I’ve been good friends with a guy from work (we don’t work at the same place, just the same company) for a couple of years now. We’ve been texting daily but in the last year gradually started doing things together.
He started swimming (where I swim and when I swim), comes over to play boardgames once or twice a week and sometimes just randomly calls to talk about his day or a specific thing. Sometimes there’s awkwardness between us and I don’t have the feeling other colleagues know that we are friends whereas he talks to me about the colleagues he’s friends with (almost all male by the way). We often have lingering touches as well (arms, hands, brushing something out of the hair/face).
Last weekend I asked him if he was open to go on a date, at first silence followed and he said that’s not how he feels for now. He sent me texts afterwards saying he doesn’t really know how he feels towards me romantically and that he’ll let me know if his feelings evolve. He texted me lots of sweet an thoughtful things in the days since and we’ve been on a 3 hour walk where we continuously talked.
What do I make of this? At first I wanted to move on because I thought that was that and we could just be friends but then he puts the door half open and acts not dismissive at all. I’m so confused as to if this might actually go somewhere with time or if I should just protect my feelings.
In what case would you react like this? What should I think?
He started swimming (where I swim and when I swim), comes over to play boardgames once or twice a week and sometimes just randomly calls to talk about his day or a specific thing. Sometimes there’s awkwardness between us and I don’t have the feeling other colleagues know that we are friends whereas he talks to me about the colleagues he’s friends with (almost all male by the way). We often have lingering touches as well (arms, hands, brushing something out of the hair/face).
Last weekend I asked him if he was open to go on a date, at first silence followed and he said that’s not how he feels for now. He sent me texts afterwards saying he doesn’t really know how he feels towards me romantically and that he’ll let me know if his feelings evolve. He texted me lots of sweet an thoughtful things in the days since and we’ve been on a 3 hour walk where we continuously talked.
What do I make of this? At first I wanted to move on because I thought that was that and we could just be friends but then he puts the door half open and acts not dismissive at all. I’m so confused as to if this might actually go somewhere with time or if I should just protect my feelings.
In what case would you react like this? What should I think?
