Yesterday my boyfriend and I was out for dinner. Everything was going good at first. This other couple had gotten up and started taking pictures. I glanced over at them twice. The second time my my boyfriend literally got angry and called me the "B" word and whispered angrily "stop looking over there" I was confused. At first I thought he was joking but then I realized he was serious. We started arguing because I was shocked he called me Bi**h but then because I glanced over at the other couple.
He said it was because the moment I looked over there the girl wasn't in the photo with the man. He said that if the man would have seen me, he would have thought that I was trying to catch his eye. He also stated that he knows what men think like and I was being disrespectful. But I am a natural looker. I have always sat in a restaurant and looked around. If a person gets up to put their jacket on- I look. In that moment, I personally found it interesting to just watch them take photos.
I'm trying to see things from his perspective but it's hard. Like, I never experienced that. He made me feel disgusted as if I was acting like a whore. I truly was embarrassed and didn't want to even look around anymore because I didn't know how he would react if I looked somewhere and a man was there. The rest of our dinner was awkward. I either looked at him or down at the table. He apologized for making me upset but he was still adamant that looking at a guy is wrong. It's weird because I am not like that. If he looks at a girl, I don't care. I don't get jealous. He's even the type to have random conversations and it still doesn't bother me. But it's different. he does not want a man speaking or looking my way at all.
Please help me understand a man's point of view. Or at least help me see what's wrong. At least if I can understand a guy, I can be more aware in the future.
He said it was because the moment I looked over there the girl wasn't in the photo with the man. He said that if the man would have seen me, he would have thought that I was trying to catch his eye. He also stated that he knows what men think like and I was being disrespectful. But I am a natural looker. I have always sat in a restaurant and looked around. If a person gets up to put their jacket on- I look. In that moment, I personally found it interesting to just watch them take photos.
I'm trying to see things from his perspective but it's hard. Like, I never experienced that. He made me feel disgusted as if I was acting like a whore. I truly was embarrassed and didn't want to even look around anymore because I didn't know how he would react if I looked somewhere and a man was there. The rest of our dinner was awkward. I either looked at him or down at the table. He apologized for making me upset but he was still adamant that looking at a guy is wrong. It's weird because I am not like that. If he looks at a girl, I don't care. I don't get jealous. He's even the type to have random conversations and it still doesn't bother me. But it's different. he does not want a man speaking or looking my way at all.
Please help me understand a man's point of view. Or at least help me see what's wrong. At least if I can understand a guy, I can be more aware in the future.
