Why do guys want female friends? What do they try to get out of it? Or what do they get out of it?

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TheLoneTerran · Accepted Answer

I've had friends who are women my entire life. It's just something that happens when you hang around people with the same interests as you. We had plenty of women playing video games and traditional 'nerdy' stuff like DnD for decades. Heck, I'm still tight with some people I met in middle school and one from late elementary school.

And it isn't like this is a rare situation, it may seem like it because more attention is paid to the going-ons of groups that are having disagreements and what not.

I feel it's just easiest to make friends with whomever you're most compatible with, man or woman. People thought I was 'being sweet' on a woman who just got a job where I was working and she was a huge DnD fan. She was also absolutely broke. Found out her favorite color, went and bought an inexpensive dice set so she could join our bi-weekly DnD sessions she had seemed real keen on joining. Which she did. Done the same for guys before too. We had similar interests and the whole dice thing cost like $7 and now I've had a friend for 15 years.

Just do what you do with friends who are the same gender as you with the people who are the opposite. Works pretty much the same and if you're straight forward, there's a lot less guessing or speculation. When being straight forward, I've been asked what my intentions were and my answer was always in the orbit of "We like similar stuff, I'd like to be friends. If we feel something more, we can talk about it when it happens.". Something along those lines.

It's weird seeing people seek out opposite gender people to be friends and then pretty much put them on a pedestal. I'm sure it's different for everyone but it gives me vibes of trying to alter their perception, or the perception of their group, like having someone of a different gender is some sort of badge of honor.

In hobbies and things, gender rarely comes up. But when we're just hanging out and chatting, I'm 100% sure in the what-if scenarios or politics or views on a subject are influenced by gender, pretty hard not too I guess.

Direct questions about gender is usually when someone is shopping for or trying to surprise someone and you're asked "as a guy, would you maybe consider this a fun gift", stuff along that lines. And sometimes if certain ones are feeling cheeky or are really relaxed with some good drinks, they looooooooove to ask me about situations where I thought a woman was being nice to me but apparently was missing signals like a fucking champ. There have been times where it's actually made them angry that I managed to miss a signal. Just a little bit. I mean, they're super obvious NOW but at the time the thought is "she's just being nice, don't be a creeper" lol.

Basically, people may seek out opposite gendered people for friends for a lot of reasons. But unless they have similar interests, it might be pretty hard to keep a friendship going that doesn't revolve around them being a different gender. And that seems like it'd be pretty weird or uncomfortable.

From my POV, experiences, and seeing how other people and friends behave, most of the time, the person's gender isn't the main aspect. But people may be different today, so take what I say with a grain of salt. Good luck!

IMuser · Accepted Answer

Nothing. I had a realisation (after my breakup) that there is no inherent benefit in having a female friend: they often require more "attention" than guy friends and can take "fun insults" literally... Thus, i look for friends based on their qualities rather than gender

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

Most guys who do this just want sex but some really care about their female friends

exitseven · Answer

I had many female friends. One was sort of my best friend for a while. I don't know why, it just ended up that way. I had a girlfriend so I really was not looking for a relationship. These friends were really nice to me and it was really comfortable being around them. One of them I could trust with my deepest feelings.

Lionman95 · Answer

For me it's about understanding women better. Where shall I get to know women better or learn how to date them right?
My parents were colleagues before they got married they never dated in modern terms.
So family isn't much of an option.

boggboss · Answer

Being able to have the other gender view and opinion on subjects tends to be pretty important considering they are half the population

Pyrofox · Answer

I have them mostly just to help translate my girlfriends period texts XD. It's a little hard to figure out when they end up all really passive aggressive.

ImNoOne111 · Answer

Because females are not only to date and fuck. They are humans too and deserve friendship

Anonymous · Answer

The ONLY thing we want from females is pussy. No guy goes out of his way to be “friends” with a girl. Girls are drama, childishness, cattiness, whining, jealousy, etc. It isn’t worth it.

In_Trance · Answer

Guys never want to be friends

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