Do men actually cry 😭?

Question

Either in public or in private? If yes, is it considered 'weak' to do so?

ShadezMcgee · Accepted Answer

Yes, we do cry. But rarely in public or in front of those that depend on us or expect us to lead. Of we cry, we do it alone and in solitude to let it out and regroup.

If men cry, the rule of thumb is that the exceptions are extreme pain, death of a close loved one/family member/pet, watching fellow brothers get hurt or die. Otherwise we are expected to be stoic and keep shit moving regardless of how we feel because at the end of the day, we show any form of vulnerability or chink in our armor it will be tested and exploited by everyone to see if we break or stand tall. In short, we get punished for it.

Society sees this as a weakness from both genders and as a collective whole when men cry. We get caught crying, the default responses tend to be the following.

"Suck it up"

"Rub some dirt on it"

"What are you, a girl?"

"Crying won't solve anything"

"Quit your crying"

"Quit your whining"

"Quit being a little bitch"

So yeah, crying is something we deal with, but we do everything in out power to do it in private.

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

Yeah we do. But it's usually harder to make the tears fall. That's how it is for me at least. I might be sad but my eyes will only water. If a tear or two fall, that's how you know it's really serious. But I only cry when I'm alone. It's like my body won't let me do it in front of others. Not that I'm holding it back or anything. There's just no urge to until I'm alone.

Haven't cried in a looooooong time though. I wish I cried more. I hear it's a great stress reliever. I have forgotten how well it works.

Bilboes · Accepted Answer

Of course they do..

Crying is good for your health, both physical and mind. It's ok if it is for pain or joy or mere empathy. Enjoy your feelings! Emotions are good, embrace them the way you want and can. Showing emotions makes you stronger than showing you have none.

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

Yes many men cry and it's very healthy for them to cry as well so that they can express their emotions. It's a giant red flag to me if a guy says that he never cries...

Summeroflove · Answer

Everyone cries. If someone never cries then something isn’t right. People who shame men for crying especially over when someone close to them has died. They’re sick people.

Okay, yes there is a extreme to crying as with anything else. But my gosh.

ShadowYamihiro · Answer

Ofc we do, we have feeling too, i feel no shame to cry when i feel like crying. Be it in private or public, ofc i prefer private not because others can't see me but because they stare at you like they haven't seen a person cry before or something

Leapfrog00 · Answer

Sometimes when I'm writing a sad chapter involving one of my book characters, it saddens me it makes me cry. Especially since I started working on my book series. When I finished the third book, I really felt bad for what I did to my Gothic character, violet. But there's always the next book where I can save her!

A lot of people say writers are emotional. I do kind of feel for my characters. I think writing brings out a lot of your emotions too though.

serious · Answer

Yes they do and chances of high when they are in private (by themselves). Men have feelings and emotions too but they don't cry often. Once in a while and they must be really hurt too.

Men are not suppose to cry, at least not often even if they are hurt. Men cannot be as vulnerable as a woman is allowed to be. Hence that is also a part of the reason as to why men don't cry often.

Simple.

Rei13 · Answer

Men do but generally not in public. Almost every guy I’ve dated has cried around me at least once when they’re were upset over something significant. It doesn’t make someone weak and it is healthy to get those emotions out. But they’re also not going to go around and tell other people that they cried.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Real men cry and have the capacity to feel emotion.

Boys who drink toxic masculinity or men who suffer from clinical depression often can't confront or experience emotion in a healthy way.

It's not weak to experience human emotion.

It's weak to try to avoid it.

JosyJosy · Answer

Yeah I tested it. Out of context this sounds pretty evil. But I got him a portrait painting of us with a pet he lost. He cried.

JackCarter · Answer

There are instances where we feel like But often we just can't cry during tough times cause we are the ones people around us look upon during those times you know what I mean...

Billlewis · Answer

I used to serve a woman who loved to see me cry, and she often had her boyfriend take his belt off and beat my bare bottom until I was in tears, for her satisfaction.

Skull_Anon · Answer

Men stop crying when they realize... no one cares 💀

Catguy92 · Answer

Yes but generally it takes more for them to cry. Only a few scenarios is it not looked down on to cry in.

Plus women (Maybe not you but many) they may feel sympathy for a crying man but they won't be attracted to someone simply for showing emotions.

There are only a few scenarios where I would not feel embarrassed to cry in

worldscolide · Answer

In my case no.. And it's not an emotional thing. When I cry I end up with a debilitating sinus head ache that takes me out of commission for 24 to 48 hours. No crying = no physical pain.

zagor · Answer

Yes. Usually due to emotional pain, not physical. Like losing a loved one.

Some cry easier. I heard a guy I used to work with cried when he got chastened by a couple of our bosses for doing something stupid and inconsiderate to a co-worker.

BigDog1989 · Answer

Crying because your fries are burnt. Probably not approp. (NOONES OUT TO GET YOU)

Crying because your mother just died, of course. there's nothing wrong with that

And i mean both genders, for these.

for those who hate i only said "BOTH", FUCK YOU. I don't care

4ngelic · Answer

they do but they dont tend to cry in front of anyone and i think most guys dont cry as much as girls either, but yea they def do cry. crying isn't like a girl thing its a human thing and dudes are human so

menina · Answer

I guess they do because they're human beings. They have feelings too. I think this whole thing of "men don't cry" is extremely toxic and unfair. A man should be able to cry in public just like a woman is.

Still-alive · Answer

It's largely a myth that men cry. we just sweat through our eyeballs :P

Jazzy54 · Answer

With someone they trust. It is absolutely not a sign weakness. Just don’t use it as ammunition later on. That’s a for sure way for a man to never be open and vulnerable with you again. Men have emotions, too and have to be handled with care.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

It depends on the reason. Some stuff we hold back on and do it in private, however, we are just like girls and if something hurts us either emotionally or physically, some tears are gonna fall.

Prettysammie · Answer

Most of my friends are guys and I noticed that they cry at different things than I do. I’ll cry over a sad movie or a beautiful love story or a frustrating situation or when someone breaks up with me. They will cry because their team made the playoffs, or some sports movie or when a dog in a movie dies.

Starrrboy · Answer

Nope... never

Sweetsurprize · Answer

An ex of mine did it many times in front of me. Guess people are all different so yeah..

bolverk · Answer

Yes we cry but we do it in private or with people we trust implicitly, and that doesn't necessarily mean wife or female family, but more likely male friends, in public you will see a couple of tears but not much more.

inhua · Answer

free speech that is hated is considered "crying" these days

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Of course they do. I think most men just do it more in private because of social stigma. Crying doesn't make anybody weak, it's an emotion.

CatVader · Answer

It's considered weak so we keep it to ourselves if we show it in public, women primarily and people in general lose respect for us.

CaptainSmartass · Answer

Nope. Any dude who cries is instantly weak and a total softy. Simples...

Anonymous · Answer

Yes they do. It's actually a beautiful thing to see them cry because they don't do it very often. If a man can cry in front of me then that shows strength not weakness in my eyes.

Sour-rose · Answer

Yes... yes they do. Probably not as easily when we do when shi goes wrong but they do.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Guys cry too just not in public. I don’t consider it weak.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

I’ve only ever cried as an adult when I lost someone close to me or a pet.

exitseven · Answer

I have been known to shed an occasional tear.

genericname85 · Answer

men mostly just cry in private. or at funerals. cause in most other situations, they will be shunned and ridiculed even by their own wife.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Yes they do especially if they are raised by a sex worker mom and become a serial killer

Anonymous · Answer

No. Guys don't cry. It's just something we say so girls don't think we are psycho. But we're all lying

AngryCarl2 · Answer

To a woman crying is like asking how was your day? To a man it's the final emotional reaction to a devastating trauma.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

If you didn’t well up during Star Wars’ Rouge One, are you really human?

Anonymous · Answer

An ex of mine cried in front of me when his mother died. I could never see him as a man again or feel sexual attraction to him.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Yes I cried this past weekend

shortster · Answer

Yes, typically in private. It isn't weak to cry for a valid reason.

LoverOfBooty23 · Answer

I cry during movies all the time. Not ashamed.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

A man who cries in front of his wife or girlfriend can expect her to be banging his best friend by Sunday.

Jennz6 · Answer

Guys try to hide their emotions

Anonymous · Answer

Not as often as women because it doesn't achieve anything.  In public? Never

Mangospacho · Answer

Never. Nope. Haven’t cried in 29 years.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have, last when my dad died. Is it weak? Really do not care what others think.

scooogy · Answer

That face rather looks like pain

Levin · Answer

Not for 10 years or so.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

They do.

ShesRad80 · Answer

yes, it is a normal human function

whirled_up_girl · Answer

Yes, it’s a normal human reaction.

DevikaButts95 · Answer

Yea of course.

Al_Musafir · Answer

In front of God, sure.

Sabretooth · Answer

it depends on the weight of the issue.

Yannae · Answer

Yes and it isn't a weakness.

Massageman · Answer

Yes. And no, in that order.

Wise4myage · Answer

Yes, but usually in private.

TiaNour · Answer

Of course they do

Hanrej · Answer

Yes, men cry and Yes, it's a weakness.

BLP11520 · Answer

It happens but rarely

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