My guy and I have been together for 3.5 years, we live together, we're each other's beneficiaries financially, we are in each other's wills. We're not married, though I would love to be.
Recently, he was working in the yard and sat down for a break on the porch. Deciding to join, I opened the front door and he had his phone in his hands. I clearly saw a text message screen open. He panicked and swiped it away.
It bothered me, so I checked his messages. (He's repeated to me that I can always look at his phone, he has nothing to hide). Just a benign message to a male coworker. But why panic? I ended up asking him about it. He said he couldn't remember that happening, but I can always look at his phone or ask to see who he's texting.
A few days ago I ask him how his day and he says, "Weird", just really weird. I pressed a little and he would not elaborate. The next workday, I ask him how his day was and he tells me a little bit and says, "then I was arguing with... people" and then changes the subject. He would not elaborate on the argument.
The next day, I asked him a question and he had to open an app to look for the answer. I could not see his phone screen at all, and I watched as he clicked some buttons, hurriedly typed out a message with a weird look on his face (annoyed but also frustrated?). I didn't think much of it, until he finally looked up and showed me the screen to answer my question. He was showing me the screen but pulling it away over and over, like he was expecting a notification to pop up. But then he clicked the screen off and set it on the table, face up.
I checked his messages and no messages had been sent or received within that timeframe.
I ask he just says he doesn't remember that happening, that I can always look at his phone, or ask who he's texting. I feel like I'm being snowed here, he is communicating with SOMEONE that he doesn't want me to see for some reason and deleting the evidence right away. I don't know what to do.
