Weird situation my younger sister was in. Can anyone give insight on this man’s behavior?

[Anonymous]

My sister goes to a gym. There’s a coach who clearly has some level of attraction to her based on the fact that he is always hanging around her and seems to know and be very in tuned with her gym schedule. Instead of being nice to her and making her feel included, he flirts with other girls in class to get her attention. When she doesn’t give it to him, he becomes frustrated with her but still hangs around. His siblings stare at her but won’t speak to her. He stares at her but won’t speak to her. In another class he ignores the other girls in class for her but she stops taking his classes because she thinks his behavior is inappropriate. After a while she goes back to his classes but instead of being nice to her, he makes it a point to hook up with another girl in front of her, then sits and watches her. She continues to focus on her workouts and ignore him. She’s still very professional to him, even asking for his help and rewarding him when he does his job well. He however, gives her dirty looks and doesn’t coach her. If she wants coaching in class, she has to ask him. Sometimes she’s met with sarcasm and other times hostility. His siblings still stare at her. I know my sister is shy and can be a bit of a wallflower but why bother her? It seems as if he hates her even though he’s made no attempt to actually get to know her. She’s since left this gym because of him but she feels horrible and confused and still doesn’t get why he treats her this way. Even if she’s nice to him and doesn’t ignore him, he continues to flaunt his other conquests in her face during class. At times he even makes it a point to grab another female while giving my sister a dirty look. The other girls mimic my sisters clothes and hair then follows her around which makes him seem to like them more. Why? What is this behavior? If he doesn’t like my sister, why can’t he leave her alone? If he likes her, why can’t he be nice to her? My sister is 26 and the guy in question is 29.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure this is your “sister?” Because you were very detailed and don’t know why this dude is acting the way he is if you’re a guy…. He obviously likes her, but doesn’t know how to approach her, and the fact she doesn’t look interested makes him envious.

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you care anyways? It’s just a dude. I don’t care who my sisters meet.

[Asker]

I’m asking because I approach women who don’t “look interested” all the time and usually they are. My sister is anxious and had to switch gyms because of this guy. My answers don’t help her.

[Asker]

And in my experience everyone shows their feelings differently so just because she doesn’t act how he thinks she should gives him no right to act the way he does towards her

[Opinion Owner]

So what? It’s just a guy at a gym. It’s not a big deal. I meet girls who tried to make me jealous. Idgaf.

[Anonymous]

This guy has way too much pride in himself. He feels every girl should bow down to him and kiss his feet. And 1 doesn't (because all of them do) I guess he gets into this rage of anger. Maybe she made fun of him while rejecting him and he wants revenge.🤷🏼‍♀️... anywho. I'd totally switch gyms too. Guy needs to probably mature more so he can Express his feelings.

[Asker]

Why do women bow down to him? He lives with his parents at 30 years old, makes minimum wage and has nothing to offer anyone. According to my sister he’s definitely fit and attractive but that’s not enough. There’s a lot of fit and attractive men. My sister is fit and attractive. I’m fit and attractive. For women to accept being treated like this by him? To the point that a female who isn’t throwing herself at him offends him this much? How is it possible?

[Opinion Owner]

Well a lot of people are air heads and will soon learn that "looks" won't get a person too far in life actually when in a serious committed relationship. However I do know people like to play games and get what they can't have. Many young women today like to be treated like shit because we are nurturers and try to fix things. According to you it's not enough but many women seem too independent. They need to isolate losers like him and get with real men.

[awkward_author]

He's attracted to her, feels that she's rejected him and is now treating her like crap as a result.

[Asker]

I get that he feels rejected but why? He never asked her out. According to her, he’s never even made an attempt to have an actual conversation with her. They’re barely acquaintances. How can a man feel this way and behave this way to a woman he barely knows? I’m just wondering what his deal is. I’ve never behaved this way to women.

[awkward_author]

He probably reads her behavior toward him as form of rejection.