Do Males Lie about Tears?

[Anonymous]

He told me he was very sad about family problems and said he even cried at work, had to go hide in a toilette
Do you think a man would lie about this kind of things?
Because he refused to talk to me because he was sad and thats the reason
Could this be an excuse?
Or its truth?

[Nileviewboy]

i slept with my best friend of 20 years the other week. She had to leave to back to her country. As i went to the airport to head to a business meeting the same day she left, i cried almost 4 times in 3 hours.

Not only did i sleep with my long time crush, but i was also scared she would stop talking to me because immediately after it didn't end too well. However we are still talking. But she wants a few days to process it all. i think she does love me, but there are a lot of complications involved.

short answer, men will lie about crying, they also lie about not crying. We will lie about not crying when we expected to be strong in that situation, or when we will think we will be ridiculed for it.

[glennos89]

Most males don't just tell everyone that they are crying like a little baby unless he lost his balls somewhere but I think the guy tells you the truth

[Asker]

He is my boyfriend
But we are in crisis

[Asker]

I thought he invented this in order to avoid talking to me

[glennos89]

Then it's 100% certain that he's telling the truth to you. I can totally understand how he must be feeling right now because if you lose the person you love in life it can hurt you more then anything else. And it's pretty fucked up when you can't control your emotions when you are in public or at work/school. The guy is probably crying about you perhaps

[Asker]

Noooo
He cried because on Monday he had an argument with his brother who said terrible things about their common mom who died in November
So yesterday he cried at work
I said i wanna talk but he refused, saying he is sad and affected by his words
Its just kinda shoking he so openly told me he cried

[glennos89]

If he is your boyfriend it's nothing more then normal that he tells you when he is crying. Crying is a human emotion just like laughing and being angry so the stigma that men don't cry is just a stupid man made lie that should be changed because every guy cries when he looses a loved one in their life

[Asker]

He was ignoring me for 3 days
Not even answering to my asks about how is his day
I sent him my pics and he didn't even answer mw

[glennos89]

I don't know what happened exactly between to 2 of you so it's difficult to give advise or a opinion when I don't know the details😅

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. I never tell a woman what I'm really feeling. Being a guy 101 rule #12 always tell her what she wants to hear. Or what achieve your objective.

[Asker]

But what for?
I asked him to meet and talk
He entered panic mode and said we can leave it if i want
And all this only because i asked to TALK

[Opinion Owner]

It's learned behaviour. Once you share information with women and they use that information to manipulate you. You learn NOT to let future women in your head. Then later you learn what females motivations are and you learn to give her those desired emotions. It's nothing personal it's just business.

[Asker]

But he refuses to talk to me?
He feels bad depressed and all that
But i dont know the reason
He doesn't want to tell me
Its so simple to tell me why... but he refuses

[Opinion Owner]

Hey you can't make someone open up. If you care about him all you can do is show you're there for him. After that the ball is in his court.

[Asker]

ialready did 2 days straight
i just asked to meet and talk
he refused

[Opinion Owner]

Then leave him be. Let him figure it out. You've told him you're there if he needs you. That's all you can do.

[Asker]

i said i m woirred becuae i see something wrong is going on with him and i think its normal and logical to ask him whats wrong, because i care
yesterrday he said: well dont worry then, we will talk, good night

[Andres77]

Once I saw the Deathly Hallows Pt2 and saw Snape dying... I stopped hiding my tears.

[Andres77]

There should never be any shame in expressing love or appreciation of beauty or things precious and lovely.

[Asker]

He cried of anger not beauty

[Andres77]

First, I'm sorry. I didn't read the whole question and I was trying to be funny.
I didn't mean to make light of this out of disrespect.
My second divorce left me in tears for months.
I'm going to post something. It's informative.
It suggests how SOME become suicidal.
I'm NOT saying that he is, I simply have no way of knowing that. But this guy in this short video (3 minutes) covers something profound
Complexity in life and frustration for not knowing how to manage it.
Just take THAT for what it's worth.
If you think he might actually be suicidal, ask him.
"Baby, have you ever thought of hurting yourself?"
Listen... but most importantly watch his eyes. Then act on your intuition. If after asking him that you're worried for him... get help. If you think he's safe then just be as supportive as you can. And... complexity... sometimes the problems are SO big they seem overwhelming. So break them down into manageable pieces and address the most critical issues immediately... bit by bit. But start.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=OW_zpi2hmI4
It's just a few minutes but it's so eye opening.
I truly hope you both find what you need.
Blessings to you both.

[anylolone]

Men usually downplay it, not overplay it.

Crying on the bathroom? Probably very shitty stuff.
Usually you bottle up until you get home.

[Asker]

What do you think happened then?
Think he lies?

[BarryLiverstone]

Why would he talk to you during work anyway? I get it he’s your boyfriend but was it an emergency?

[Asker]

No
I called him around 3 p. m. saying ill call him after work at 8 p. m.
So on 7.55 p. m. he sent me a message saying he feels bad, he cried and doesn't wanna talk
And we will talk another day

[Asker]

Sorry, i sent a voice message
Not a call
And he answered me me with another voice messages

[BarryLiverstone]

He lied

[Asker]

Why you think so

[BarryLiverstone]

If he was telling the truth he would have sent the message before 7:55. He did that cuz you said 8:00

[Asker]

I didn't tell him the time
I just said to him "after your work"
His work finishes at 8p. m.

[Asker]

I dont get it why you think its a lie

[BarryLiverstone]

Because he finishes work at 8 so he needed an excuse. Also let me guess, this isn’t the first time he has made an excuse not to talk to you

[Asker]

True
Whats going on?
But isn't it logical also
He knew id call him the moment he wanted to be alone and sad
So he said it before?

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes that’s what he did. See it’s a pattern, I knew this wasn’t the first time

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s my answer, follow me if you wanna discuss more

[Asker]

Why he did that excuse?
Today he peomosed call me twice
didn't call
Not even good night kiss

[Paul09]

What does he gain from lying? Why do you think he's lying? Are men not allowed to cry?

[Asker]

Yes
But i dont know it was weird

[Paul09]

Well it isn't. Men are human, we have feelings too, believe it or not.

[Asker]

Because he used this as an excuse so i won't call him

[Anonymous]

Good question, I say go with your gut feeling. You know the guy better than anyone on here.

[Asker]

But i dont have male brain
Do males capable of lies about crying?
In order to avoid talking?

[Opinion Owner]

Sure, it happens.

[Asker]

So its a yes

[Anonymous]

Yes they would lie. He's probably fucking a coworker

[Asker]

Why do you think so?

[Asker]

I was at his house
didn't see any evidence of other women at his bed or bathroom or house in general
And its not rhe cleanest house in the world

[Opinion Owner]

Do you have a bush? Be honest

[Asker]

a what?

[SnakeBoop]

i don't see why he'd need to lie about crying.

[Asker]

Think its truth then?

[Jim___Blakes]

Nobody here can answer this

[Asker]

But you have male brain
You know what males can do

[Jim___Blakes]

I don't lie about tears. But everyone is different.

[Asker]

Thats not an answer

[Jim___Blakes]

Lol that's what I told

[JesseJayNeak]

We don’t cry in front of people. I mean duh

[Asker]

He did in the bathroom

[JesseJayNeak]

So he wasn’t lying now, was he?

[spartan55]

100% true.

[Asker]

Why so sure?

[spartan55]

Because this is exactly how I think and every guy I've ever known thinks. What are you driving at here? That he made it up as an excuse to not talk to you?

[Asker]

Yes... well
Its suspicious
Tofay he said he will tell me everything in person
Its somethung extrenely horrible that his brother told him that changed his mind
He said TWICE he will call me
He didn't call me
Didint even say good night

[spartan55]

Yeah, it's all about YOU right?

[Asker]

What do you mean?
No its not
But why promise something you can't give

[spartan55]

What are you talking about? What promise?