There's nothing wrong with complimenting others, but maybe the guy just wasn't having it and hearing you say something like this may have come offensive and insensitive to him. Maybe the guy was going through a tough breakup, or had a loved one in the hospital, or just got fired from his job, or maybe his friends are all a**holes.
Believe it or not, many of us guys have our days where we're super stressed over life and our struggles, and want zero human interaction. Telling a guy to "smile" during those hard times is like telling a depressed and suicidal person "hey! Don't be sad. You should smile more!" so inwardly he'll be thinking "dude, who even are you? Just leave me alone!"
So now you're probably be wondering what should you do in this situation? Like I said, normally, guys when they're in this phase just want to be left alone. But if you're feeling adventurous, you could just politely walk up to him and say "excuse me, I was standing there and couldn't help but notice you look kind of sad with yourself. Is something wrong?" and I assure you, the response would be ten times better.
Hope this helped
You just saw a random guy who was super attractive and you gave him a compliment like that, okay that was nice of you but doing that can also put the guy off because it is just strange, it is kind of weird.
The woman would feel the same if a man just came up to the woman and told her she is gorgeous and needs to smile often.
I think he did not take your compliment well because he thought you are weird ( in your behavior to approach him out of the blue)
That being said I won't say that you complimenting him was wrong it is just that some men will think that is weird for a stranger woman to just approach and compliment them.
I’d be annoyed if someone said that to me. I’ll look sad or angry if I want and your comment definitely wouldn’t make me happy. So yes, you were wrong and apparently you’re married so you’re weird in my books
Not sure if this is a joke but walking up to people and telling them what to do is kind of annoying and weird. While he didn't really take it well I can understand why he'd have that reaction.
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Herein lies the disconnect between men and women, for some reason. That event would legitimately make my day, not even trying to be a smart ass or miss the point of this, I’m just being honest that my dream is basically being stopped by random women all day long to be told I look good, even in a backhanded way where I’m told I’d look better if I did X, Y, or Z. I understand the dynamics are different, not trying to downplay it from the women’s side, I’m just saying that, to most guys, that sounds awesome, because we’re so seldom complimented by random women😂
Ohhh. Now I get it. I saw @Smoke-n-Growls' comment, but I didn't know what she meant until I read yours.
@Jamie05rhs haha, yeah, satire. I hate to reiterate it because I don’t want to downplay that, for whatever reason, it’s just different and it’s not cool to do this to women. Totally understand that it makes them uncomfortable and offends them and I totally respect that. All they gotta say is “don’t do that”, and I’ll happily and respectfully abide. But I’m the biggest liar in the history of lying if I told you that like 80% of the reason I lift work out, and 90-some% of the reason I put effort into my clothes, and most of the reason I even venture out into public most days is just in hopes of a woman spotting me and telling me I look attractive. DEAD SERIOUS, lmao. Like if I could translate mental memories into tangible film and made a Top 100 Life Moments compilation of myself, solely FOR myself, I would absolutely, positively have every single time I was catcalled or told I was good looking or any overtly sexual advance made on me by a woman on there, and most would crack the Top 25😂 It makes my life THAT much when it happens to me lmfao. Sad? Maybe. But it is what it is and I am who I am😝
@WhiteSteve LOL. 😅 I love the honesty, dude.
@Jamie05rhs I mean…. can I keep it a hunnit one time?😂
@WhiteSteve I'll allow it! Lol
Reverse this situation - some random guy goes up to a hot, but sad looking girl, on a public street, and says the same thing the same way. She'll either tell him to go fuck himself or kick him in the nuts at worst. At best, flip him off or just ignore him and keep walking. Women don't want to hear that, whatever the intent is.
Now for guys though - what if you had just stopped him and said " Excuse me, but are you OK? You look very sad." Leave out the "you're super hot" part. What do you think would happen? Different response maybe? Who knows, but as a woman, you can get away with that. Guys usually can't.
Of course, maybe he's just a bitch with resting bitch face, and is always sour. Or maybe his girl just dumped him.
You are finally catching on. Good job.
I don't know what that means, exactly. In my example, no matter how "sweetly intended" a guy's approach may be, however, he's still viewed as a creepy asshole. You, on the other hand, because you're really good looking, or another girl who is, can easily get away with more. Which part am I "finally catching on to here?" Do explain this to me.
Are you familiar with the word satire?
Is that a special tire for a new kind of car.. an SA car that needs sa tires?
Everyone is a jerk these days. I ran a 10K someplace and there was a girl there that ran a really good race even thought she had boobs so big they were practically hitting her in the face while she ran. I was sitting on the tailgate of my truck drinking a beer and she walked by. I just said, " Hey, nice race" she stopped and I expected her to say "Thanks' instead she turned and popped me the bird. I was speechless.
So, think of it like this.
What if I randomly came up to you and told you that you are super hot but you should smile more? See what I mean? You probably would feel somewhat creeped out, overwhelmed, and overall unpleasant from the interaction or encounter right?
Lol 😂
Listen from a guy who's has felt like this a good portion of my life I try to smile a lot now for the sake of appearances and stuff lol but I used to be super down all the time and If anyone came up to me and the first thing they said was your hot but you like sad you should smile more I'd feel kinda like insulted tbh but it kinda shows you were more interested in speaking to him for his looks if you had stopped him and said hey you look a bit down are you okay? He may have responded In a more positive manner toward you
Maybe just bad timing but he should have taken that moment to smile and clear his head no matter what we might be going through in life we have to understand it's just a moment it time.
I will bet you anything he regrets what he did he will always think about your smile your eyes as you said it
You have no idea what was happening that day. You could have left it at he's really hot, but you should smile more doesn't seem nice. It's kinda like telling something that they should just stop being sad, or that they have to smile for others. The only time I think saying someone should smile more is nice, is if you are saying they have a nice smile first and that you should show it off.
Well he didn't ask you and a random person just coming out of nowhere to tell you something like that seems a bit out of place, maybe the dude smiles a lot but was having a bad day so you telling him that he should smile more like you know him might have pissed him off
So you walked up to him and Told him what he should do.
How bout I command you To do something. You know nothing of that man’s life and you just Told him commanded him Of what he should do, he may not like smiling
Some people smile more because they like smiling. Other don’t smile because it doesn’t make any DAMN sense and anything that doesn’t make any damn sense is Illogical and makes one Irrational.
Apparently some people just don't know how to take a compliment..
It’s not that they don’t know it’s that they don’t care 🤷♂️ in his mind what you did was not a compliment. What is a compliment in your mind is oppressive to another.
really.. you don't say
No, you’re trying to make a point—rather ham-fistedly I may add—about some perceived slight you feel that men do to women, so you want to reciprocate in kind. It’s pretty childish and it certainly doesn’t make you out to be the person you’d like to think you are.
Whatever.
It’s called satire son
You don't know what's going on in his life. Imagine his child just got diagnosed with cancer and some woman comes up to him and tells him he should smile more. It may have nothing to do with his ability to take a compliment and everything to do with his circumstances.
A lot of guys don't like compliments. Or if it's not that they don't like it, it's that they don't care. I take any compliment and always thank the person for it. But some guys just don't want to hear it. What you did was perfectly fine.
Sounds like something you would do... with no understanding of Context and/or Situation outside of what you think at the moment... in your own little head. He did not ask for your intrusion...
Some people just don't know how to take a compliment I guess..
I knew this was satire by the second sentence. 🤣🤣🤣 I love this
Ok let's say your feeling pretty down and walking down the street but then a man walked up to you and said "hey your pretty hot but you should smile more" assumably this man is a total stranger that is having a bad day.
Yeah, a lot of people get offended without good cause which is why I try to avoid non standard responses to people because I find it enrages people who don’t understand your non threatening purposes.
Telling someone to smile more definitely doesn’t help Lmfao
Besides that, do we need to smile all the time we walk? Like we open our mouth and smile all the time we out 😂😂😂😂😂 I still have many questions for the asker.
@TwiNshichamp1 I was just saying he would have been more attractive if he smiled and then he got upset.. some people just can't take a compliment
I mean maybe he was sad. About whatever was in his mind. Iam very talkative guy and attractive but if I'm in a bad mood you will see me as a monster. Iam an emotional guy. I try to control myself by the way.
2. If it could be me and I was on a good mood, I could stop and try talk to you. If not I could ignore you too. But if I was good, I could try to understand what you have just said. But girl you where so straight he might find it weird. Besides you gat balls to do that lol 😂
Sounded more like constructive criticism from a stranger then a compliment honestly. But yeah I would of smiled for you and tried to get your number first... not flipped you off and run off.
It's not really a compliment no matter if the addressed is male or female. It's rather saying:You're ugly and it's your fault because you're too upset.
I absolutely love it & I love when people are honest like that & stars to you my friend.
I had a girl who I was dating years ago to “smile” once after she told me she was leaving me for someone else.
I wanted to backhand her. I never hit a woman in my life but I swear to God she really deserved it.
You think she deserved to be hit because she told you she was leaving you?
No it was the blatant disrespect of telling me to f*cking smile when she’s dumping me. How would it make you feel if a guy told you to “smile” when he’s leaving you for someone else.
It wasn’t a relationship issue but a RESPECT issue.
I wouldn’t be happy but I can assure you my initial reaction wouldn’t be to get violent… from the way you explain it I can understand why she left
I have never in my life threatened violence or gotten violent with a woman. Never.
The reason I brought up the “backhand” comment is because some women feel no guilt or shame blatantly disrespecting guys. Her telling me to “smile” when I was getting screwed over was insane.
No… getting disrespected and screwed over would be if she left and ghosted you.. not rejecting you. At least she told you.
Actually did worse earlier and like a fool I gave her a second chance. This was 12 years ago and I was younger and dumber.
Anon. She knew the gynocracy and law would protect her from. Whatever bad behavior she does.
@KrakenAttackin and I am describing his that made me feel. That doesn’t mean I would ever do it.
But men get muzzled on describing how they really feel if it isn’t what women want to hear. But vice versa is not only supposed to be tolerated but celebrated.
I guess it kinda depends on the delivery... if it was snarky he could take it as an insult... but if your smiling, i would have thought it as a compliment.
Then again im almost always smiling
It's only logical that we start telling people "you should smile less." That way they won't be offended at having to smile more.
It was an extreme reaction, but you don't know what was going on in his life, maybe he wasn't smiling for a reason. If your mom just died and a stranger told you to smile more, you'd probably get quite annoyed.
Perhaps it wasn't your place telling him to smile more. Maybe he's upset about something.
Telling him he should smile more is not a compliment, it's a criticism... guys don't like being criticized.
He’s a jerk for flipping you off. You were trying to be nice.
I agree
I think he should stop and talk to her. Maybe trying to understand her what was saying. I feel the guy saw this as a mock and get offended.
If it could me I could just stop and trying to talk to the girl. But also the way the girl spoke to him was so directly lmao 😂 like he knows the guy which is kinda weird. But people gat their opinions and know what to do.
Huh he was just be a child lol I would of be like yeah your a cutie il smile for u just this one time lol!!
m lol...
I don't smile much when it's 114°F hot though...
So is this a joke or an actual thing that happened @Subarugirl
So all the guys you compliment, flip you off? If a cute girl compliments me, I'd blush, and say thank you. But also in not a fan of my smile. That dudes reaction is odd.
He prob didn’t like how u said super hot 🤷♂️
would a girl like that if a man did that
hell no
Oh, no way! Really?
Well at least you’re able to pick up on social cues, that’s a good sign.
Lol 😂
Okay, I think men who tell women to smile should be smacked in the back of the head. But if this guy didn't tell you that and you just wanted a little revenge thing, you are kinda in the wrong here.
I get this is satire but if it was true I don’t think you’d be in the wrong
Your probably not the first one to tell him he should smile more. While your hart is in the right place telling someone to smile more when they look sad does more harm then good.
Wow that was rude.. maybe his boyfriend dumped him for not smiling lol
Apparently he just doesn’t know how to take a compliment
I mean everyone has a bad day from time to time.. but a random pretty girl talking to me would cheer me up and make me smile in a hurry.
See you’d know how to take compliment, some guys just don’t know how to apparently
I guess... I don't get it
1st off I have to start by saying you have the most beautiful eyes and police and secondly he was just an asshole it wasn't that serious. But it is what it is right
Never tell a man to smile... Thats creepy
Jk
You were not complimenting him you were telling him what to do you don't know what was on his mind he might have just lost his job lost a loved one
He was an asshole. I would tell you if I had pretty girl like you as a friend I would have a reason to smile more
Should of said are you sad an I think your sexy cuz he probably just got dumped
I usually take that as a compliment but I guess that guy was just having bad really bad day.
I was gonna say "how dare you, you're married" but I read the satire hmm 😒
maybe... his 2-year-old daughter had died that morning... Sometimes it is better to MYOB
Would you like it if someone said you should smile more?
This is really funny because this right here would be considered catcalling if the roles were reversed.
……. you're starting to catch on. Good job.
@Subarugirl So you made a question just to be sarcastic?
Personally, I would only find it annoying in a sense of "I have shit to do and you're bothering me". Not the smile thing, I would appreciate that.
I see what you did there. Nice one.
Not really wrong, But it's Pointless because they probably won't listen to you.
maybe he is not feeling well at that moment. That's why he may not be interested in you.
Ur marry u wanted 2 fuck the dude?
U white girls r slutty.
And apparently you don’t know how to read or don’t know what satire is…. LMAO 😂
Why do people feel like men actually walk around and tell women that lmao?
Because it happens, its definitely happened to me on several occasions
"Several occasions"? I've had bad things happen to me on "several occasions" and I don't mention them because "several occasions" in comparison to the entirety of your life is rare.
The doesn’t negate the fact that it does happen, and most woman can relate to it
Or have experienced something similar
It doesn't help when people kept say smile more when a person having bad day.
For one thing that never happened. For another thing no guy has ever worded like you did so passive aggressively. You like to create strawman on this website to attack, don't you subgirl.
Apparently you have no idea what satire is…
Yeah it has to funny
Yes, it was wrong. You're married.
This is gonna go right over some heads.
Ahhhh... love it when that happens to guys.
Honestly, that was just stupid.
I know right! some people just don't know how to take a compliment
🤣🤣
How many will understand the point here?
How do you think he should react?
It was a compliment, he should have been polite
What if he wanted your number could you give it to him 😅 Iam just curious lol
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