Why would a guy seem to avoid a girl he liked before?

[Rosie1995]

A guy at my apartment building used to smile and stare at me a lot and I thought I’d look back when I saw him. Recently though I noticed that it’s completely stopped and he just seems indifferent around me. He talks to anyone but me. But I never did anything rude. I never see him bring a girl at all with him or anything. At the same time overall he doesn’t seem really happy. Maybe he’s not dating someone seriously? We used to make eye contact and smile at each other. Out of nowhere it stopped. Only sign I have that he’s interested is a month ago he told me I have really pretty eyes. Other than that he’s giving me the cold shoulder. A few days ago I smiled at him as he was heading in another direction and he saw but walked right past. Sometimes I sensed that he wanted to talk to me since he’d kind of stop right in front of me but not entirely look at me at all. He looks like he’s about 10 years older than me and I’m only 25. Guys, I don't know I’m stupid with reading men 😂

[DaveJord]

If you are interested in a guy you need to make it known to him. Contrary to popular believe most mean are not players and don't really know how to talk to women. I am 45 and I have pretty much stopped saying high to any women much younger than 35 or so because they tend to may me feel like I am some type of creepy old man.

What's stopping you from saying something to him or saying hi how's your day going and trying to turn it into a conversation?

Dudes probably been rejected so many times by women that he's given up or assumes someone that much younger than him isn't interested in a older guy. Serious though younger women treat older guys like they are all creeps or perverts. I only say hi to them most the time and keep walking.

[DaveJord]

You hold a door for young women and they duck their should and scoot by as fast as they can without making eye contact or saying thank you to you. So I encourage you to put an effort with this guy if that is what you would like to do.

[humpbackjack]

Odds are that he felt like he put himself out there when he made the comment about your eyes and maybe you didn’t respond how he hoped so he figured you’re not into him and now he’s but hurt or he is too shy so he feels defeated or a million different scenarios but who cares if you’re interested in him you should get the ball rolling like strike up a little conversation or ask for his help carrying something or moving something heavy in your apartment and then tell him you appreciate the help and would like to buy him coffee or something along those lines 99.99% of guys are going to say yes and at the very least they aren’t going to be jerks if they’re not interested girls have the upper hand big time

[shroomerite]

Maybe he’s just goin through a tough time w/ his mental health or other external factors in his everyday life that have rendered his focus of interest.


if there’s a ever a chance in-passing: try asking him how his day’s been goin then see how he responds to you.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

He may not be interested anymore, but you should try and talk to him.

[Rosie1995]

He used to stare at me and smile a lot but now he doesn’t. How can I explain that I liked him back but was shy?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Tell him what you told me!
Just walk up to him and try and engage in a convo. Let him know eventually that you were too shy to approach

[Rosie1995]

I will do that. He doesn’t seem rude. However he seems more naturally comfortable when I’ve seen him talk to other guys. Towards me he just says one little thing usually a comment about how good I look then he walks away.
I did smile and look at him a few days ago and he saw me like I said, and he walked in my direction. I thought he’d for sure come up and talk to me.

[Jisuntamed]

Nope you are not. These could be his limitations. He might be expecting too much from you after exchange of those smiles and waiting for you to approach him like he had swept you of your feet. On a cold response he might be applying an ignorance tactics on you and making you tempted to talk to him. So better wait and even start ignoring him in the same way till he loses his patience and start talking to you back. In case he doesn't you can presume that he is taken already. He did try to approach you and on your response he retreated due to his own limitations.

[DarkWinterNights]

Could be a number of things. Something could have happened and he’s overly stressed or depressed about something. He could have started dating someone or he was waiting on you to make the first move and since you didn’t he has assumed you were simply being friendly and not interested.

[Rosie1995]

He did it before sometimes too though. He’d not “see me” at all one day then the next he’d smile and stare at me when we made eye contact. When we have made eye contact he’ll hold it.

[Realbanger87]

It's common courtesy for neighbors to smile at each other and enagage small talk. The fact that he told you you have pretty eyes means he saw you as more than just a neighbour, which I'm guessing you didn't reciprocate, and he interepreted this as you're uninterested. If you like him more that that, perhaps try smiling and greeting first, in which case he might open up to you. If you dont see him more than just a neighbour, I suggest not worrying about it and go about your day

[spartan55]

Okay, you are seriously cooking all sorts of notions in your head. First of all, who said he ever liked you? Because he looked at you? No... that doesn't mean much really. Have you talked to him much?

[MrCommodore]

Sounds like he was interested and something occurred that put him off you completely.

Did you have any other guys over or arguments with people in the building?

[Dragonstarterplus]

Who knows maybe he found another girl that could actually form sentences in his direction

[Iron_Man]

Maybe he found a new girlfriend maybe he just got real shy maybe he saw you walking with some guy anything is possible it’s all just a big guessing game

[Rosie1995]

I guess I can go talk to him. I just don’t want to come off as weird either

[Iron_Man]

That’s not weird Single guys love that when a woman approaches them they’re flattered

[Rosie1995]

I’m going to be really friendly. Worse scenario we just aren’t as awkward around each other now

[Iron_Man]

Good luck maybe drop some hints about let’s have lunch sometime or go out somewhere or get a cup of coffee

[Rosie1995]

I’ll do that too :) he’s really busy working sometimes when I see him so I’ll say something like “well when you’re not busy, I’d love to see you sometime :)”
I’m so soft spoken. I didn’t know if he’d even hear me lmao

[Iron_Man]

That is awesome if a girl told me that I would be so excited. Not much going on out there at this time due to Cova 19 for me

[Rosie1995]

I hope he asks me to dinner or drinks. Then I can cook for him after that! Always wanted to cook for a guy I’m with.

[Iron_Man]

That is so awesome I was just talking about that in a question how important that is for me a woman that can cook

[Iron_Man]

oh lol that was your other question

[Rosie1995]

Lmao 😂

[Iron_Man]

Lol 😆

[Jamie05rhs]

@IronMan gave some great advice here. And I think you came up with some good ideas, too, @Rosie1995! You're on the right track. 👍

[Iron_Man]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

Why do so many of you dames care whether or not some random guys gives you attention?

”But... but... he used to say hello and smile and now he doesn’t. What does it mean?”

That you’re not the center of his universe?

[Uptowngirl88]

Im not understanding the point of this post? You're just a neighbor the man doesn't know you. Why are you obsessing over a stranger? This is why I rarely speak to neighbors because of behavior like yours

[Avicenna]

If he's socially awkward or is under stress he might.

[OddBeMe]

Boys and girls expect the other to make the “next” step.
“I smiled at her so it’s her turn to ask me out.” stupid but that’s how people think.

[Rosie1995]

Awesome. I’m gonna go flash him. Maybe he’ll get the messages then lmao

[Jamie05rhs]

Holy shit. That escalated quickly. Lol

[OddBeMe]

I mean that would be a clear move.

[saturnianqueen]

he just found you pretty but that doesn’t mean he likes you. sorry 😞

[VikingWarLord]

Who cares? You simply like the attention, you don't really like him, just confess it!

[Jamie05rhs]

He accidentally let his feelings show before but he got a hold of himself.

[tallcuck]

Stinky fanny or breath most likely. He vould have smelled her and now wants to avoid. How the fuck can anyone know. Ask him...

[captain_voidwalker]

Its called moving on. If he didn't move on you'd call him a stalker

[blueazure]

It's difficult to know what he think about. Maybe you can try to ask him. There must be a reason why.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he asked around about you and he found out you are the village bicycle...

[Siren777]

Playing games to lure you back to him.

[sheikalana]

He's no longer interested anymore.

[driven159]

stop and ask if he is alright