Is a guy being late by 30 min two dates in a row a red flag?

[anonbrunette99]

My friend said “if someone is late I don’t EVER hang with them again since they wanna disrespect my time.”

[Andres77]

Maybe, maybe not.
Everything is a case by case basis.
Two is not enough to establish a pattern of behavior.
Do you know why he was late?
Just once if it's a bullshit reason is enough to stop seeing him.
It's not THAT he was late.
It's WHY he was late.
"Oh, he's disrespecting my time'
How arrogant... if you don't know why.
Find out why he was late.
THAT'S what should feed your decision.

[Wester1967]

Yes. I would not show up for a third with any woman who did that. Or I'd make a third, expecting it to be the last and show up an hour late. Just to see what happens

[laurieluvsit]

No, that's just a personality type.

If it is not one you like, then yes, move on :)

[MrCommodore]

Yeah its concerning, but depends on his reasons and communicating with you.

[anonbrunette99]

Concerning? What’s the worse case scenario? That he thinks “she can wait” and doesn’t respect my time?

[MrCommodore]

Its concerning that it happened twice in a row, most guys won't be late twice unless they are
1. Having really bad luck those two days.
2. He isn't that into her and isn't overly arsed about being on time.

[anonbrunette99]

So I did think maybe he wasn’t that into me but he pays for everything and holds my hand and all heavy on PDA. Unless he just isn’t that into me but that’s standard procedure to make up for the lateness.

[MrCommodore]

What's PDA?

[anonbrunette99]

Public display of affection

[buddysboy16]

Did he have what seemed like legitimate reasons for being late?

[anonbrunette99]

he would never mention it at all

[buddysboy16]

Did you ask?

[anonbrunette99]

I didn’t ask because I wanted to see if he would let me know why he was late himself, he never does. It makes me not want to take him serious

[buddysboy16]

You should try asking. Then take appropriate action from there.

[TallAnon]

Yeah, major red flag to me. If they waste your time short term, they waste your time long term.
Accidents happen, but twice is too much; If that were me, I would be bringing flowers and apologizing a ton

[Vegasrunner]

Did he contact you to let you know he's running late?

[driven159]

yes respectful and inconsiderate find a more reliable guy

[wingattebaby16]

yup.. late for a date.. late for his marriage...

[Abaracadabara]

No. It is probably happenstance.

[dudeinohio]

Yeah it is... but at least he showed up.

[B4852]

Did they give you a heads up?

[anonbrunette99]

no… he never mentions why he was late or acknowledges it

[B4852]

Then yes I'd call that a red flag.

[anonbrunette99]

red flag that he potentially isn’t being honest with me or red flag that he may not be that into me and that serious about me

[B4852]

That he doesn't care enough to let you know.

[Iron_Man]

Yes it is

[anonbrunette99]

How so? Could he be not that into me or think it’s fine like “eh she can wait” type of attitude

[Iron_Man]

He doesn’t know what he’s doing you’re probably a beautiful girl shame on him

[anonbrunette99]

His time keeping can’t be that bad he’s 31 and has a full time job. I’m just gonna view him as a friend and move on

[Iron_Man]

Good idea good plan

[ticonderoga2]

Yup.

[Pterodon]

Ya think?