Is it slutty to ask for guys numbers?

[Anonymous]

I'm 27 and I have come to the conclusion that I am tired of waiting around for guys to ask me out. I see guys checking me out all the time but they never approach me. So I was thinking just to do it myself. I just have some thoughts keeping me back.

- Is it slutty to ask for guys numbers? Will the guy think I am a whore?
- My dad is old school and he told me that guys will assume I am a easy girl because I am approaching them and they will treat me like shit/talk disrespectfully to me because I took the chase away from them.
- Will I always look desperate?

I already have one of my pick up lines set up. I'll try to have a normal conversation before asking the guy. Then I'll say, "I was dared by my imaginary friends to ask for your number, would it be cool if I could get it?" I have other normal and funny ways to ask but thats one of them at the moment lol. Anyway your thoughts

I would also like to add that I am a serious girl. I'm not looking for anything casual, just a serious relationship and marriage in the future. I plan to ask a lot of guys for their numbers. So i can find the one I'm looking for. I also think it'll be really fun to ask for their numbers and confidence boosting, I know I'll get rejected some too. But I always thought, "Man if I was a guy id be approaching girls all the time." Now I can finally live that fantasy 😆

[MatthewA]

DO NOT GIVE THEM YOUR SNAPCHAT!!! This is a huge red flag. I would ask for their Instagram just to see the type of person they really are but don’t exchange yours unless they ask or you want to go further. Phone numbers can seem a bit outdated to use but it’s not necessarily slutty unless you make it. If they seem like they are desperate for sex they will not be a good long term partner. An alternative route would just be to “freindzone” at first then engage in a romantic relationship. Or why not just see if any of your guy friends are interested (they probably are).

[Asker]

I don't have guy friends and I don't have Instagram I'm off the grid with social media. But I don't mind asking for his Instagram but I don't see the point in asking because isn't dming someone through Insta pretty sketchy already?

[MatthewA]

Phone numbers are fine just face time or something for a little before meeting in person. If they seem to distance themselves after a few days their not interested. Don’t send anything remotely sexual (nudes) or weird emojis. A selfie is fine as-long as your breast are not the focus of the picture. Simple memes or opinions on things would likely engage a good conversation.

On a side note don’t try to get the most attractive guy in the room. That guy is a DICK and will most likely cheat since he gets lots of attention. Get someone on your level of looks or someone that has good personality. Only give your number to one guy out of time it would be really hurt someone’s feelings to say your no longer interested because you choose one person over another.

[Asker]

Really good advice, thank you so much! I prefer nerdy guys anyway but people say I'm attractive or at least my body is. I usually see guys look up and down at me. Should I use pick up lines or just be normal? Like a part of me wants to like go up to a guy and ask him for directions to some place. He'll probably open his phone and look (I'll say I didn't bring my phone maybe so it doesn't sound weird why I'm hitting him up.) While he looks I find out if he's taken like I'll say are you from here? Look to see if there's a ring on his hand and somehow ask if he's taken without being too forward and then after he's done helping me I'll probably ask for his number lol but like I don't know if I should friendzone because I feel like no guy will be interested in that

[Asker]

Also wondering what I should wear? Like I'm afraid if I dress too cute it'll look like I'm tryi g to hard or something or I'm desperate. All the clothes I wear are nice, I don't think they're sexy more like cute petite maybe a little girly but not top girly. I don't want to wear a dress I feel like that'll be weird or a skirt. All my jeans and pants are tight on me. Not like in a slutty way but just like how all the other girls wear their skinny jeans. Usually I'll wear some cute jeans with a cute crop top but I don't like showing my stomach so I'll try avoiding that with maybe a cute jacket. Though, I'm skinny. I am 5'4 and I wegh 108. But I look tiny and people say I look young, younger than my age. I don't want to wear anything that'll give off slut vibes but I don't want to dress ugly either lol.

[MatthewA]

A guy is either going to be interested no matter what you say. Unless they are super attractive, average guys rarely get attention from anyone. A simple complement would probably be enough. For instance “you have nice eyes” this would result in them having to make eye contact. If they complement you back they are most likely interested. But overall don’t think about it to much just be natural and some guy will surely fall for you. Avoid going to clubs or bars if you want to find a nice guy go somewhere they would be. Explore a library, dog park, or downtown. Somewhere like this you could easily spark a conversation like “tell me about that book” or “that’s a cute dog” or “whats the best place to go downtown”.
However, don’t chase a guy if someone likes you they will surely let you know.

[Asker]

Dang you are like giving me your trade secrets. I really appreciate you taking the time to tell me all this and also being so kind to reply back to me. Would it be ok if I messaged you in the near future about my progress and stories if you are interested? No worries if you are not down for that. by the way what did you mean when you say don't chase a guy. I feel like I am chasing him by just asking him for his number lol

[cmarrott]

Most of my long term relationships started when the woman asked me out or made the first move. I noticed when I made the first move I would get too nervous and always blow it even though I’m considered fairly attractive.

[kqueen]

Of course it's not slutty to ask guys for their numbers. If you never express interest, they're never going to know you're interested after all. We're in 2021, you can have sex on the first date and not be widely considered particularly slutty. Asking for someone's number is nothing

[Datboi65]

Nope. It's just unusual, because men are not used to being approached. However, don't let that stop you if that's what you wanna do. You will learn how to deal with rejection at some point like the rest of us haha.

[HighValue]

No, it is not slutty to ask for someone's number. Slutty is when someone has casual sex.
No, it does not seem desperate for you to be the asker.

[ChiTown33]

It's not slutty. But it is unusual. If a random woman asked for my phone number I'd probably say no. I might agree to take hers.

[tzdc21]

Um... NO! It's not slutty if you ask a guy for his number. Now if you ask for multiple guys numbers all at once... them that's a little suspicious. But with one or two, no.

[jasco]

Honestly just say hey and have a normal convo than ask him out

[noohair]

Yes is is a a guy thing to think that way because it is considered too forward. But know that going in and make sure they know what your intentions are. Go for it.

[tobr83]

No it is not slutty. Ask for his number if you want

[Twalli]

Don't use imaginary friends unless you're joking around a lot already. Ask for their number so. you can talk more later.

[moviedude714]

Definitely not, I love when women are upfront about expressing their interests

[Wise4myage]

Why would you think that?

[Asker]

Well mainly my dad told me only desperate girls do that.

[Wise4myage]

That’s true to some degree

[Asker]

:o why? I thought most guys like that and prefer it?

[Wise4myage]

I think it’s fine as long as you don’t do it too often.

[Asker]

Oh ok. This is the first time I've done this since I was 18. I did it once when I was 18, I was dared and I wanted to prove to my friends I wasn't a little bitch

[Wise4myage]

That’s fine.

[Timid-guy]

That's not slutty, that's just brave and we all admire courage.

[Anonymous]

Not unless you offer your escort services to him after you get it.

[IHateBeingaMan]

not at all, tons of guys love this

[FilmGuy93]

No, phone numbers aren't sexual favors

[Relux47]

No it’s not

[In_Trance]

Nope

[Jmmmfi4]

I'd love it