Do guys struggle to give up single life?

[Anonymous]

Iv been seeing a guy for 10/11 weeks see each other about twice a week the odd time 3 depending on his schedule…last night he came to see me even though he wasn't feeling well and he didn't try to get it on with me either just grabbed me around the waist for a good night kiss when he was leaving i took this as a great sign he still wanted to see me when unwell and not wanting sex…. however at the weekend we never see each other on a fri or sat night he's always got plans with friends at the weekend or other commitments. If a guy has lived the batchelor life for a while is it hard to get give up that way of life i dont want to act jealous or possessive just going with the flow and trying to be chill and not pressure him or anything.

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah. It's going to be a hard transition. Especially if he's been single for a really long time. It won't happen instantly with the flip of a switch. You will have to have some conversations with him about what your expectations are in the relationship and you will have to talk about boundaries and things like that.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO.

[DarkWinterNights]

Yeah, if he has had a busy life for awhile prior to dating he could be having a hard time balancing his other obligations, interests and friends with the time needed for a relationship. The two of you should sit down and set your expectations with what you both want out of this relationship and how you can both meet your needs. If you go forward it will likely require some sacrifice from both of you.

[Asker]

Do you think this isn't a waste of time then?

[DarkWinterNights]

I don’t know. I know personally I would have a hard time in this situation having been single for a long time. I would give it a shot, but good communication and understanding each others expectations can’t be overstated. Start now. If he gets offended or annoyed about spending time with you I would take that as a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Do you ever meet his friends? I'm guessing he's in his 30s or 40s, so it can't be like he's out partying all the time. What is he doing on the weekend? Does he have lots of single friends?

[Asker]

Not yet its been pretty low key im spilt from my husband have a 2 year old so i think its a lot to probably take on and im keeping my private life private as i think my ex will make my life difficult if or when he finds out its all new territory for us both

[Opinion Owner]

Well it sounds like you are fine taking it slow for now. My ex is in his 30s and struggles with commitment, which is why we broke up. He is very used to the single life and probably always will be. But he is a bit of a loner with not a big social life, and is used to his own company. I don't think he will ever change.

But if a guy is ready to settle down, he will. You could have that chat with him some time when the time is right and see what he says.

If it bothers you, you should suggest doing something one weekend and see what he says. But I think you should tell him you have a child sooner rather than later.

[LazerBean]

There are plenty of men ready to settle down, and they have no problem giving it up.

[Jamie05rhs]

No problem intellectually. Putting it into practice may be the hard part.

[LazerBean]

Depends on the crowd. I and all the guys I ever "talked to" are now married to good matches.

[Jamie05rhs]

@LazerBean I never said it was impossible. Lol. It just takes effort and determination.

[Hairylegs222]

Greatly varies from person to person. For the right woman with me, I will give up being single. Getting to know someone takes a long time and gaining her trust. So much else involved.

[Asker]

So this doesn't seem a lost cause or anything?

[Hairylegs222]

I don't know the guy or his intentions. Him seeing you more and more frequently is what matters. Also i always bring my woman with me to friends, family, etc. You being left out of what you mentioned above , you could ask about that.

[spartan55]

Seems you haven't made weekend girlfriend status yet.

[Asker]

Does that mean at some point i will 😂

[spartan55]

Not necessarily.

[KrakenAttackin]

Well, if he isn't seeing other women than he has given up the single life.

[Anonymous]

Not if she's worth the trade off. But so few women are. Sorry, that's just real.

[MCheetah]

Only the super attractive ones with options.

[Fuentes]

I would never give it up

[serious]

I don't think so.

[serious]

I think you are just overthinking

[Asker]

How so? Do you think this guy is serious about me or going that way?

[serious]

That is because if you have been seeing this guy for 10/11 weeks now and if things have been good then there is little to no reason for him to lose interest suddenly. Especially when you never gave him any such reason.

[serious]

If he did lose interest in you then I cannot think why that could have happened.