He doesn’t follow me but checks all my stories?

[Claudia__97]

So me and my ex we broke up 8 months ago and he keeps coming back to watch my snap chat stories even tho we don’t follow each other , he searches for my snap chat name because i am not in the fast add option. he has a girlfriend now and still does this , is it normal?

[OlderAndWiser]

Doesn't matter whether it is normal. You tried and it didn't work. Try it again and it won't work the second time, either, for the same reasons it didn't work the first time. You ar NOT obligated to remain in a supposed friendship wth an ex. In fact, staying in touch with an ex prevents you from moving forward and if you somehow do manage to get a new partner, they will be very suspicious of you remaining in contact with an ex.

I suspect that you won't want to listen to this advice. You'll probably tell yourself, "Maybe that's true for other people but no for us; we're DIFFERENT." Right! That's what EVERYONE tells themselves before reconciling with an ex and learning this lesson the hard way.

"Never forget that you are absolutely unique, just like everyone else." Margaret Mead.

[Claudia__97]

Thanks for you opinion, the thing is i have no wish to get back with him i hope he is happy in his relationship i just asked cause i was curious of why a guy would do this since it’s not the kind of behavior i would have.

[ObscuredBeyond]

If he still cares about you, he's still going to feel that guardian instinct, even if he knows you're not compatible dating material.

In ancient times, for political purposes in many kingdoms, kings were expected to have a harem. They'd have a queen who was above all others, but would have a number of concubines too. The king knew that anything too much pursued with these concubines was likely to fail, but he still guarded them from ruffians that might hurt them. Even the ones he didn't have sex with regularly, were still of value to him in other ways, and he sought to give their lives meaning and purpose.

That same instinct exists today. A man may not have hope for a woman to be his wife. But that doesn't mean he will entirely abandon her to the cold. If nothing else, he will wish to know for certain that she is doing fine, even without his direct control over that outcome.

[Claudia__97]

I see thank you for your opinion

[BlueScorpio]

No. It means he still has some lingering feelings for you and wants to know what you're doing in life to if you have moved on yet as well.

[Bee-Hatch]

Can you contact the girlfriend and bring her up to speed, ask her to ask him to stop checking your stories.

[Claudia__97]

I was thinking about doing that, but i don’t want to make any problem in their relationship if it means nothing or if he just does out of curiosity. That’s why i asked on this forum for guys to tell me if they found it normal

[imjustadude]

You are the one that got away. He will probably always want to know how your life is going and if he would have been better off with you. Do not worry about it and try out other social media sites/settings if you need a private space.

[Claudia__97]

Thanks for your opinion, i do not worry about i was just curious of why guys would do this

[ElementoP]

I think it's hard to see someone who was a big part of your life just suddenly be out of it, no matter how rough the relationship was (to a point anyway)

My girl checked her ex's Facebook for a good year into our relationship until she finally accepted that part of her life was over. I was mad about it, but I get it

[Claudia__97]

Didn’t you feel disrespected by it?

[Guy13]

He is interested and probably trying to determine your "Person"...

[Claudia__97]

What do you mean by your « person »?

[Guy13]

morality, behaviors, conduct... all those personal traits that define you.

[Jamesshinobi]

i dont believe you. i dont think he thinks about you at all. i think you want him to so you made up this story and lied about it on the internet for attention. yojr pretty sad and pathetic realy

[Claudia__97]

🤣🤣 of course i invented it all, go back to your pathetic life old doggy

[Jamesshinobi]

im gonna follow you so you can entertain me with your made up stories.

[Claudia__97]

No problem you need it, just the way you answer to other’s questions you’re in your depressive period. There is nothing bad to go ask an doctor for help 🥲 you know

[MzAsh]

Girl now he’s the one following you and checking all your stories 😂😂

[Claudia__97]

@MzAsh 🤣🤷🏻‍♀️🤣🤷🏻‍♀️🤣

[Jamesshinobi]

women. so stupid they think they got the joke when they are the joke

[spartan55]

Yeah, it bothers you so much you don't block him... please...🙄

[GeneralContractor]

Sounds like he is a serious creep stalking you. Be careful. People who maintain ANY contact or think about an ex never have good intentions.

[Claudia__97]

Thanks for the advice

[JPresidente]

Lot's of guys and girls do it. They can't let go. He's hoping you will see it and contact him probably.

[Claudia__97]

He may do it out of only curiosity or either wants me to contact him

[JPresidente]

👍👍👍

[Avicenna]

Not really, might be different if he were still single

[maximumpower]

Its posted on public forum.
Why worry about it?
What's abnormal is that you're obsessing about it.

[Jouth]

He doesn’t follow me butt cheeks all my stories?

[ochitougly]

I feel he somehow still wants control over you.

[Claudia__97]

Yes maybe

[Pinay_ako]

Just checking on you

[boggboss]

Still intrested in your life not surprising

[OddBeMe]

Why would we feel the need? Did you cheat?

[Claudia__97]

I did not cheat on him but i am the one who broke up

[OddBeMe]

Oh well he wants you. So getback with him or just have fun making pine over you :)

[In_Trance]

Stop watching your ex

[spartan55]

No, no... HE is watching her, remember? She just wants to be left alone... 😂 😂 😂

[In_Trance]

@spartan55 geez... silly me. I need to pay attention 🤪

[Claudia__97]

@spartan55 damn you are obsessed with my post coming back two days after just to comment, you really are bored 🤣🤣🤣 go back to play your video games it should entertain you for a while

[spartan55]

Yeah, obsessed. You'd know all about that apparently. Because I came back two days later means I'm bored. Real sound logic there. Try to turn the attention on me... so weak. Nice effort though.

[Claudia__97]

@spartan55 i’ll give you more tries to say some relevant things and true things, cause you’re not doing well at it 🤣🤣 saying it bothers me of what is doing while its just out of curiosity i asked and saying i want to put ATTENTION on you…pleaseee even if i’d want to nobody would give an old freak attention. Sadly You must have the same delusional ideas you have here in your real life, it would explain why you didn’t get far and you’re still here.🤣 good luck buddy we both know you need it 🥲

[spartan55]

Blah blah, you're still fucking yappin stfu... curiosity... riiight... your insult game sucks... you pink users all say the same shit... go kick rocks now.

[Claudia__97]

@spartan55 f*ck i enraged the delusional old grandpa 🤣🤣🤣 go ask your mama to stfu she might listen who knows. Take care buddy

[spartan55]

You didn't enrage anyone retard... grandpa...😂 😂 another original. Like I said, get on my level and learn how to ask a non-dipshit question. We can start tbefd

[Tommy789]

If I were You I would block him

[QuietVerbena]

He misses you

[Con29]

Block him