If you need any more specifics I can tell you a bit more as well.
Thanks

[talover]

I'm unclear on what you mean by going out and/or dating. This can be very subjective. Going out, can mean going out on a date, like dinner and a movie (sorry for the obligatory example). To others, going out can mean a steady relationship.

Dating is held captive to this similar nuance. For some, dating is taking others out for a good time (insert obligatory example), but it can also mean a steady relationship.

Regardless, keep the friendship going. It seems like you guys have been out together alone already judging by your comment (outside the group), so that's a good start. I'm going to assume you have initiated those times together too. If not, be the next to intiate. That will go a long way with her.


In the your relationship building, be the humble, yet strong and assertive young man, girls are looking for. Be the selfless friend that builds a reputation for being dependable, kind, generous and a good listener. Don't come across as needy, pushy or clingy. Show her you can lead her, protect her, and when the opportunity arises to highlight her attributes, take the opportunity and do it with finesse.


Never compliment a sexual appeal like, "Damn girl, those (insert body part) are smoking hot." Instead compliment her on her other attractive traits. Look at her eyes, do they attract you? If so, tell her she has beautiful eyes. If she has small facial features that are unique, compliment her. Say something like, "I'm a sucker for freckles on girls and I think yours are the cutest I've seen." Or "you're so pretty, that tiny mole on your cheek is perfectly placed. I love it."
If she has a nice voice, compliment her, "my favorite part about spending time with you is hearing your voice. You're so captivating."


Don't make stuff up, really consider the girl you're building a friendship with and pay close attention to those qualities.


Above all else, look the part. Many guys seek to look the part but don't have the romantic touch. Get both and you'll be good to go.

[Anonymous]

Keep hanging out with her as much as possible so she gets to know you very well. Just let the relationship grow naturally. Sooner or later an opportunity will present itself to ask her out for coffee, dinner, a concert, etc. If it doesn't it wasn't meant to be and remain friends.

[pillingsadness]

-Be confident (there's nothing attractive about timidity)-Be respectful (but not timid: there's a fine line there)-Be smooth (careful that it doesn't come off as being a douche)-Be forward (straight to the point: don't beat around the bush) As a girl the following would work smashingly on me: "Hey, I like you - you seem cool. Wanna grab a beer/coffee/walk?" Yes. Why yes I do.

[IncognitoBandito]

Find out what she likes to do and then ask her if she wants to hang out some weekend

[In_Trance]

the same way you'd ask anyone else