How do guys not realize how much they hurt or badly treat women They’re so clueless or they don’t care?

[Anonymous]

Like this is my example, there are many. I’ve heard and seen this so often where guys just barely give a woman anything, treat her as an afterthought or string her along, and then are shocked when she tells him how much it hurts? This one guy strung me along for months, I’ve been patient and kind and all I could be. He told me he needs to get his life together with work since he’s 30 and jobless and lives at his parents’ and he told me he needs time to himself and just stopped talking to me and if I tried to ask what was going on he said I was being too communicative and asking too much and I just need to let him reach out to me when he’s ready (mind you I asked to call him ONCE). He wouldn’t even take a call. It’s been weeks and he expects me to just be waiting and excited to hear from him again? How can he not see how much this makes me feel like I am not important or mean anything? Why would I want to see someone who wouldn’t even take my phone call? And instead of ever telling me what’s up or what’s going on (he hasn’t, I assume he is ashamed of his work situation) but he just ignores me instead. How does he not see that’s hurtful?

[ohshee]

I'm sorry that you have gone through what you have gone through and I'm sorry that you've been treated the way you've been treated I've never really understood that I'm single and when I find that person that I like because I'm very picky in what different ways I make it a point to stay in that relationship because I don't want that person to feel the way that you're feeling right now I want you to happen with too many couples or guys that I know treating women like that

[Asker]

Thank you💕 yeah I would never treat anyone like this. I always think of the other person and treat others how I’d also want to be treated. I will never understand how people can be mean. It’s just not in my blood.

[ohshee]

I'm the same way and the worst part is is he knows what he's doing but he also knows that you're going to be right there for you so he wants his cake and wants to eat it too I work with about four or five guys a lot younger than me and I'm watching you a lot of stupid things and so many times I have to say something but I say it not directly I just say something off the wall it makes them think about 20 different things and what you don't understand is it will come back around to them it will happen to them

[Asker]

Yes exactly. It will come back around. And I won’t be there anymore. I woke up this morning, well I’ve been up all night so barely woke up, but I don’t need this and I can easily just let myself go. I’m causing myself pain staying with someone who is so awful to me. He knows what he’s doing and he’s doing it because he knows he’ll get away with it. Well no more. He can try to reach me and I won’t be responding.

[ohshee]

I'm sorry that you have to go through this.
But honestly I'm glad that you are doing what you're going to do you're right you don't deserve this you deserve to be loved and cared for not used and abused.
I feel when any relationship you're supposed to prove by the things you do and say how worthy you are and how much you love that person by doing the right things not abused and take things from them fuck that you doing the right thing it's your turn you need to be happy

[Asker]

Exactly 🙌

[ohshee]

Are you ok want you to know this is just a moment in time that will pass the moment you allow it to. And then you Start a New Moment. You are Strong you are confident. You Have a Beautiful Heart
And you have passion and you Care THIS IS WHO YOU truly are this is you on the inside and that's where all beauty comes from. Do not let him Define you let you define you it's your choice

[YAhallo]

Nice question it's happened to me she doesn't inform me when she go for doing something middle of conversation and I am like waiting for her reply then after few hours she going to reply

[Anonymous]

If women are unhappy in their relationship, they need to address the situation with their significant other. Calmly, explain what is upsetting you and give examples. Make it clear you expect better and if things don't improve, you're walking away.

Blaming men for long-term bad treatment is unfair. You put up with it, so you're just as much to blame.

[Anonymous]

Most guys are selfish because of that they are like this.

[iBeowulf]

Guys, women don't pay men's bills, so why pay hers? Women file 80-90% of divorces and the best predictor for divorce is whether or not the husband makes the median income. Commitment is a trap. Don't be her golden parachute.

[FilmGuy93]

People who use other people realize what they're doing, they just don't care. They don't see it as their problem.

[Anonymous]

A lot of people are just 100% selfish. If they stopped to consider their actions, they might realize, but they usually don't.

[noohair]

You are picking the wrong guys.

[ChiTown33]

What do you mean? She said he was 30, jobless, and lives with his parents. We're talking about a triple threat here. Those guys are all taken they don't just grow on trees.

[Asker]

@ChiTown33 what do you mean?

[In_Trance]

how is this any different for women treating men?