So me and my ex we broke up 8 months ago and he keeps coming back to watch my snap chat stories even tho we don’t follow each other , he searches for my snap chat name because i am not in the fast add option. he has a girlfriend now and still does this , is it normal?
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Doesn't matter whether it is normal. You tried and it didn't work. Try it again and it won't work the second time, either, for the same reasons it didn't work the first time. You ar NOT obligated to remain in a supposed friendship wth an ex. In fact, staying in touch with an ex prevents you from moving forward and if you somehow do manage to get a new partner, they will be very suspicious of you remaining in contact with an ex.
I suspect that you won't want to listen to this advice. You'll probably tell yourself, "Maybe that's true for other people but no for us; we're DIFFERENT." Right! That's what EVERYONE tells themselves before reconciling with an ex and learning this lesson the hard way.
"Never forget that you are absolutely unique, just like everyone else." Margaret Mead.
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If he still cares about you, he's still going to feel that guardian instinct, even if he knows you're not compatible dating material.
In ancient times, for political purposes in many kingdoms, kings were expected to have a harem. They'd have a queen who was above all others, but would have a number of concubines too. The king knew that anything too much pursued with these concubines was likely to fail, but he still guarded them from ruffians that might hurt them. Even the ones he didn't have sex with regularly, were still of value to him in other ways, and he sought to give their lives meaning and purpose.
That same instinct exists today. A man may not have hope for a woman to be his wife. But that doesn't mean he will entirely abandon her to the cold. If nothing else, he will wish to know for certain that she is doing fine, even without his direct control over that outcome.
No. It means he still has some lingering feelings for you and wants to know what you're doing in life to if you have moved on yet as well.
Can you contact the girlfriend and bring her up to speed, ask her to ask him to stop checking your stories.
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You are the one that got away. He will probably always want to know how your life is going and if he would have been better off with you. Do not worry about it and try out other social media sites/settings if you need a private space.
I think it's hard to see someone who was a big part of your life just suddenly be out of it, no matter how rough the relationship was (to a point anyway)
My girl checked her ex's Facebook for a good year into our relationship until she finally accepted that part of her life was over. I was mad about it, but I get itHe is interested and probably trying to determine your "Person"...
i dont believe you. i dont think he thinks about you at all. i think you want him to so you made up this story and lied about it on the internet for attention. yojr pretty sad and pathetic realy
Yeah, it bothers you so much you don't block him... please...🙄
Sounds like he is a serious creep stalking you. Be careful. People who maintain ANY contact or think about an ex never have good intentions.
Lot's of guys and girls do it. They can't let go. He's hoping you will see it and contact him probably.
Not really, might be different if he were still single
Its posted on public forum.
Why worry about it?
What's abnormal is that you're obsessing about it.He doesn’t follow me butt cheeks all my stories?
I feel he somehow still wants control over you.
Just checking on you
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Still intrested in your life not surprising
Why would we feel the need? Did you cheat?
Stop watching your ex
If I were You I would block him
He misses you
Block him
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