Well... As a shy, quiet, self conscious person, i'd rather have the guy make the first move.
But... with this guy I recently met, I shot a few moves myself as, we both are pretty bad with social interactions.
All of our friends (both his and mine, and I'm friends with some of his) are always calling us boyfriend and girlfriend, and at this point, we don't mind. He's said maybe when people say it. I secretly bet it makes him a bit happy, like it kinda does with me.
Anywho.. As of now, the guy and I are really close, were always talking with each other, he gives me hugs, and he asked me to a dance... making a "move" (more like starting to be friends with him) worked out pretty well. We both like each other, its just hard to go a bit farther with us both being really awkward with this.
But with other guys, its just way harder for me to approach them, so I rather have the guy ask first, but if your bold enough, well shoot your shoot!
I'm an introvert so I don't usually make the first move. I wait a little and if the situation turns to one of those 'we both know but nobody does anything', then I can try to shoot my shot.
i love this post on reddit by a woman who encourages other women to make the first move and be the initiators, but why do i get the feeling this will never become normalized: (6) I've been making the first move as a woman, and I 100% recommend it to other women struggling with dating! Here's why: : dating_advice (reddit. com)
The best and safest rule is to never approach women unless they make the first move. That is, to smile and say "Hi" or do something to indicate that they are willing to be approached. Men that violate that rule will often be insulted and loudly are rudely rejected. When approached, most men but very few women are nice. 60 years ago, most women were nice and would politely reject the man by saying they are going steady, that they have already made plans, etc.
Overall, would definitely prefer to be asked than be the asker, but in your scenario where we've been getting on for a good few hours, I'd at least try to leave with some form of way of keeping in contact (social media or number). Whether I'd actually use it to make a date...
God yes. It's nerve racking for a lot of us who aren't players to approach. Fears of mace getting kicked in the balls, your boyfriend showing up, getting humiliated by your friends is hard. it shows us you're interested. It helps us relax.
I figured sometimes guys are just as nervous as women. I asked this question because I was the woman who gave the guy my number but I wasn’t sure if maybe I was being too forward or if it was unattractive
Id usually give her my number so she has to send the first text haha plus then you know that she's into you at least somewhat if she sends a text to you
Well if a girl never asks me out no one will ever be my girlfriend because I have higher self esteem than to do all the approaching myself, thats pointless, I want a girl that's actually attracted to me... And only if a girl asks me out will I know she's attracted
Yes. Many years ago I lived in California, and I was at a place and enjoying the music, and I was shocked when I was asked to dance by more than 1 women. Of course I said yes. It was great
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I think it's nice, yes. Recognizing it's difficult for both. We all fear rejection.
Yeah I kinda suspected either the dude was just really polite or he was a little unsure/unconfident to ask. So I didn’t want to miss out on my chance and went for it
It's happened before, we were just chatting and she wanted a date. It was more of she beat me to the punch. It goes to show we were on the same page, so that's likeable.
exactly. i once knew a girl who was completely into, me and i had no idea. i only found out after i got with a girl she hated (no idea about that either). sad thing is that i would have completely wanted her in the first place and been committed to her if she had just let me know in the first place.
I love when a woman lets me know she is interested... so many are Nasty Bitches, you say "Hi" and they reply "get the fuk away from me pervert!!!" I mean WTF? all I said was "Hi" I do not talk to strangers anymore, so if yoiu want to "Lay blame" now you know...
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Well... As a shy, quiet, self conscious person, i'd rather have the guy make the first move.
But... with this guy I recently met, I shot a few moves myself as, we both are pretty bad with social interactions.
All of our friends (both his and mine, and I'm friends with some of his) are always calling us boyfriend and girlfriend, and at this point, we don't mind. He's said maybe when people say it. I secretly bet it makes him a bit happy, like it kinda does with me.
Anywho.. As of now, the guy and I are really close, were always talking with each other, he gives me hugs, and he asked me to a dance... making a "move" (more like starting to be friends with him) worked out pretty well. We both like each other, its just hard to go a bit farther with us both being really awkward with this.
But with other guys, its just way harder for me to approach them, so I rather have the guy ask first, but if your bold enough, well shoot your shoot!
I'm an introvert so I don't usually make the first move. I wait a little and if the situation turns to one of those 'we both know but nobody does anything', then I can try to shoot my shot.
I feel this! It’s very me
Whatever flows naturally, honestly. Sometimes you can tell when someone wants to continue talking but are just too shy to ask.
Yeah this was my situation. I wasn’t sure if he was interested or just being too polite/shy so I had to shoot my shot!
Sometimes that's all you can do and who knows? It can turn into something wonderful! Fingers crossed for you.
Thank you so much ☺️
You're more than welcome 🙂
i love this post on reddit by a woman who encourages other women to make the first move and be the initiators, but why do i get the feeling this will never become normalized:
(6) I've been making the first move as a woman, and I 100% recommend it to other women struggling with dating! Here's why: : dating_advice (reddit. com)
The best and safest rule is to never approach women unless they make the first move. That is, to smile and say "Hi" or do something to indicate that they are willing to be approached. Men that violate that rule will often be insulted and loudly are rudely rejected. When approached, most men but very few women are nice. 60 years ago, most women were nice and would politely reject the man by saying they are going steady, that they have already made plans, etc.
Overall, would definitely prefer to be asked than be the asker, but in your scenario where we've been getting on for a good few hours, I'd at least try to leave with some form of way of keeping in contact (social media or number). Whether I'd actually use it to make a date...
God yes. It's nerve racking for a lot of us who aren't players to approach. Fears of mace getting kicked in the balls, your boyfriend showing up, getting humiliated by your friends is hard. it shows us you're interested. It helps us relax.
I figured sometimes guys are just as nervous as women. I asked this question because I was the woman who gave the guy my number but I wasn’t sure if maybe I was being too forward or if it was unattractive
I have recently been the bold type. I told a guy I liked him and I may ask the same guy to be my valentine for Valentine's day.
Good for you! I hope it all goes amazingly ☺️
i don't mind
but others might
however, the problem is, the last time one did, she was just using me... so, you better know what you want, before you do it
You mean I better know or men better know?
you better call somebody
Id usually give her my number so she has to send the first text haha plus then you know that she's into you at least somewhat if she sends a text to you
Ahh interesting! I gave him my number and he texted me but this is a fair way to tell if she’s interested.
Personally, I enjoy it very much. :)
It's good to know that I'm attractive enough to gain a woman's interest, as I've never really thought of myself in that way.
Well if a girl never asks me out no one will ever be my girlfriend because I have higher self esteem than to do all the approaching myself, thats pointless, I want a girl that's actually attracted to me... And only if a girl asks me out will I know she's attracted
Maybe it's got to be part of the "new normal", since it can be dangerous these days for men to approach women.
That’s a fair opinion. Maybe more women should approach because of this
Yes.
Many years ago I lived in California, and I was at a place and enjoying the music, and I was shocked when I was asked to dance by more than 1 women.
Of course I said yes.
It was great
I think it's nice, yes. Recognizing it's difficult for both. We all fear rejection.
Yeah I kinda suspected either the dude was just really polite or he was a little unsure/unconfident to ask. So I didn’t want to miss out on my chance and went for it
Good for you. How'd it go?
He text me the next day and asked if I am free Friday for a drink? I hope that is a good sign 😅 I’ve been out of the dating game for a long time
It sounds promising ☺
Good luck
Thank you! ☺️
It's happened before, we were just chatting and she wanted a date. It was more of she beat me to the punch. It goes to show we were on the same page, so that's likeable.
Guys are sick of mind reading and playing games, let the guy know you like him.
I also hate games and mind reading, so I let him know 😅
That's great, you're smart :)
love it. Stop playing games and just let the dude know.
Yes! Thank you. I was feeling the same way. We too grown to be dancing around the childish games.
exactly. i once knew a girl who was completely into, me and i had no idea. i only found out after i got with a girl she hated (no idea about that either). sad thing is that i would have completely wanted her in the first place and been committed to her if she had just let me know in the first place.
Oh no, that’s so sad :(
highschool... it happens.
Very true! I hope she’s learned from that experience
I like it when the woman makes the first move. As far as I'm concerned, she can make most of the moves.
I love when a woman lets me know she is interested... so many are Nasty Bitches, you say "Hi" and they reply "get the fuk away from me pervert!!!" I mean WTF? all I said was "Hi" I do not talk to strangers anymore, so if yoiu want to "Lay blame" now you know...