What do you do or have done about a gym douche?

[Anonymous]

this guy is such a douche , he has a girlfriend , they were having some issues a couple weeks back and suddenly he started to hit on other girls at the gym , one of them was a girl that i was interested in and had been attempting to get to know

but he has a girlfriend and yesterday i saw him there with her so why did he spent so much time hitting on the other girl when the girlfriend wasn't around? kept hoping the other girl would show up at the same time , my guess was he wouldn't of said a word to her if the girlfriend was around but when she wasn't he was all over it

so yeah pretty fed up with this guy and no idea what girl he actually likes , he's such a douche i wouldn't even be surprised if the actual girl he wants isn't even one of those 2 girls. without physically assaulting him with gym equipment not sure what i could do , though about talking to another girl there as a test and to see if he shifted his focus towards her , if he was just targeting girls at the gym guys were interested in to make himself more popular

[DonkeyDan]

2 suggestions, ask the girl out you like before he does and stop wasting time, or focus your attention on his girlfriend and see how he likes it.

[Asker]

i have talked to her before , she had been a server at a restaurant i went to , my guess is he didn't like it when i talked to her there , i want to talk to her at the gym but never see her there when he is not around lately.

how could he ask out the other girl if he already has a girlfriend? that make no sense obviously he's just playing her and has no plan to really do anything about her

[DonkeyDan]

He would want to actually go out with her, he just wants to fuck her, guys like that the girlfriend is irrelevant

[Asker]

i guess as trying to talk to the girlfriend , i'm not entirely convinced he's mentally stable , in terms of a possible reaction from him if i did that when i was around might be?

could be anything from he walks away in disgust and annoyed the girl talked to me , to becoming physically angry with me , i don't think you could rule out the possibility that he'd attempt to physically assault me if i were to approach her , he is a gym douche , muscular , tattoo's type guy or he could also try and report me to the gym management and say i was harassing her or something

so yeah be like poking the bear and seeing what happens next

[Asker]

i'm not sure he just wants sex from girl number 2 , she seems more like his type , he has tattoo's , she has tattoo's his girlfriend doesn't have any i think never seen one. they seem to have known each other for a while , she's sort of viewed as a whore but has been in long term relationships before

[Asker]

there was 1 day about 3 weeks ago when he was really unhinged , that was when he was having issues with his girlfriend i think , made a bunch of weird comments at the time and seemed extremely angry about something , but was really not with it and came across as unstable

so if he's type of person to get that angry about the though of breaking up with someone , who knows what he'd do to me if he though i was threatening his relationship ( to him appears to be more his source of sex that anything else though )

[DonkeyDan]

As you say might be best not to poke the bear, some people are just not worth the agro.

[Honesttguy]

His just doing his thing, you feel pain, pain of missing the train cus didn't take action and he did.
Learn from mistakes and grow.

[Asker]

but he already has a girlfriend , him taking action on the other girl is highly inapproate if he is claiming to want to be in an actual relationship with the other girl , that is my issue , he's claiming to be commited to her but wants other girls from the same gym

[Honesttguy]

Where have u been under rock? People cheat and lie, donr act suprised, he ain't suprising me with his actions thats for sure

[Asker]

his actions have not surprised me , i read a post online about 2 years ago by one of his ex girlfriend's she said he cheated on her and used her until he found the next girl he wanted to date. so yeah he's done sketchy things in the past when supposedly in a relationship , i wished i had saved a screen shot of it to show his current girlfriend what he's really like , it was titled " i hate you " and really quiet the piece i recall

[Honesttguy]

My point is you focus on some dude you dont even know too much. Even remembering his posts, if you not suprised that he cheats then why wonder that his foinf dor more women? Its expected from hom at this point

[Asker]

his girlfriend isn't here anymore for some reason , she's out west with her girlfriend's not here as normal she had a job at a restaurant , not sure if she plans to come back or not before summer over or what she's doing

perhaps that is why he's playing the field , not into the long distance or there on a break , was nearby and heard him talk , was claiming she still calls him every night and said she misses him but she's currently on the other side of the country