Guys, I miss him so much 😢 ?

[MakeUpModel91]

I miss my married friend so much since he moved away. I can't eat or sleep he is all I think about. Our texting conversations have become less and less. I think of him 24/7. I know he is married and nothing has happened. I just can't help feeling like this. I Have made it to my 30s and never felt this way about anyone. Will it get any easier? (He doesn't know how I feel) 😔

[DaveJord]

Well this is the problem with being "Just Friends" with a guy. Eventually they find a women that they can not only be friends with but be sexual with... so naturally all other women take a back seat. Which is why I never put much into a "just friends" relationship with a women... because I wanted a women to be my friend and more.

If he is married then you missed the boat, should of made a move a long time ago. I would cut it off.

[MakeUpModel91]

Yep your so right, I have so many friend couples I have never ever felt like this about anyone expecially someone else's man, I feel awful, I feel guilt, shame most of all I'm so hurt, I don't want to love him but I do, He's perfect and the most special man I have ever met, I am devastated I didn't meet him first because i know I could treat him so good, He moans about he's wife quite often to me and I just feel I have to give advice when really I want to tell him he deserves so much better, I don't fall in love easy, I have had two serious relationships in my life but never felt this way, I wish this didn't happen to me 😔

[DaveJord]

Well I am sorry... all I can say is wait and see. In the future distance yourself from men who are married or already in a committed relationship. But I would not put out much effort to stay in contact with this guy. Its time to move on.

I wish you the best of luck.🙂

[MakeUpModel91]

Yep it seems it's only me putting in the effort at the moment, we haven't spoken in a month.. it feels awful at this point I feel I would be bothering him even messaging to see how he is.

[DaveJord]

Yup... move on. There are better fish in the sea. When two people are meant to be, they make it easy as possible and there's no anxiety about it.

[Realbanger87]

Repeat after me, IT IS WHAT IT IS. I have also lost a close friend through marriage, you guys were still texting after he married, my friend stopped as soon as she got married. Its hurtful loosing someone who knows every single detail about you, and you of them, they were that one person you could be yourself around and understood you like no one can.
2 years onward and I'm still trying to find such a person, but I'll push on because I believe there are amazing people out there. Move on and don't settle for less ✌

[JadeKnockWalker]

Though I am single as a pringle, and almost always lonely... so I can relate.

I think sometimes its just best to move on so you don't care anymore emotional strain on yourself! Accept that he might talk to you less, not because he doesn't care for you.. but because he has other things in his life now..

I am certain you are still friends! :)

[MakeUpModel91]

Thank you so much for your kind words, I am new to GAG, I needed guy advice and the only guys I am friends with know him too so I didn't want it getting back to him, I am trying to accept it but going from seeing him 3 times a week to never is so hard, I miss he's smile, he's voice, he's eyes, he's laugh.. just everything, We have great conversations though whatsapp then they just fizzle out and I'm always the last one to message. He tells me about being unhappy with he's wife sometimes then he talks nicely about her other times, I just don't get it, Without sounding selfish and mean I just wish he would leave her or she would leave him, I would do anything in my power to make him happy every single day of he's life, Unfortunately I can't as he is already taken, I'm hoping one day I will feel better because he is my everything at the moment.

[JadeKnockWalker]

Oh :( well at this point in my life I have no one, and I don't think I ever will! I can hope though!
Maybe one day ill find an amazing woman to sweep me off my feet!

But I couldn't imagine being in love with someone who is already in a very committed relationship. I think if you just stick by him, stay his friend, and continue being a supporting hand you will do just fine!
I think if you can continue to be unselfish about it (which you are, regardless of what you think), he will learn to respect that.
You may never be together in the way you wish
but if you show yourself as being an honorable person
Maybe if things don't work with his wife then im sure you will be the first on his mind
HOWEVER! That being said, I would highly suggest you to NEVER do anything to harm his marriage.. because that will likely have the opposite influence of his perspective of you.

[MakeUpModel91]

Thank you so much. Yeah I suppose you could be right it's nearly a whole month I haven't heard a word even though it was he's words saying stay in contact when he moved away. I don't get it.

[Justagentuk]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, if he was around all the time you'd probably feel different and realise it's time to move on.
Suggest that you try to keep your mind busy on something else, let this infatuation gradually fade away, it's pointless to continue torturing yourself.

[awkward_author]

Tell him you miss him without admitting that you have feelings for him. It might also help to write your feelings down, and engage in activities you enjoy.

[MakeUpModel91]

That's a great idea, do you have any examples of how I should go about telling him I miss him? I haven't spoken to him in 3 weeks but I miss him every second of every day. 😢 I don't know what to even say to him 😔

[awkward_author]

I'm not sure either. Just say you miss him as a friend, and ask how he's doing, perhaps?

[MakeUpModel91]

Thank you so much for your help

[awkward_author]

No problem.

[Ironic_Method]

Sounds like you need to do things to get your mind off this person or else you're just going to eat yourself up.

[MakeUpModel91]

I have tried everything but every second he is there in my mind, I see him everywhere I go, Everytime I sleep, Eat, Go to the gym, Go out with friends, It's awful 😔

[ElliotsRipley]

Aww! :(
I take it you really love this guy?
You never got around to telling him though? why?

[MakeUpModel91]

I do really love him, I met him at a kids sports event he was there with he's children and I was there with mine, Our children became very good friends, We got very close I fell for him the minute I spoke to him, I then found out he was married which I thought my feelings would then change as he was taken, I have met a few guys who I was highly attractive to in my time but never like this. I'm head over heels for him. He was taken from the minute I met him, I tried so hard not to fall for him but I just happened, I am like a closed book I never let my guard down and I never fall in love, this is most likely why 🤣

[ElliotsRipley]

Awwww!! OMG!
that is kinda precious!
He must be a really awesome guy!

Well at least you can still be friends right?
He might not be yours, or be around as much
but you can still have him in your life

Also, I am not sure if you are comfortable
but would you mind answering some of the questions I posted?
Or at least giving some advice and support :P

[MakeUpModel91]

I am completely head over heels for him, Not just love I feel we are soul mates the feeling I feel when I'm with him is out of this world, My heart feels like it is going to burst and my tummy fills with butterfly's, I sometimes wonder if he feels it telepathically 🤣 I won't be seeing him much anymore at all as he has moved away but I do have he's number I resist from texting him all the time as I just want to be with him always but he's taken, I will tear up every night as I know she is holding my world every night.

Thanks so much for taking time to comment on my post and of course I will. I'll have a look at your questions and send over some advice 😁

[ElliotsRipley]

Wow! you have it so bad :(
Just stick with him
always be his friend
and maybe something can blossom later on
either way just try to be there for him
he will appreciate that for sure!

and thank you so much!
I doubt my questions will be okay for you
they are slightly uncomfortable topics
but id really like to talk to someone about my issues
but they are a bit more private
fact is im a bit nervous, insecure, and confused

[ElliotsRipley]

Hey! :) I know youve been gone for a day
but would you be okay with talking in private about an issue I am having?
follow me, or send me a message if its okay :)
id really appreciate it

[MakeUpModel91]

Hey of course I will do that when I get 5 minutes from work, I will keep trying trying be he's friend but I feel like it's me putting I the effort now I haven't heard from him in nearly a month! 😔

[ElliotsRipley]

@MakeUpModel91 I am certain he just busy with life! don't take it too personally!! Just stick around :) True friends will always be there, and I am sure he is one of those.

go ahead and follow me, and ill send you a message and you can reply later :)
or just hit me up when you have time

[noohair]

Sorry but I don't think living in the past is healthy. You might miss "The One" because you are obsessing on a fantasy.

[MakeUpModel91]

I wish it was just a fantasy I have had plenty of them in my time but this is so much more, It kills me inside I can't have him 😔

[TrillXHippy]

I don’t know about like someone that is married but I have liked a girl that has a boyfriend or getting to that point

[MakeUpModel91]

Did you tell her?

[TrillXHippy]

Nope

[Honesttguy]

Well love is love ofc u gonna feel if his such and awsome guy thats what happens and its fine. You still have to wake up and keep living

[Neilbud]

I remember feeling that way. You do get over it, and come out better in the end

[MakeUpModel91]

I hope so, thank you

[Luckycharms12]

You need to move on he was never your's

[Luckycharms12]

There be more nice guys out there that's ment for you he was married so he couldn't be

[MakeUpModel91]

Thank you so much I really wanted this one though 😔

[Luckycharms12]

You don't want to break a marriage really you might like the man. But probably more nicer and suitable guys with less drama waiting to be found

[MakeUpModel91]

Yes your completely right, I have no intentions of trying to break a marriage, He is always complaining about her to me so hopefully he leaves her at some point and I'll show him how he should be treated