Uh so I put up this picture on a social media platform and a close guy friend of mine (more than friends) kinda is giving me crap for putting this up saying it’s inappropriate. I don’t wanna jump to any conclusions but I also feel bad so uh is it?
What message do you imagine this picture sends to guys your age who see this online? I'll give you a hint: it implies that you're looking for sexual attention, because you're posting a pic of yourself showing a tremendous amount of skin. And you WILL get lots of sexual attention as a result.
Obviously, you aren't naked in this pic or anything, but the only real reason to post a pic like this is because you are looking for male, sexually-focused attention. And you'll get it. And of course, that's going to be taken as a low-level insult to the guy you are "more than friends" with, because it appears that you are trying to make him jealous (which he will be) and implies that he's not "enough" for you (so you're seeking additional attention elsewhere).
Essentially, you are sexualizing yourself, but at some point, you'll probably be upset when guys treat you like a sex object. You need to recognize the part you play in that. I'm sure you have far less sexual pictures of yourself that you could have posted, or you could have just not posted at all. Instead, you chose to sexualize yourself to the whole world (okay, minus most of China and North Korea) on social media, and that will affect your reputation and how people treat you - and probably not in ways that you're going to like.
You're allowed to make that choice, but your choices will have consequences, and you will suffer them, good and bad. And some consequences may take a while to come about, so it may be months or years before something like this becomes a problem for you.
Well... I guess it boils down to relationship stuff. If you are single... not attached to anyone... post what you want. Keep in mind it is out there FOREVER and there could always be consequences years down the road when you want a husband, job, you have kids... so keep that in mind when you post.
The picture isn't a huge deal. It is a big on the sexy/sexual side.
Back to relationship stuff. You say this is "MORE THAN A FRIEND". So this is possibly a romantic prospect? You two may have feelings for each other? That seems to be the rub. He doesn't want a girl he has feelings for and is special to him to post a bunch of skin for other girls to get off on.
It is a relationship issue more than a photo issue.
Nothing is wrong with it, why is he being so concerned? Because it shows a lot of skin? Because your back is bare? Those aren't really good reasons if so. Even if he's more than a close friend, he doesn't have the right to control you over it.
I would understand that he's not comfortable with the thought of others ogling over your frame, but he doesn't have the right to filter who sees what about you. You don't need their seal of approval to post this. There's nothing wrong with feeling beautiful and wanting to post it.
Nope. Why would he have a problem with this one on your instagram if he doesn't have a problem with the others? It looks like a modeling picture, and a modeling instagram account, so why the problem? No comment from him on the full bikini shot?
Take note that people are commenting on you looking hot, sexy or alike in it. The idea is that you understand how you look before posting things.
With that knowledge if you post something which is playing more on sex appeal or general attraction it is also assumed you, by virtue of knowing this and doing it, want some sort of similar response.
Now is it tasteless? Absolutely not. Would I bother commenting? Not really. But I see how someone a little more than friends might be wondering about the why.
Shame! Shame! Time to break out the burqas and hide women and their lust inducing, enticing form! *drool* Oops, excuse me.
Seriously, men wanting women to hide themselves from their view, because the man himself, or other men can't control their own feelings and thoughts, is as old as time.
No. I know a woman who wears a candy apple red g-string bathing suit and uses a skirt a bit shorter than that to exit pool, beach surf, or for beach pics. You can see some of her string sorta like underwear in skirt. What don’t you post under it,”Born this way…no gym required” OR post the g-string bottoms pic beside it 🙃
It’s cuz most guys know what other Guys are thinking when they see a girl like you so he is just being protective and doesn’t want a bunch of thirsty men hitting you up
If you are in a relationship then it is inappropriate and disrespectful to the relationship to post stuff like that because it is obviously for seeking the attention of others.
That is not inappropriate. You have a really cute ass nice legs beautiful body beautiful breasts and I absolutely applaud you for that picture because I like a woman in short shorts with a cute ass
I think it's very tasteful, not provocative and it looks very natural like it's something you'd just normally do. Nothing is showing and bikini tops are pretty innocent
NOTHING wrong with this photo... it's a young woman (Fully dressed) looking out a window... what is his complaint? That you are too Pretty? too Slender? too Tall? or he is too insecure?
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Guys love to give girls shit about wearing revealing outfits because they wish their bodies was as beautiful as ours.
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