I mentioned to him something that bothered me. He said twice to me ” my bad”. Did he apologice to me?

[Anonymous]

Would guy think he’s apologizing if he said twice my bad?

[LikeALog]

The phrase "My bad" was very common several years ago. All it means is I did something wrong as in admitting guilt.

An apology would be more like My bad, sorry.

[Asker]

He didn’t say sorry…. I told him that I’ve noticed that I’ve been texting first all the time. Then he was like bad I didn’t notice it/I didn’t know…

[AmandaYVR]

It's an acknowledgement that either he hurt your feelings and/or he was in the wrong.

Take it and let it go.

And remember, not everything that bothers means that someone else is at fault.

[AmandaYVR]

"He didn’t say sorry…. I told him that I’ve noticed that I’ve been texting first all the time."
You need him to formally apologize for that? Come on. Don't be high-maintenance and cause unnecessary drama. He did apologize, anyway.

[Asker]

by the way after that conversation he texted me first just once. I waited to see if he would text me first again. Was I wrong for that?

[Asker]

It’s been 2 weels now lol.

[AmandaYVR]

You can absolutely want and expect to have relationships/connections with people where both people put in an equal amount of effort. You should not have to do all the reaching out. If you do, that person is either swamped with work, just too busy to maintain frequent contact, or they're not really interested in having that frequent contact. (Trick to figure out which, isn't it?)

But I think you should chill on the apology-needing in this case. It was a fairly minor thing and a "my bad" is an admission.

Now you have to wonder, though, whether he's not reaching out first because he's not that interested in maintaining a connection, or if he got a bit scared off by you confronting him on that. Maybe he's thinking you get upset too easily? Or maybe this is it, he'll fade away now because he was never that interested. I don't know. There are ways to be assertive without being confrontational or aggressive. Finding that fine balance is a learned skill. You need to be able to air your concerns, but you also have to temper your expectations and try and not be unreasonably demanding. People (especially guys) will bolt if they think a person is too sensitive. But girls typically are much more so. And you need to figure out where, and with whom, to invest your energy. That's also a learned skill. You'll gain that over time.

[Asker]

Well he did text me first after that conversation. He could’ve not text me of he wanted….

[AmandaYVR]

So then you told him something that bothered you, he apologized, corrected the behaviour, and it's all good!

[Asker]

Yeah but he isn’t texting me as frequent that I wanted. It’s been two weeks since he texted me…. I didn’t text him mean while on purpose just to see if he would message me again….

[AmandaYVR]

Yes I know.
Then he's not interested. Read the actions. Move on.

[Asker]

I don't know why he then chats with me enthusiastically when we do chat….

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

“My bad” is not an apology. “I apologize/I’m sorry for _____” is an apology.


“My bad” just translates to “Whoops I didn’t mean to but I don’t really care how you feel.” Lol.

[Asker]

He didn’t say sorry…. I told him that I’ve noticed that I’ve been texting first all the time. Then he was like bad I didn’t notice it/I didn’t know…

[TwinkleLily5]

If he said my bad he recognized he did wrong it’s a slang term and it can be accepted as an apology if you feel it was sincere.

[omara777]

i think yes
the same meaning in this suitation

[awkward_author]

I, personally, don't consider that an apology.

[Asker]

He didn’t say sorry…. I told him that I’ve noticed that I’ve been texting first all the time. Then he was like bad I didn’t notice it/I didn’t know…

[awkward_author]

It might be a good idea to watch his behavior and see if it changes.

[Asker]

He did text me first after that. After that I didn’t text him first. I wanted to wait and see if he would text me first again.. so far he hasn’t. Should I text him?

[awkward_author]

This is childish. If you want to talk, text him.

[Asker]

So even if he’s texted me first just once it’s enough :D?

[awkward_author]

You two are playing childish games instead of making attempts at effective communication. With this in mind, any relationship is not going to work out.

[Asker]

Ok. I’ll text him soon.

[Emre_TR]

yes he apologized to you