So there is this guy, and I really like him but he goes days and sometimes a month without seeing me?

[Anonymous]

So my sister and her boyfriend begged me and begged me to go on a date with her boyfriends boss ((well it wasn't much of a date)) the first time we hung out he was an hour or two late then we ended up going to his house and as soon as we sat down on the couch be fell asleep I mean he asked me to lay down and cuddle with him so I did. But since then I have seen him maybe 5 more times and he is a business owner and has a lot going on but it is usually wam bam thank you ma'am and then I stay the night and he takes me home the next morning. But I have fell so hard for him and I can't stand the not hearing from him for day/weeks/ months. It is killing me. What should I do?

[RuthlessAggression]

I don't know if this girl "friend" I have likes me, or not. She says she goes for "bad guys", which im not apparently, but then, she'll often do things that doesn't reflect the guy she "goes after". Maybe I'm just looking for something that's not there but, she's confusing me. That's why I'm probably confusing her.

The other night, I hadn't seen her in 5 months, mainly due to the fact that I've been busy with work, and whatever but, I was able to get away after work the other day, and it was good. We talked and we event went to the waterfall that's behind her apartment. The waterfall is actually raw sewage so while it's nice to look at, it tends to smell, and you can't go in the water. You get fined otherwise (as its for your own protection). We took pics together, and even at one point, to get one of the pics, she had to sort of "get closer" if that makes any sense, and brushed my shoulder. We've hugged and touched each other before that but, rarely does she initiate it. So, i dk what's going on there

However, on the same night, she was having a guy come over I guess, not sure why. and the guy is like me where she likes to "hang out with him" but because he's supposedly a "good guy", she "wouldn't date him".

I met him for a split second and then said, Fuck this, im out. bye

and took off

[Asker]

It seems like she is doing the same thing I'm going through

[RuthlessAggression]

Which is?

[Guy13]

You can not do anything. He probably has a Control thing being a Business Owner. If you violate "Standards, Protocol, or Procedure" then your contract may be come disjointed...

[Asker]

But I don't I give him his space and he is so oh I want you to be mine so bad., Then the next time oh we could never be together then the next it's your so beautiful I wish you were mine. I mean it's just confusing but the sex is the best I've ever encountered

[Guy13]

Sounds like a married Narcissist to me. 45 or older?

[Asker]

No he is 38 and I'm 26

[spartan55]

So the guy does nothing but use you for sex... and you really like him? Your self esteem must be terrible.

[Asker]

Yes it is and yes I do

[spartan55]

Is that all you think you are worth?

[mermaidcancermoon]

End it. you're a friends with benefits

[In_Trance]

clearly he doesn't feel the same