Why are guys so fucking gross?

[Anonymous]

When are guys gonna stop treating me like im some object and start really fucking care about me cause im fucking sick of this

[N192K001]

That depends.

At your age, your teenage male-peers' bodies are still trying to re-establish control after a massive, chronic boost of testosterone. Depending on their moral-fiber, their inner convictions, their body's testosterone-levels, and their body's coping-mechanisms, this can take years (if ever, depending on the individual). Hopefully, control should be re-established by mid-20's.

If a guy strives for strong morals, high levels of self-control, and has constructive ways to re-direct, harness into an asset, and keep in control the testosterone, this may take less time, depending on his endurance. But I'm have doubts on how common this is among teen boys, especially these days with moral-degeneration on the rise. But they will have to re-establish control to a reasonable extent in due time. Otherwise, those who fail will (assuming an acceptable level of law & order continues) will meet death and/or prison.

Sorry this is what you're going through. It's not a pleasant experience for either party (assuming people trying to not do evil). I hope things get better for you in the next few years.

[Jamie05rhs]

This should get MHO.

[MCheetah]

"... and start really f*cking [caring] about me"

When you become someone worthy of being cared about, boys will start caring about you. But you cannot demand it of anyone (and if you were a male, you'd instantly get called an "incel" for even doing it). And chances are, you are probably only going after the most attractive and least-caring guys, thus setting yourself up for failure. There's probably plenty of decent guys you dismiss because they're "too short" or "not sexy enough" or some other superficial reason like that. It's common with girls, and maybe you're different, but I'd be willing to bet this is likely the case more than not.

[Asker]

Whatt the fuckk, no i was talking about hanging out with people i dont reject people and i most definitly not demand anyone to care about me. I was talking about guys who only want to become 'friends' with me so they eventually can fuck me

[MCheetah]

Lie to them and tell them you're seeing someone. If they're just interested in being friends, you'll know right away. If you start to like them romantically later on, you can reveal that someone is "Jesus Christ, My Lord and Savior."

[Asker]

Hahahah sureee

[Anonymous]

when they learn how to use their brain? Some don’t even try to use it. Their blood just go in their pants.

[dreammy]

Same... No one knows what they're thinking

[Asker]

XDD factss

[SteveSmith1985]

Not all men are gross. Some men are fucking beyond gross. There really is a lot of variation. It does sound like you need to find yourself some less-gross guys to be around (if that's at all possible).

So, to answer your question: THOSE guys won't ever stop seeing you as an object and actually care about you.

The same guy isn't going to see a girl as an object, and then change to truly care about her. A guy who sees you that way now, always will (there's exceptions, I'm sure).

Those guys are just assholes. That won't change. One way or another, it's different guys you need (to hang out with, or date or whatever applies to your situation).

You might even be stuck until you're finished highshool. Then, hopefully a change of scenery and a chance to meet new guys.

Hang in there. Try and avoid the gross ones when you can. Don't think all guys are that gross. Good luck 🙂

[Stoner710]

I need more context, I’m considered gross because my hands are dirty from working I shower every morning and before I go out but the weed and oak and pine sap on my hand isn’t hard to get off, I also like making bathroom and sex jokes. If you notice my zipper is slightly down I’ll say “maybe you should pull it up” which I find women like and hate at the same time. So I don't know what you mean

[Jamie05rhs]

I know how you feel, and I'm sorry you have to experience this as a female human being.
Please ignore the rude commenters. It's not your fault.

[Asker]

Thank youu

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome.

[Asker]

:)))

[TwistedSukuna]

Just be patient, not all of us are like that. You'll find a decent dude eventually

[Mango-man]

Most teens are full of hormones, but it will get better with time as they age. Usually.

[ChrisMaster69]

It’s in our nature.

until about 25 or so we just do not realise it.

i think every guy was a bit of an arse in some way or other until they realised they needed to grow up.

[Anonymous]

You may give them what they want too soon. Or you might be dressing like a slut.
or it's simply normal, that so many of them are after one thing only and you should ignore them the same way as we ignore gold diggers, who just want free meals from us.

[ChiPaPa]

Yo, you're not even in college yet (if that is what you're doing after). Just focus on school work.

[MrOracle]

That will happen in your early-mid 30s. And you'll probably be desperate to get that attention and SMV (social market value) back once it's gone.

[Asker]

Nahh

[Dinosaursandanime65]

“Don’t have a good day, have a great day”. But to directly answer the question…….. he’ll find you… or actually I’d make more sense for you two to be lead to each other

[Anonymous]

You're under 18, so I imagine you're dating guys who are also under 18 and around your own age?

Then not for a couple of more years. Guys at that age are pretty much scum. We all were.

[Sonorous]

Because we humans form morality through groupthink, there will always be groups or individuals who hold undesirable beliefs.

[Vigors]

You're in higjschool I'm assuming, that's how most guys are

[Evil_Chuck]

So you're complaining about guys being attracted to you? I'll take First World Problems for $1000, Alex.

[Asker]

Okay, guys are attrected to me? Buut still eventually they want to have sex. Logical

[anylolone]

Are they really treating you like an object or just interested in just having sex with you?

[Anonymous]

Real simple. It'll happen when you start choosing better guys.

[Anonymous]

Ikr they make me sick too

[Asker]

Yeaa get that

[TheUniqueOne96]

hardly any different to women who use guys as atms

[Fuentes]

You should me more focused on school then boys

[Asker]

Who says im focusing on boys?

[exitseven]

Not all guys are assholes.

[Wise4myage]

That all starts when you speak up for yourself.

[Asker]

Wdym?

[Wise4myage]

Stop taking shit from guys.

[Asker]

Who says i take shit from them?

[Wise4myage]

Just a hunch, because you keep running into the wrong kin of guys. But maybe its you that has the problem?

[Asker]

What problem?

[Wise4myage]

I have no idea, but your attracting douche bags.

[Asker]

Suree

[PuNishant]

Calm down.
🤗

[Asker]

Why?

[PuNishant]

Because I don't want you to think that all guys are same.

[Asker]

They basically are tho

[PuNishant]

Not the right time to convince you. We are not.

[Asker]

Try to convince me

[PuNishant]

Well I'm trying to calm down a girl who basically hate All men 😂
Isn't it make me a good person

[Asker]

Still try to convince me. If you are so sure not every guy is the same then you must have some arguments why theyre not

[PuNishant]

Well I was cheated by a girl I love the most. But I didn't start hating women or try to take revenge from hurting other women.
People are not same.
Men can be extremely horny or influenced with their lust but they still can think and choose the right way.

[Asker]

Im sorry that happend, but i never met a guy who doesn't eventually use me

[PuNishant]

How old are they?

[Asker]

Around my age so 17-20

[PuNishant]

I was a jerk at that stage of my life.
Try to heal first before dating again.

[Asker]

I dont date

[PuNishant]

Then what you do?

[Asker]

Hang out

[PuNishant]

It's stupid to expect good things from people.
Even our family treat us like shit 😂

[Asker]

Facts

[PuNishant]

But we have to be optimistic and look for a good person

[Asker]

Sure

[Anonymous]

Answer: when you grow the fuck up.

[Anonymous]

Dont post when on your period

[Asker]

Just because i stand up for myself doesn't mean im on my period.

[Jmmmfi4]

Trust me... they won't

[In_Trance]

Go gay

[Asker]

Thats a fantastic plan