What is the obsession towards friends with benefits?

[melga]

Hi there, one guy and I are friends with benefits for about half year. I liked him before but he said he wasn’t ready for serious relationship. Few months ago he asked me if I still see my ex and he was very upset about that. (He is seeing a girl currently.) I told him why he cares and he didn’t reply me back so we haven’t seen each other more than one month. After that when I met him, he said “I think Im obsessed with you.”. What does he mean? Also I have one more question. I’m kinda new to friends with benefits relationship. Is it normal to kiss when I say hi to him? He always give me a kiss and hug.

[NamerOfStars]

I think the idea is to get sex without the emotional attachment and corresponding investment of time and energy. Catch is, humans are human, and that's why that attachment comes, whether you want it to or not. It sounds like that's what starting to happen with him.

I don't want to sound like a moralizing prude, but I don't think most people CAN have a sexual relationship without forming deeper attachments to one another. I'm not saying you can't try; just that feelings are probably going to start popping up at some point, and you'll have to decide what to do about them. I also don't think there are standard rules; if kissing him when you say hi is a problem, he'll let you know.

[melga]

Probably that’s happening with him, but the thing is he doesn’t say what he exactly what he want to do. Probably I will just wait what’s gonna happen next.

[NamerOfStars]

Waiting and seeing sounds like a good idea. It's entirely possible he doesn't even KNOW what he wants, or is finding it isn't what he expected.

[20yearsolder]

Normally when someone says they are obsessed with you, they can't get you off of their mind. They think about you all the time. Like maybe he wants to be with you instead of his girlfriend.. friends with benefits kissing when they see each other, I don't think that it's normal out in public but you two are the ones that set the rules, if you would rather not be seen kissing in public then tell him.

[melga]

You are right probably. He tried to reach me many times actually, but he is still seeing the girl and didn’t say anything exact what he wants.

[20yearsolder]

You say you are friends with benefits, are you two having sex regularly? If so, ask him to his face

[bulletbob555]

Kissing when he sees you upp to you two. Obsessed but hasn't contacted you for a month sounds like a contradiction of terms

[melga]

Hi he actually tried to contact with me few times, but I just didn’t know what to do so I didn’t reply him back.

[bulletbob555]

Well in time you'll know

[noohair]

It is sex with commitment. Good for guys. Cheaper than dating.

[Avicenna]

The sex is why