Why older guys keep on asking me out but not guys my own age, Am I doing something wrong?

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My friend got me to get into this Christian dating events I am not that old I am 29 not 21 , I only want to date and marry a men that must be born in 1992-1994 that's it no exceptions. But why do creep scary men in their late 30's keep asking me out to dinner or but when I try keeping conversation with guys my age they act all friendly but not in a flirting way. Why do I keep getting these weirdos creep men in their late 30's? Way to old for me.

RealMarek · Accepted Answer

The reality is not always what we want to hear. The times when women typically married men their age, especially if they were single after their early 20s, were times post-where there were good jobs for young men and belief in monogamy was nearly universal (1950s-90s). Today these conditions no longer exist. Median real income for men has declined ever since the 1970s and recently they began to face discrimination due to government ESG policies. There is a crisis among single men today. In the past, the older a couple was when they met, the larger the age gap was apt to be. This is because older single men who were stable were never easy to find. Especially in traditional religious circles today, where men may be more apt to marry young and stay married, stable single men in their late 20s and 30s are in short supply. The reason these men in their 30s ask you out is because they have had success getting dates with women in their late-20s in the past or know other men who did. The reason men your age are not asking you out frequently is probably because they can get dates with women in their mid-20s, and men have a powerful biological drive that causes them to gravitate toward somewhat younger women.

I think if you want someone your age, you just need to say so up front and keep trying. But you might need to cast a wide net (use Christian dating sites, etc.) where you can specify that age range.

Man-O-Metal · Accepted Answer

Some people have older looking faces. My buddy is just turning 23 and everyone already thinks he's in his mid 30's. Not saying this is your problem, just a possibility. Could also be the way you carry yourself. You're probably a lot more mature (for your age) than most other girls around you. It's hard to say what it is exactly.

Gent207 · Answer

I am curious about your situation being a Christian and a 90s kid myself.
So what sort of man are you going for?
What's your flirting style? I. e., do you ask more questions about him or do you talk more about yourself? Do you use open ended questions and answers?

Yes know a lot of questions but all with a purpose

Adronicus · Answer

Sorry, I'm laughing. I have the opposite problem :p when I recently started going back to church I chose a spot no one was sitting in & I was one of the last in (speaking with the chaperon). 14 different woman all sat around me, not a single one over 25. I started going to a much smaller church afterwards. Men are on the average mostly visual. Just be glad you don't know what's going through their minds thinly masked behind all those good intentions. Men without options are desperate is why.

JSmuve · Answer

Whoa... just because a guy is out of your range doesn't make him creepy or weird. And if you find them "scary", then that's definitely a "you problem" and something you should work on.

It seems like the only guys who are actually interested in you are older guys. Clearly guys within one year of you are not.

Anonymous · Answer

2 reasons. 1. You possibly look older than you think. 2. You're not wearing a sign that's says "I'm very rigid about my age bracket when it comes to dating. Believe me it isn't any more pleasant for them than for you.

Shy_Steve · Answer

It's probably because you might look older than you actually are, We all get ignored by the People we find Attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys your age aren't single, for the most part. Your next large batch of single men is post divorce number 1 men and long term bachelor men.

Friendzoned1970 · Answer

Those guys obviously don't know how to read, I would suggest telling them You are not interested 0w

Jamie05rhs · Answer

You're a divorced 29-year-old. You don't really get to be picky, hon. Sorry to break it to you.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What makes these guys creeps?

RuthlessAggression · Answer

nothing, you're just shallow

Guy13 · Answer

Good luck…

DoctorSex · Answer

Welcome to life.

Why older guys keep on asking me out but not guys my own age, Am I doing something wrong?

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