Is the guy I like actually genuine?

[Anonymous]

We had been chatting for about a month before we officially met and it was by chance. He took me home and we’d text everyday and meet up a couple days a week and have a nice chill night and sleep together. When we met up he’d always say things like “I care about you”, “I feel so protective of you” and “I like you a lot”. I’ve known him in person for about a month now. The past week I’ve been left on delivered for a day or two at a time even though he is viewing my story. I don’t think I did anything wrong and he did say he would come and see me next week, and that he’s been really busy. I’m happy to believe that if it’s true. However, last night my flatmates showed me a picture of him with another girl in the club from 2 weeks ago when I was away for the day. Again we aren’t exclusive but it really made me jealous because he kept telling me how much he liked me and how protective he felt over me. To give him benefit of the doubt they didn’t see him kiss her but they did only see him for a couple minutes. One of them did recognise him and ask if it was him in the club. He came over to my flat 2 days after that night and my flatmate said she did say he looked guilty when he saw her because I didn’t know at this point. I want to ask about it because it’s very mixed signals but the fact I’m being left on delivered for so long isn’t helpful. I have his number so I could call, or I could ask if he does hold up his promise and come see me. It just hurts cause I’m not really into sleeping around and it makes me jealous to think he is. I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong but I guess I can’t be sure unless we chat. I don’t think he knows I know but I think it might be best to make him aware, but do I pull out the photos because I don’t want to suddenly turn it into a blame game. He might have just had an off night but I’m just getting very mixed signals so I just need some opinions on my situations.

[Robyned]

I'm deeply sorry he's a player and doing this with other women. Hugs cut him loose he sounds like he's playing games. In my case my guy I've been seeing or sleeping with for awhile wanted to be exclusive I was trying to go out and and date other people he got jealous I felt like he wouldn't ever cave on sleepovers and a real relationship long story. He eventually caved and sleepover now he does. He wanted to be sure I was all his and not with someone else lol. Cut him loose be with someone who only wants you. Sleepovers and cuddling should be cherished and meaningful. I took it to heart and it means something to me he actually left a pillow I gave him a key when he started bugging me for sleepovers. Be careful who you let in your bed make sure you truly mean something to them. Not just a line they use I've heard it all. I prefer I guess exclusive anyways I don't really like dating in this day and age. You get to a certain age and point in life that quality of time spent with that person should be cherished. I have little to no patience with cheaters. Life is too short move without him. Hugs

[Siren777]

To be honest girl, move on.1st sign of fuck boy vibes is he reads your message and leaves you on seen. Don't make excuses for this behavior ; if he can watch your story he has time to reply. This guy is playing games. He will say everything you want to hear to get you in bed. I wouldn't move so quickly to jump into bed with someone that hasn't proven that he is worthy of me. It's been a month which is too soon. He is seeing other people and feeding you lies. What your flatmate did was right, and whether I or your flatmate give you advice on this guy... you will still decide what you want with this guy and do what you want. If you're willing to accept his sweet talk and lies and just hookup then so be it but you are going to get your feelings hurt. Don't reach out to him, he is entertaining other girls. It's not worth it. Get a new guy that won't lie to you nor will play games. There are good men out there that don't play games.

[spartan55]

Yeah, pull out those pictures and see how that goes... all this because you are insecure about being on 'delivered' for two days? I would suggest chilling out, the things he is saying to you aren't anything out of the norm for the stage you are at. For you to say he is giving mixed signals is just not true.
Forget the club thing and bring it up later if he starts changing.
REAL CHANGES. Not little ticky tack shit.

[noohair]

You have fallen victim to asocial media. You only see one side, the fake side. Posting you life on abnormal media is like walking around naked. I am old fashioned though and weird.

[Avicenna]

It doesn’t sound like he is. Judging from that