Is my coworker crushing on me?

[ohitshorty21]

I am just curious…I can’t read signs clearly…I am a friendly person to all for the most part. I can be bubbly…I joke a-lot and smile on occasions. I avoid being rude at work for the most part and I am a conversationalist. I will talk to you about anything. That’s how I am… I have this coworker, who is a bit similar but in different ways. He is more just private with people. But…I have notice certain things he does around me.

1. He occasionally will come in and will ask me each time are you here by yourself today?

2. He brings up certain things randomly like almost repeating what I have said but in later time. Or just randomly ask me questions of a previous convo.

3. He tends to joke a lot with me of things we have talked about.

4. Catch peeking through the office window or look towards the office. ( we have outer cameras that I have naturally on at work) because we hold sensitive shipments. I clearly see these things.

Today he came ask me the same thing are you here by yourself today? I said for a bit only. Everyone else is not here yet. He comes in my office 2 -3 seconds later and ask me for some uniform shirts. He sits during this process and starts a conversation and mentions relationship details, things from his past and gave more details then usual times and today was actually the longest conversation I have had with him. I usually just mind my way to my office and work.

He sees my boss comes in and states I want to ask you something but not around her!

I don’t know…I can’t read signs! I don’t want to assume things either…

Is he interested? Or I am just trippin? Lol

Yes

No

[20yearsolder]

I'm like you, I'm not sure. Maybe he's comfortable with you and let's his real personality come out? Maybe he is interested in you. The question is, are you interested in him

[ohitshorty21]

Negative. He is an attractive younger guy. But not invested like that.

[20yearsolder]

So if he is crushing on you, when you actually figure it out, it's simple. You tell him you're not interested

[ohitshorty21]

Most definitely. I do have a boyfriend and I am not unhappy. We are still good. If he was? He will sadly be rejected.

[20yearsolder]

If he is flirting, you should feel flattered. I younger guy attracted to you

[ohitshorty21]

Oh! Of course I’m flattered! It’s a total Self esteem boost! Lol

He did tell me he was attracted to older women! 🤷🏽‍♀️

[20yearsolder]

That's hot

[spartan55]

Don't see anything indictating interest from his end. You obviously are though.

[ohitshorty21]

Negative

[spartan55]

Then why does it matter and why are you posting about it?

[ohitshorty21]

Curiosity. I’m nosy!

[spartan55]

Of course.. that's what they all say. You just want to scoreboard your friends and keep the ego boost as long as you can. You women have zero shame.

[ohitshorty21]

Lol you sound bitter someone brake your heart?

[spartan55]

Uh... no? And it's BREAK, not brake.
Keep trying to turn this around on me though. So predictable.

[Neosporin]

I’m crushing on my coworker right now. How can I approach her in a way that can still be ok if she rejects me?

[ohitshorty21]

That’s hard. Especially at work. You need to read the signs carefully! Women can be complicated sometimes. I know I can.

If she looks at you a lot and overly available is a big sign! We tend to be weird around me we do like. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Best you can do is ask her out? Be honest and respectful. Women appreciate that..

If she says no! Take that no! Don’t be pushy don’t want to end up in HR’s office for harassment. One time that’s it…

I do not recommend dating coworkers! Can be a whole mess if it does not work out!

[Neosporin]

I work with her almost everyday. It’s the constant interaction that’s making me have feelings for her. I never had a girlfriend so all the daily interaction makes me more excited.

One time she asked me to accompany her to a meeting “so she wouldn’t be alone”. But that’s about all the signs I got from her. She’s probably just friendzoning me

[ohitshorty21]

Does she get nervous around you? She might just be coworker friendly. If her body language touchy that’s a big sign?

Yeah? You never had a girlfriend? Interesting. Don’t date coworkers lol all I can tell you…

[Neosporin]

Nah she doesn’t do any of that she’s just being coworker friendly and I’m living on a prayer. Okay no to coworkers then I need to work less the so I don’t see her as much lol.

[ohitshorty21]

I wouldn’t let that bother you too much! Someone will find you, when you will least expect it! It’s always that way. ironically.

[Neosporin]

Yeah my developing feelings for her are pretty bad for my work situation haha

[Neosporin]

Aw thanks. Maybe I can ask her out anyway we’re all adults and if she says no then we’ll just keep being coworkers no biggy

[ohitshorty21]

Yeah. Exactly.

She is not a boss of yours? If so.. I would refrain and don’t approach that method. Usually jobs have fraternization policy in place especially upper mangers and employees

[Neosporin]

no she is my equal.

[Neosporin]

I'm more concerned with just other coworkers talking and awkwardness coming up at work. If I ever bring up my feelings I have to bring it up very organically and casually so that it doesn't get in the way of work. Anyways i don't want to bore you with this anymore so nevermind. As for your situation I think the guy seems interested in you based on his behavior.

[ohitshorty21]

No! I was not bored!! my nature to listen 🤷🏽‍♀️ how I am I guess… lol

[Iron_Man]

Why don’t you ask him yourself

[ohitshorty21]

Yes! Let me get right to that!!

[Iron_Man]

Aww yes I love it when girls do what I tell them to do 😂

[Avicenna]

Definitely

[TrillXHippy]

Yeah